Special contributor to Glacier Think Tank丨Li Zhongke
's daughter in junior high school also knows that the new movie " Hidden into the Dust " has recently become popular. But after watching it with me for a few minutes, she had no interest and left lazily.
I sat there quietly, not in a hurry or slow, watching calmly, until I read the final subtitle patch - "In the winter of 2011, with the help of the government and enthusiastic villagers, the old four horses Youtie moved in. New home, new life."
I have no way to rate this film as "good" or "bad".
Over the years, in addition to all kinds of exaggeration, nonsense, and unreasonable words that have filled the theater, suddenly such a bland as water, people may come back to their senses and find that in our traditional and ancient land, the humble people have to A little love story is actually quite difficult.
and more humble life, I am afraid that even the taste of love, can not smell the slightest breath. If you don't believe it, just look at the tens of millions of men who can't find wives, and you'll understand everything.
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In traditional Chinese society, there are almost only women who are unwilling to marry, and almost no men who are unwilling to marry. Therefore, bachelors refer to men. In my hometown, bachelors are called "Doubangzi", which should be more intuitive and appropriate than "bachelors". The population ratio of
is generally more men than women, resulting in some men unable to marry wives. But specific to each bachelor, the situation is very different.
Ma Youtie, who has not been married until the age of 40, has no choice but to be a bachelor for the rest of her life if she doesn't encounter Cao Guiying, who is ill and despised everywhere.
▲ Stills of "Hidden in the Dust" (Picture/Internet)
Ma Youtie, a specific bachelor, why can't he marry a wife? One is honest and honest, dull and dull; the other is poverty. The former often leads directly to the latter.
The pervasive poverty in rural areas makes the competition for resources more intense. The "honest, honest, dull" character often makes people like Ma Youtie at a disadvantage in competition for resources, including pleasing women. Ma Youtie seems to be illiterate, which makes "honest and honest, dull and dull" a fatal flaw.
There are about nine bachelors over the age of 40 in our village (nearly 200 people in the natural village).
During their bachelor years, most of them had women like Cao Guiying who were introduced to be wives. But often when they get along (cohabitation) for a period of time, the woman can't stand their "honest and honest, dull and dull", and when there is a better opportunity, she will not turn back and run away.
"Honest and honest, dull and dull" is sometimes a lack of IQ and EQ, and sometimes a personality defect. It is mostly the former that causes marriage to fail. For example, the bachelors in our village, except three people, are illiterate.
▲ Stills of "Hidden in the Dust" (Picture/Internet)
Being illiterate does not mean that there is no chance of literacy. They also went to school, but the short time was only three or five days, and the long time was half a year.
They are like horses with iron, they dare not go to places like Foshan and Shenzhen, they can only work nearby or do farm work at home. they themselvesI can't figure out my salary, if my family didn't come forward to help with the bill, I would most likely be fooled by the boss. If their "girlfriend" meets another man who can calculate the salary, he will immediately flinch.
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Several bachelors in our village, although "honest, honest and dull", have the strength that ordinary people don't have. At least in their young and middle-aged years, they are basically not sick. Therefore, many people hire them to work. Even if no one is employed, simple tools can be used to make money by digging river sand and stones on the beach.
Bachelor A, the oldest bachelor I have ever seen. He was rather dull, and hardly anyone had ever heard him say a complete sentence; even if he spoke continuously, it was slurred. A has been working in farming all his life, and has been living with his younger brother's family, contributing a lot to the family. The younger brother's family also treated him well, and supported him until he died.
Bachelor B and C are two brothers. The two brothers have a deaf and mute brother who died unexpectedly more than 30 years ago. Even if they are alive, most of them will be bachelors all their lives.
▲ Stills of "Hidden in the Dust" (Picture/Internet)
The three brothers are half-brothers. Before liberation, his father lived as a soldier of the Kuomintang when he was young. The method is to take the initiative to apply, get a large sum of money, wait for the troops to move to a distance, then try to escape home, and wait for the next active application, and so on. The brothers
are not at all as "witty and flexible" as their father, but have lower intelligence, illiterate, honest and hardworking. However, there is no shortage of employers.
Bachelor Ding, his grandfather was a powerless landlord, his father's generation, the family was in ruins, Ding's mother brought in the sickness of sloppy and leprosy, as a result Ding and his brother were both infected when they were children. When the weather is hot, the affected area is full of pus and water, and there are always many flies flying on the head, which makes people sick.
suffered from no money for medical treatment, so his father used local methods to force the two brothers to scrub their heads with a brush, and then smeared lime. Fortunately, they were cured, and both of them grew full of black hair.
But it may damage the intelligence, the elder brother is lucky to marry a wife and have children, the younger brother Ding is left unchecked, develops all kinds of bad habits, coupled with limited intelligence, ridiculous words and deeds, it is impossible to marry a wife.
Bachelor Wu, graduated from elementary school, with a thin and short stature, and developed the habit of eating and being lazy since childhood. He did nothing, and made a living by doing odd jobs. No sound woman dared to marry, and he was unwilling to marry a defective woman. With age, marriage matters, no one cares.
Bachelor Ji and Geng are two of the six brothers and sisters. They are the eldest and the fifth. They are all typical "honest, honest, dull", illiterate, ignorant, brute force, quite Well received by employers.
There is another brother between Ji and Geng. Like them, he is illiterate and illiterate. He also conforms to the characteristics of "honest, honest, and dull", but by chance, he has mastered the skill of driving a walk-behind tractor and can run around the surrounding area. Short-distance transport, quite able to make money, he married a wife because of this. In particular, the wife is in good health, and the education level has reached the level of high school and high school, and can help children in junior high school English.
▲ Stills of "Hidden in the Dust" (Picture/Internet)
said that no one would believe that their father was very shrewd, able to speak well, and to calculate very well. The mother is the daughter of the landlord's family, and she is diligent and thrifty. Unfortunately, he gave birth to three sons with poor intelligence.
Bachelor Xin, when he was a child, he went up to the tree to dig out the bird's nest, accidentally fell from the tree and broke his spine, Because his father was too strict and dared not tell him, he was disabled for life and became a hunchback. Fortunately, it did not affect his life and work. Although he later learned a craft, the woman he introduced was either disabled or stupid, and would become a burden, so he made up his mind not to marry for the rest of his life.
Bachelor Ren, who has passed away for many years, is remembered because he was the first person in our village to take the college entrance examination. When Ren was young, he went to an agricultural high school, a two-year system. In turbulent times, there was actually nothing to learn. It happened that resumed the college entrance examination . For a few minutes, he became the object of ridicule of the villagers.
is probably too divided between ideal and reality, which makes Ren's spirit somewhat abnormal, and the matter of marrying a wife is delayed. Later, he was seriously ill and had no money for treatment, so he returned to Daoshan early.
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So you see, you can seamlessly switch between literary works like "Hidden in the Dust" and the reality I have seen. Nine bachelors in our village, if they marry a wife, they are Ma Youtie; if they cannot marry a wife, they are "Xiao Wu", "Mr. Tree", or even worse.
Even in rural society, they are marginalized and the most likely to be "turned a blind eye, heard and not heard". They are not regarded by rural society, let alone by "mainstream public opinion". The films with their themes are called "artistic films", which means that their stories have little commercial value.
But they are a huge group that can't be avoided. In terms of numbers alone, there are more than 30 million. It should be noted that with a population of 30 million, it is already qualified to be ranked in the top 50 population in the world. Isn't this a social issue worthy of attention?
So, how to pay attention to this social problem?
First of all, this is an inexorable reality.
For the nine bachelors in our village, even if there is no imbalance between men and women, or even more women than men, it is difficult for them to marry a wife, but it cannot be said that they should not have a "happy bachelor" life. Because, single or not is a choice of whether you are in love or not. If you can't find the right person, it's not a big deal to be a bachelor all your life.
Secondly, let's think about it, what kind of help can society provide to their single life when they can't get a wife with all their energy?
Like seeing a doctor? Like retirement? Beyond that, what else can society do?
After all, we are a society of "people".
