Guan Xiaotong is a 95 flower that the outside world is very optimistic about. In addition to its beautiful appearance, it is also very malleable.
This year's " Twenty Do Not Confused 2" starring her even surpassed the previous work, and Douban received a high score of 8.3.
As a loyal audience of the last season, Uncle Youzi also finished "Twenty Do Not Confused 2". Liang Shuang, played by
Guan Xiaotong, has a bumpy emotional road, which makes me very emotional.
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Guan Xiaotong "breaks up"
Mountain bird and fish end in different ways
In the first season of "Twenty Not Confused", Liang Shuang met the scumbag Chen Zhuo.
On the premise that he already has an engagement partner, he also discussed marriage with Liang Shuang.
Liang Shuang encountered "being a mistress" and ended the relationship very disturbingly.
Fortunately, Liang Shuang met Zhao Youwei, a humanities photographer at work.
Although he is poor and has strong self-esteem, everything centers on Liang Shuang and treats Liang Shuang wholeheartedly. In order to help Liang Shuang,
gave up attending the award ceremony, and even turned down the signing of a well-known magazine.
The two have gone through a lot of ups and downs, and finally came together. I didn't expect to be BE in the second season.
In the second season, Liang Shuang's career is booming, and he is already an upper-middle-level anchor.
Liang Shuang wanted to succeed too much, so many years of obscurity made her desperate to seize this opportunity.
In order to maintain her popularity, she turns day and night upside down and is on call 24 hours a day.
The rest time is severely squeezed, and the body and mind are under enormous pressure.
Zhao Youwei has been silently supporting Liang Shuang, cheering for her and encouraging her.
He understands her ideals and her persistence, so he chooses to sacrifice himself again and again.
His father had major surgery, Liang Shuang was busy with work, and Zhao Youwei chose to remain silent.
On the third anniversary date, Liang Shuang is busy with work, and Zhao Youwei eats alone.
In the repeated missed appointments and contact, Zhao Youwei understood:
In Liang Shuang's heart, work is always more important than him.
Before breaking up, the two were sitting on the beach, Zhao Weiwei imagined taking Liang Shuang to Antarctica for their honeymoon.
But Liang Shuang said that he is more eager to make more money and buy a bigger house.
Zhao Weiwei once again realized that he and Liang Shuang's life goals are completely inconsistent, and the two are simply not suitable.
One is a bunny who is struggling to run, and the other is a tortoise who walks through life.
They like each other and can even understand each other, but the tortoise can never catch up with the hare, and the hare is not willing to stop and wait for the tortoise.
is as the so-called "mountain bird and fish are different", and a peaceful breakup is indeed the best ending for them.
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No matter how beautiful the love,
is no match for the "soul out of touch"
When I saw Zhao Youwei and Liang Shuang finally hugging each other and saying goodbye at the airport, I wept.
I remembered that there was such a person in my youth, I loved deeply, but there was no result. In the
movie "Tokyo Love Story", Akane Lixiang has a line that says:
"The so-called love, as long as you participate, it has meaning.
Even if there is no ending, the moment people fall in love, that feeling will stay forever. "
The beauty of regret will always be hidden in my heart.
I asked myself, if Liang Shuang worked hard to save it, would the ending change? The answer of
is actually no. A blank piece of paper, I just want to make a name for myself and make a living.
When the career has a vision, the dream becomes clear, and the two souls who lack communication gradually become disconnected. There seems to be room for redemption, but in fact it is an inevitable result. The story of Liang Shuang and Zhao Youwei reminds me of the movie "Love Like a Bouquet". The hero and heroine in the movie have similar clothing tastes, similar literary and artistic preferences, and even the way of thinking about problems. Very similar.
But when they came together naturally, everything changed.
Boy from an ordinary family, in order to make a living, he gave up his dream of being a cartoonist and found a high-paying but stressful sales job.
Girl Born in the middle class, I don't pursue material life, I do a leisurely job, and I still live a day of reading books and watching exhibitions every day.
Just like this, the pace of the two people who used to be 100% in harmony has gradually become out of line.
Girls focus on what they used to be together Favorite books, but boys are addicted to " successfully learn ".
girls invite boys to watch movies they once loved together, but boys are sleepy.
One values hobbies and enjoys life, the other values material things and succumbs to reality.
Just like Liang Shuang and Zhao Youwei, the two people who once worked together again, once the soul is out of touch, it will be difficult to return to the past. Years, there are pains and imbalances, but more of them are beautiful. They accompany each other, are attached to each other, and have been integrated into each other's lives. They still love each other deeply until they broke up. I think for Liang Shuang, This breakup is ten times, a hundred times more painful than the previous experience of "being a mistress".
because The most painful thing is not that the lover changes his heart, but that he clearly loves each other, but he can't go to the end. The most regrettable thing about
is not that you can't love it, but that there is a possibility of saving, but the opportunity is missed.
If there is active communication and reasonable adjustment in the early stage of the problem, the ending is likely to be rewritten.
writer Zi Xin once said:
"Everyone will have emotional needs for their lover. If they don't get response and comfort, the intimate relationship will be alienated." Take care of yourself by your side, and hope that the other party will be patient and comforted, give hugs, etc. when you are wronged.
may seem like a small need, but it is an extremely important connection in an intimate relationship.
If your partner always misses appointments, he's absent when you need him the most.
Over time, the attachment is no longer, and the disappointment accumulates into despair.
Feng Shaofeng and Zhao Liying once said in a variety show before their divorce:
Zhao Liying's independent personality,She did not understand, and did not want to understand Feng Shaofeng's vulnerability that was only shown to her.
is a strong woman who dares to go out and fight, and regards family as a harbor for occasional docking;
Disconnected soul, unbalanced emotional needs, contradictory life goals, and finally broke up.
What does a long-term and stable intimate relationship depend on?
is the right match? Is it patience? Still talking about nothing?
I think the model couple in the entertainment industry Deng Chao Sun Li can provide us with a model.
Two once independent individuals whose lifestyles cannot be completely synchronized.
Even if they are like-minded, there will be many contradictions and conflicts.
But because of love, Deng Chao is willing to move to Shanghai, give up heavy tastes and change his schedule...
And Sun Li is willing to take a plane to help Deng Chao organize his luggage and spoil him as a "giant baby". The reason why
made them willing to change is that everything is equal.
After having a child, Sun Li only takes on one movie a year. When she was filming, Deng Chao took care of the child at home. The two
are like badminton doubles players. I am missing you to make up for it, and you are missing me to make up for it, so that there will be no loopholes in the family.
Over the years, the works of the two of them are very high-quality, and their feelings are even fresher with time.
Yang Lan said:
"The most tenacious bond in marriage is not children, not money, but spiritual growth together."
This kind of growth is not only the improvement of personal ability, but also change and communication.
is like a company, in order to achieve better performance, it must go through quarrels, compromises, failures, restarts and other difficulties.
But the important thing is that you have the same goal, step in step, and support each other so that no one is left behind.
Constant communication and running-in, hand in hand, is the biggest happiness password between lovers.
