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I believe that everyone who has watched " Zhen Huan Biography " does not like An Lingrong very much, because she is too sinister and vicious, she has done a lot of wrong things and killed a lot of people.
I don't like this woman either, but not just because she's bad, but because she's so depressing and uncomfortable.
Because of family reasons, An Lingrong always hoped to get ahead, but the reality made her understand that she would never have any chance to compete with those concubines who had good looks and families.
Therefore, she always hoped that she could rely on someone, Zhen Huan failed to find the queen, and eventually became a chess piece that harmed others, and also killed herself.
And the reason why An Lingrong had a tragic ending was not only because of bad luck, but mainly because An Lingrong had low self-esteem and low self-esteem, which made her lose the ability to give herself happiness, but this ability is precisely a The ability of a woman to settle down.
Zhen Huan has such an ability. In the years when he was not favored by the emperor, he just found fun by himself, cut window grilles with the palace maids and eunuchs, went to Yimei Garden to make a wish, went on a swing with Liuzhu , and held a banquet in the palace. When drinking, go to play with water and enjoy flowers...
, she understands her situation and knows that in this complicated world, she must learn to live for herself, so she enjoys the happiness of the moment, no matter what What this happiness looks like to others.
I think that if An Lingrong can do the same, he may live a peaceful life, whether it is like Jingfei or Libi, at least it will be better than her ending.
Of course, having the ability to make oneself happy is not an easy thing. It requires both the nourishment of the original family and the hard work of one's own.
hopes that every woman can understand these truths, and through these methods, let herself have this ability, give herself happiness, and make herself happy.
Cultivate your own hobbies
A person with a wide range of interests will naturally have a little more happiness in life, because she has spiritual sustenance and knows what to do.
is like Zhen Huan. She likes to play the piano and read books. She will do these things in her spare time to pass the time, which will also fill her heart.
But for An Lingrong, although she likes to sing, she doesn't really regard singing as a hobby, but desperately thinks about how to make good use of her strengths to win favor, so she can't get happiness from it.
This also tells us that only by developing real hobbies and hobbies can you get happiness from them, and with less utilitarian heart, you can feel happiness.
In reality, many people have hobbies and hobbies, but most of them, like An Lingrong, work hard with utilitarian intentions, and feel guilty if they relax a little, so they feel pain.
There are some people around me who study because they like to learn, they will not feel that learning is painful, and there are many people around me who dance, practice calligraphy, and play the piano because of their love, and they will not feel bored.
In this complex world, it is easy to lose ourselves if we cannot maintain a pure heart. Learn to stick to a thing you like very much and find fun in it, this is what a smart woman should do.
The ultimate purpose of doing all these things is to give oneself the ability to control desires and ambitions, establish an inner order for oneself, and never become An Lingrong in reality, harming others and harming oneself.
has the ability to love yourself
from Zhen HuanWe can see from his personality that the Zhen family has a very good tutor and a very loving environment. But from An Lingrong's character, we can also see how much harm a loveless family can do to children.
People who have not been loved well since childhood are especially eager to be loved, but the more they want to ask for love, the easier it is to get it. An Lingrong is a typical example.
, because he has not been loved by his parents, because he has been living a very depressing life, so he wants to stand out, even if he does some bad things.
turned out to be too hard, revealing too much sense of need, not only did not get love, but even less cherished.
Of course, we have no choice as to how the original family is, but this must not be the reason why we give up our efforts. If An Lingrong can correct his mentality and don't complain about why he has so little, he might get a good result.
In the final analysis, it is to learn to be satisfied, not to force anyone, let alone yourself. If the original family does not give you enough love, then try to love yourself, and try your best to find and feel the happiness in life no matter if you can meet someone who will spend your life with you.
is like Zhen Huan in Lingyun Peak, even if she is so down, even if she has been bullied so much, she can still live out her spirit. This is the ability of a strong woman.
So, I hope every woman can have the ability to make herself happy, don't expect others. That way, you won't be disappointed and you won't get hurt.
Efforts to improve yourself
Regardless of whether you are in a high position or a position, if you don't give up on improving yourself, it is a powerful weapon that a person can protect and provide himself with happiness.
Zhen Huan's success stems from her ability, which is beyond doubt, and An Lingrong's tragic ending also lies in her lack of ability but insisting on getting things that don't belong to her.
When a person sets too high a goal for himself, he will lose the motivation to work hard, because you will feel that no matter how hard you try, you will not be able to achieve the goal, so it is better to give up or take some shortcuts.
But there are no shortcuts in life, how can people who desperately want to get something be willing to give up?
An Lingrong walked into a dead end in such a tangle, and completely lost his ability to be happy. In reality, we must not do this.
You should have goals, but they should not be too high. Work hard to improve yourself, accumulate yourself in the process of achieving small goals, and gain a sense of satisfaction and happiness. This is the best look in life.
An Lingrong is a tragic figure. Although she is not worthy of sympathy, you can still learn something from her.
Women, you must learn to give yourself a sense of security, and you must learn to give yourself happiness, don't stop at the same place, blindly internal friction, and let yourself go to destruction in despair.
You have to know that in this world, we can only rely on ourselves, and whether we are happy or not is only related to ourselves. It is naturally the best to get what we want, and we don't need to worry too much if we don't get it.
Work hard with a peaceful mind, work hard with optimism and positivity, every woman will have her own happiness, no matter what it looks like in the eyes of others, as long as it can fill your heart, it is enough.
It's okay to have some fun for yourself, be a strong woman, let's do it together.
I'm Xi Yan, a columnist, an older girl who is neither old nor old. I like to write warm words and do emotional shows. I have published "The rest of your life is about me". If you have a story, remember to come to me .
