just finished the "cool" drama " Their Names " during the 11th holiday when I can't go out of Beijing. Why does it feel so cool? First, has a positive view, and secondly, it is unexpected.
The three views are very positive, first of all, the concept of marriage.
The choice of marriage means that they must abide by the Marriage Law. and physical infidelity, causing material and spiritual harm to the woman in the family.
is actually vague and exaggerated in many modern dramas, but the "extramarital affair" mentioned many times in this drama, the screenwriter expresses his views very clearly through the protagonist, such as Ren Duo Mei is very rational in the whole process of dealing with the ambiguity between her husband and her junior sister.
first showed his trust. When there were some signs, he didn't roll around and cry, but hinted that his husband should pay attention to his married status. As a result, his junior rank was very high and he insisted on pursuing love. How beautiful is still decent enough. Maintain grace and claim sovereignty. How beautiful the sentence "I am allergic to dog hair, but I am not afraid of dogs", I am not afraid of you if you are hard;
The third step is to confirm whether the marriage is worth continuing, even if you cheat, even if you are betrayed but whether you forgive or not, everyone will be happy together , At this point, not every family, everyone's answer is the same, Duomei chose to continue the marriage.
Marriage is a complex social behavior, far more than the spiritual level of "love", the physical "sex", and can not only judge the direction of marriage by one or two criteria, More depends on the future for ourselves Talk about what you really want in life.
The three views are very positive, followed by girlfriends can also be very iron
This era has been advocating that we should "hold a group for warmth", in fact, as a woman, this is even more true. A prerequisite for hard work is the need to establish a strong "social support system" ".
After reading Workface's "Three Talks on Communities", I sincerely felt that it would be great if there was a community behind every woman in this society. In fact, for women, many names have been posted, so As the show said, we were posted as "filial and obedient daughter", "a mother who is just a mother", "a warm, emotionally intelligent working woman", "a gentle and considerate wife who earns a lot of money". I feel tired just looking at the name.
said, "I can't do it!" But who can tell this sentence, many women can only say it silently in their hearts, they are too lonely. If you are fortunate enough to meet like-minded friends, especially female friends, it is possible to empathize and sympathize with each other because of the common label.
But often many dramas exaggerate this kind of girlfriend love into "plastic girlfriend love" and become a time bomb in each other's lives, but in this drama, even if Duomi is the ex-girlfriend of Jia Nan's boyfriend, it has no effect. In fact, a very important point in their career cooperation and girlfriend friendship is the "sense of boundaries". This is indeed the art of getting along with others. Each of us needs to perceive our own "safe boundaries" and our own roles.
Jia Nan was looking for a mistress for his mother just to see what the mistress looked like. When he told Lei Li about this, Lei Li asked a question: After you see the mistress, what then? This question was asked of Jia Nan. Obviously, Jia Nan has interfered with the emotional boundaries of his parents and robbed his mother of the right to choose.
The three views are very positive. Finally, there are "hidden rules" in the workplace.
There are indeed "hidden rules" in the workplace. This unspoken rule cannot be written down in black and white, as if the evolution of our creatures would not exist without Darwin 's "survival of the fittest" Well, all existences in this world grow out of an underlying logic. The unspoken rule of
's workplace is the underlying business logic, but everyone's understanding of the underlying business logic is different. Even if the understanding is correct, the behavior may not be consistent. What impressed me most was that Lei Li’s ex-boyfriend finally abandoned her and chose a rich lady with a lot of money, but after the final cleanup, her colleagues asked her if she was happy. Lei Li said: actually chose this path from the beginning. Just know that he chose the worst path, giving up his most precious self-esteem, but divorce gave him a new life. This sentence of makes me think about Lei LiWith a new understanding of this role, he can indeed be a vice president. Those who have worked hard for 20 years in a company must be people with a great structure, and those with high standing have the opportunity to see the underlying logic of business.
And most of us will be deeply involved in the details of the workplace, the gain and loss of orders, and ignore the operating rules behind it. In the end of the play, Lei Li still returns to the company and continues to strategize, because in the end, only she is the one who really understands the underlying logic. Humans, what is the underlying logic? In fact, it is not that mysterious. It is nothing more than "altruism without self", "problem is opportunity" and so on.
Surprising heroine characters
The three protagonists no longer have a halo, and they don't have good characters when they appear. The elite in the workplace - Lei Li was mistaken by the customer as a junior when he appeared on the stage. Settling accounts; beautiful housewife - Ren Duomei faced her mother-in-law's critical contempt when she appeared, and the only thing she could do was to endure it; and the appearance of the rich second-generation Shen Jianan made people complain that their IQ was offline, and inexplicably went to track The mistress of the father that I think is my father, participated in the interview for this purpose.
's seemingly absurd opening really makes "older female elite in the workplace", "full-time housewife", "rich second generation" and other labels tore apart the unanimous prejudice of the public:
The older female elite in the workplace should be "the devil" ", "high heels", "genderless", "insensitivity", they compete with men, create value for society, and are pushed to the top of society, but their emotional life is criticized, discriminated against, and more direct One point is that this society does not arrange a group of the opposite sex that matches this group. The vast majority of outstanding men of the same age already have families. Men who are too old will be considered as a combination of commercial interests, and siblings who are too young are considered to be old cows eating grass. It is not easy for this group to find true love.
A full-time housewife should be surrounded by pots and pans every day, and go to various classes with children, flat shoes, no makeup, they have no self, all work is considered as it should be, palm up and ask her husband for living expenses, this is the society the bottom layer.
The rich second generation should be born with a golden key and highly educated. (Sorry, there is really no rich second generation around, I can't see the consensus of the public, haha)
's follow-up screenwriter gradually unfolded the past of the three heroines. A moment is their best choice, maybe as an audience watching this episode, they will feel disgusted and disgusted with this character, but when they continue to chase, they will see the rationality behind each behavior. For example, Duomei asked her husband for salary before getting married, for example, why Lei Li was always mistaken for a mistress, for example, why Jianan was obsessed with finding her father’s mistress, we will see that if we are in the heroine’s life, we are bound to make Also have to choose.
This reminds me that when a certain celebrity divorced, cheated, or even committed a crime on the Internet, it will cause public anger, the heat wave of "no longer believe in love", indeed, if we always present our best When people are set up for others and do not truly be themselves, no one can understand our choices, and every behavior and result is traceable. "Personal design" is like a lovable set, satisfying others and wronging themselves.
In this show, I see that the female group is becoming more and more true to themselves. Duomei's husband, mother-in-law hopes that his wife and daughter-in-law are beautiful, considerate, obedient, and gentle, so that Duomei did not dare to eat junk food, spicy food, and dirty stalls in the early stage. When she dared to challenge the character with the encouragement of her girlfriends, her inner strength came out. Yes, can only stimulate its inner strength by being true to itself, and truth itself is the acceptance of its own inadequacies.
Women are not only emotional, they can also be "calm, rational, responsible and just"
What impressed me was that the three heroines went to the cemetery to visit President Liu, who was killed by domestic violence, and met the villainous Liu Yuan The long husband, they actually want to show their fists and beat this scumbag, but none of the three of them have it. There is no need to catch up with the "garbage people" who have distorted views; Calm, rational, and there is no unbearable "tear" scene. Especially Lei Li, in every unfavorable and provocative scene, alwaysIt is able to calm down and turn a crisis into a turning point. What I see behind this is a kind of "extraction of wisdom", quickly extracting one's emotions and thinking about the best action strategy for oneself, which is also one of the "cool points" of this drama. Wow!
Of course, there will be some contrasts or unclear logic in this drama. If you are interested, you can continue to follow it. Chasing dramas has always been one of my hobbies. Every time I watch it, I will get some new thoughts. After writing it down, there will be some new harvests. Writing can sublime thinking, if you don't believe it, you can try it!
(This article only represents the words of the author's family, don't spray if you don't like it!)
