The tragedy of a person is not that he lost, but that he almost won.
No one knows when the opportunity will come, but when the opportunity suddenly comes, can you withstand the pressure and successfully demonstrate the strength you have accumulated in the past?
is normal or abnormal at critical moments, which is enough to make two people with the same talent go to different results, and it is also between the front lines that determines the difference between success and regret.
In 1980, a major league scout described a rising star in baseball this way: "He's a rare natural born, more like a superstar than a true superstar; It's hard to resist."
He's Billy. Billy Beane, 18 years old at the time, has the physique that scouts dream of, extraordinary athleticism, and perfect physical condition. He is omnipotent in hitting, hitting, defending, and hitting base; Players”, and can hit wonderful balls that other people can’t do in their entire lives. For those scouts who looked at Bean, they had no doubt witnessed the birth of a great player; and Bean himself, too, was convinced.
It's just that everything changed when Bean stepped into the major league game.
So, in April 1990, Bean finally stopped walking to the court. He took off his player uniform and became a scout for the Oakland Athletics, entering another phase of his life and opening the first chapter of the best-selling novel Moneyball. Can
show its due strength when facing pressure?
Next, another story.
In NBA standards, he is definitely not a good player in the "traditional designation". He's average in height, and his physique isn't outstanding, even though he had excellent stats in the NCAA. When
entered the 2010 NBA draft, he was "deliberately" ignored by scouts for his all-round and balanced performance. It was not until summer league that he was selected to join the Golden State Warriors and officially entered the NBA.
is just, in his days in the NBA, another phase of blow for him. After being released by the Warriors and the Houston Rockets, he finally got a contract with the New York Knicks.
However, in the process of leaving for New York, he did not intend to prepare too much, and even planned to live on his brother's sofa, because he himself was not sure how long he would stay in New York.
The troubles he has experienced, the outside world has always been vague and reluctant to talk about it, but he knew from the bottom of his heart: because he is Asian, no matter how many figures to prove it, others just don't believe he can play.
However, on February 4, 2012, that all changed in an instant.
In a game against the New Jersey Nets that day, the Knicks' main player was injured, leaving the head coach without a license to play, so he could only be assigned to substitute him, who was about to be released in three days.
It was his first chance to take control of the team in the regular season. Few people knew him. However, he scored a game-high 25 points and led the Knicks to beat the Nets.
From that day on, he became famous overnight. He used 36 minutes to prove himself, to prove the efforts of the past 10 years, and to prove that those prejudices and neglect were wrong; he used ****36**** minutes to show the world of football. He made the world's eyes never leave him.
He is Jeremy Lin, I believe you must have heard of him.
Billy. Bean and Jeremy Lin, the same excellent players, the same seriousness, the same ambition and self-improvement, but in exchange for completely opposite results.
z0When z talks about Bean, you will feel a pity. When it comes to Jeremy Lin, it is inspiring. What is the difference between them? Where did they start from, where did they go to different paths and meet different outcomes?At the most critical moment, Jeremy Lin faced pressure, responded calmly, and seized his only chance to survive in the NBA;
However, Bean allowed himself and the expectations of the outside world to destroy him. Always think too much, in the end, instead of changing the world, he let the world change him.
does not rely on luck or miracles, it is a psychological quality that has been exercised
Facing every critical moment in life, you and I may be Jeremy Lin or Bean. We all want to play our strengths and be successful in important moments such as exams, interviews, negotiations, and briefings.
However, we are also deeply afraid of the possibility of failure, because it means that all efforts and preparations will be in vain because of a momentary failure. "Is this the only way to live? "by Kenneth. Kenneth Christian (Kenneth Christian) said: "The tragedy of a man is not that he loses, but that he almost wins." Yes, reality won't necessarily give you another chance. The well-known actress Michelle Yeoh also said: "You can have a dream, but it's not enough. You have to be prepared and seize the opportunity as soon as it comes."
In the examples of Jeremy Lin and Bean, the key to whether you can seize the opportunity, It's how they behave in the face of stress: normal and abnormal. This is enough to make Jeremy Lin and Bean go to different results, and it also determines the difference between success and pity.
"Even in the face of pressure and competition, those who can still maximize their personal potential are the winners." The book "You Can Be More" clearly points out that under the conditions of equal talent and effort, the loser and the winner are the best The difference is that the winners can perform better than others under pressure and tension;
This is not luck, nor is it a miracle, it is purely that they have developed a strong psychological quality, so they can still perform under great pressure. usual strength and level.
In other words, the person who loses to the pressure at the critical moment can only get the result of "practice 100 points and play 50 points"; however, the winner who can resist the pressure will practice 100 points and the result will also be 100 points.
It's no wonder that the great American golf player in the 1960s Jack. Jack Nicklaus once lamented: "The most frustrating thing for most golfers is not their lack of talent, but their inability to consistently hit good shots." The ability to remain calm and calm in the face of danger is called Be Clutch in English, which is used to describe an athlete's ability to perform well under extreme pressure such as the NBA finals and the last hole of the golf tour.
In Japanese, this ability is called "benfanli", and it follows the meaning of the official appearance and official recording of movies and TV performances, and it is used on behalf of the official occasions that are related to success or failure. Affected by internal and external pressures, the ability to exert existing strength and not be abnormal.
Believes he will succeed, focuses on the action now
On March 22, 2012, Jeremy Lin assisted the team with 10 free throws in the final 10 minutes of the Knicks' game against the Philadelphia 76ers.
After the game, when talking about the "ten hits and ten hits" free throws, he described every second of his confrontation with pressure as follows: "Keep the shot rhythm, follow the ball feel, as long as you don't think too much, the hit rate will naturally improve.
World Golf Queen Zeng Yani also described her way of looking at the game and success or failure: "I never know how much the game earns, I just want to concentrate on playing every game well and make progress from it. ”
Tiger Woods) Even generously admitted that there is no other way to win, which is to simply "believe that you will win".
In the examples of Jeremy Lin, Yani Tseng, and Tiger Woods, we can see a clear trajectory fermented by "Benfanli" in them: Through a clear goal and a spirit of self-discipline, they know how to focus on the present and not be affected by success or failure;
and a belief in success allows them to stop self-doubt and prepare for it. What's more, they have accumulated 10,000 hours of practice and hard work before they officially played, and they have the ability to win without luck.
In fact, Benfan is not just an ability needed on the sports field, examination room, or stage. For managers, in the face of recent financial tsunami, European debt crisis and other shocks, every crisis moment is at stake for the survival of the company;
Every key decision determines the reputation of individuals, companies, and hundreds of , the future of thousands of employees. And it is also at this time that the ability to withstand pressure and psychological quality affects the ability of individuals to make calm judgments, because everyone does not want to fall here, and everyone hopes to reverse the situation and become famous.
"A person's success does not mean that he can perform well under pressure; however, those who can resist pressure must be successful." " by Paul. Sullivan (Paul Sullivan) said.
Opportunities are reserved for those who are ready, just like Jeremy Lin wouldn't know that February 4th is about to change his life, but because he is always ready for competition and pressure, he can seize the opportunity and turn everything around in one fell swoop.
It may be difficult for us to become Jeremy Lin, but we can start to prepare for the future, no more abnormal, no more protruding hammer, no longer fall short.
At critical moments, we are no longer the ones who are changed by the world, but the ones who change the world.