Hua Fei once said something like this in front of Cao Guiren :
There are no sisters in the harem, today they are sisters, tomorrow they are enemies, with smiling faces in front of them and knives behind them.
Concubine Hua's words are of course true, but not the whole truth.
Concubine Hua recognizes this kind of interpersonal relationship, which causes her to have no sincerity with the people in the harem, and she uses all means to convince the people around her.
So after Gengyao's defeat, many people in the palace betrayed her, which shows how bad her interpersonal relationship is.
Zhen Huan is very different from her when it comes to dealing with people. Although she has also established many enemies in the harem, her interpersonal relationship is still very good overall.
Up to the empress dowager is full of praise for her, concubines at the same level also agree with her, and the palace maids and eunuchs below are even more determined to her.
can be recognized, respected and followed by so many people, she must be proud of her. I took a closer look. In fact, Zhen Huan's way of convincing people is not difficult. The method is still very simple and easy to learn.
Today, let's learn how Zhen Huan is recognized by so many people.
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does not violate the leadership
Zhen Huan just entered the palace, except the emperor likes her, the queen mother is not so friendly to her, because her face looks too much like pure yuan queen . Therefore, even if she was favored later, the emperor introduced her to the empress dowager, but the empress dowager still refused to meet and insisted that she be concubine goodbye.
Later, Zhen Huan returned to the palace from outside the palace. Although the queen mother was kind to her because of her pregnancy, she was worried about her after all.
Zhen Huan didn't get the favor of the queen mother because she was afraid that Zhen Huan would charm the emperor and become a first-class person.
Zhen Huan knows this too, but suffers from having no chance to express herself.
opportunity soon came, Qi Concubine fake nightmare to compete for favor, the next day she decisively gave her a pot of brown rice water to drink, to put an end to such things as jealousy in the harem.
This is an attitude that Zhen Huan gave to the queen mother. She is not a woman who charms the king, and if such a phenomenon occurs in the harem, she will punish such people.
This wave of operations is indeed very useful, and the Queen Mother has completely changed Zhen Huan.
know what kind of person the leader likes, and then find the opportunity to show that he is this kind of person. This is why Zhen Huan is favored by the Queen Mother.
This is not flattering, because Zhen Huan has always been herself and never forgot her goals.
And Concubine Hua never bothered to do such a thing. She thought that as long as the Nian family was still used heavily, how could the Queen Mother and the emperor give her a little bit of sympathy? She didn't need to learn how Zhen Huan was liked by the leaders.
So many times she offended the emperor without knowing it.
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shared interests with concubines of the same level
After Zhen Huan returned to the palace, as her biological daughter, Haoyue should return to live in her palace.
Jingfei understands in his heart, but emotionally he is not willing to do it.
Therefore, she confided to the queen that Jinxi and Su Peisheng were eating each other, hoping that Zhen Huan would not be able to take Longyue away because of the influence.
Concubine Jing's operation is actually a bit of a villain. If you change someone else's temperament, you will definitely break with Concubine Jing. But Zhen Huan did not blame Concubine Jing, but as she wished, she directly handed over the moon to Concubine Jing to raise her.
Does it hurt Zhen Huan to make this choice? She was also uncomfortable, but after weighing the pros and cons, she chose to give in.
made concessions to Zhen Huan, and Concubine Jing was ashamed and respected, and she became Zhen Huan's true ally from then on. Later, when Zhen Huan overthrew the queen, Concubine Jing played a big role.
pulled the sober concubine Jing into her camp, Zhen Huan only did one thing, that is to fulfill the other side and make the interests of the two closely linked.
Concubine Hua goes against this point. In order to compete for favor, Cao Guiren's daughter was taken away, and Wenyi Princess had a bad stomach to frame Zhen Huan. Cao Guiren hated her and was helpless.
Later Nianjia fell, Cao Guiren immediately betrayed Concubine Hua, making her demoted from the concubine position to a promise.
Zhen Huan used interests to bind and form alliances and gained allies, while Concubine Hua used other people's interests to gain benefits for herself, but was betrayed by allies.
Therefore, if you want to get help from others in life, you only need to tie the interests of the two people closely. Never use others as your stepping stone to gain benefits, and you will only be backlashed in the end.
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9zlooked for an opportunity to help her subordinates in the snow
When Zhen Huan first entered the palace, she pretended to be sick and avoided her pet for a long time. As a result, many eunuchs and court ladies found a way out and were unwilling to stay with a young master like her.
In addition to the two palace maids, in the end there is only one eunuch named Xiao Yunzi swears to stay to take care of Zhen Huan and follow Zhen Huan.
He did the same later, no matter what situation Zhen Huan was in, he never betrayed Zhen Huan.
only because Zhen Huan not only granted him leave to take care of his brother when Xiao Yunzi's brother was sick, but also asked Wen Shichu to help him see a doctor until he recovered.
Zhen Huan herself had forgotten about this. Because whether it was a grant of leave or Towen Shichu, it was just a sentence for her, and there was nothing to remember.
But in Xiao Yunzi's view, it has a different meaning. Zhen Huan's care and help made him warm, and the icing on the cake is not easy for people to remember, but the meaning of giving charcoal in the snow must be remembered, not to mention the life-saving grace, so Xiao Yunzi later Zhen Huan really gave up.
Zhen Huan took over Xiao Yunzi just by stepping on an opportunity to help her subordinates when they needed them most, and then forget about it.
Why do you want to forget? In terms of human nature, no one likes to be bound by kindness. The more you talk about kindness, the easier it is to be blamed.
make an analogy to make it clear. Suppose we accept the help of others, and the person keeps talking about helping himself all day long, repeating:
You have to remember that you are today thanks to how I helped you in the first place...
Well, you are grateful Does he still hate him?
I believe that most people will say thankful words on the surface, but they hate the other party's constant reminder of their downfall.
On the other hand, if the other party helped you but never cared about it, it is estimated that few people will not remember this kindness. After all, most people still want to be a kind and righteous person.
For this, Hua Fei did a very bad job.
Every time Cao Guiren couldn't help her, she kept reminding the other party how she helped her in the first place, and made Cao Guiren shameless in front of the palace maids, so Cao Guiren didn't show any kindness to Concubine Hua. full of hatred.
Now I like to watch " Zhen Huan Zhuan " more and more, because every character has something that I think is worth learning. Especially Zhen Huan, she has too many advantages, just getting along with different people is worth learning.
After all, her interpersonal studies are still worth learning from, and it is more suitable for ordinary people to operate.
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