disappeared, the finale of the popular "Stars and Han Splendid" came to an end.
Cheng Shaoshang, the girl covered in scars, finally had a good ending.
As for me in front of the screen, after watching the whole drama, I have a different feeling in my heart-about my mother, Xiao Yuanyi.
The story of the young businessman and his mother came to an end. Aside from the aura of the protagonist and the characters, this is just a life of love and hate for an ordinary mother and daughter.
is like every ordinary you and me. It seems that no matter how hard you try, you can't escape the cycle of love, hurt, regret, and finally nostalgia with your mother.
So when I looked at the grandmother on the screen, I seemed to see every mother who loved but could not learn how to love, and every child who was hurt.
has to say that my mother is undoubtedly an image that can connect with many "problem families" today.
This is also why the image of Grandma has made so many people take on the role and resonate.
Everyone's love and hate towards Grandma is actually due to the reflection of some unfortunate encounters in their own family experiences. In what ways does grandma
correspond to the parental image in reality?
1. Poor disclosure
Zeng Li, 's grandmother, is a heroine who has fought with her husband for many years, and that's why she had to leave her curls behind and be alone.
The hunting wind and sand on the battlefield engraved that kind of fierce beauty into the bones of my mother, and she immediately lowered her eyes and glanced at it, which was enough to make people appreciate the sassy and heroic appearance of the spear and horse.
But such a near-perfect person may not necessarily be a perfect mother.
Like many parents, she is reserved, restrained, and even pretends to be nonchalant and doesn't care very much. She is always bad at expressing her worries and cares.
The first time she stepped into the house, she was looking for the curl that was in her heart, and her eyes were even red when she first saw him. She would hide in the carriage and watch him leave... But she never let curl know.
She even refuses to admit she cares when seen through.
Even before the imprisoned disaster, she wanted so much to protect the curl and want her to live well, but her way was a slap in the face.
Yes, sometimes the other way to love is to push away.
may be able to see the good intentions of the mother, but if you want to say that it is not sad at all, it must be false.
is like we clearly understand the duplicity of our parents and understand their hardships, but we are still hurt by the sharp words and the demeanor that seems to be indifferent.
And in "The Star is Splendid", it is precisely because of poor expression that my mother is always entangled and hesitant, while curling is always disappointed and painful.
can see that there is nothing wrong with being implicit, but it is not applicable everywhere. In order to understand each other among the
family members, they still need to be open and frank and bold.
Love can of course be silent giving, but it must not be kept secret.
Love is hidden in the heart, and a beautiful expression is the carrier of love.
2. Strictly scolding
"Hope your son will become a dragon, and your daughter will become a phoenix" is the expectation of almost all parents for their children, just like the love of parents for their children is equal no matter whether they are rich or poor.
But with expectations, there are bound to be extremes. In the
drama, my mother finally returned home after a long absence. Of course, she was looking forward to a well-behaved and lovely baby girl.
So when she sees the crazy idea, her first reaction is displeasure. In order to get rid of her daughter's bad habits,
scolds, belittles, and treats her coldly. It can be said that she poured a basin of cold water on curl.
curled up thinking that all the hardships would come, but it ended up falling into the abyss.
But my mother can't see the crawling and rolling around the bottom of the valley, and I don't know the blood and tears of the torment at home, and the fact that he can still see her alive is all because of those "spoofing tricks" that she despises.
The same is true for many parents in reality.
The age is different, the barriers of generation gap, and the difference in cognition make them unable to understand the difficulties of children, and mistakenly think that children are not motivated.
's supervision and concern eventually turned into scolding and even beatings, and it became the shadow of the child's life. It takes time for the
roses to bloom, and we would like to see parents show more patience, tolerance, kindness and understanding when they are dissatisfied.
3. Unreasonable partiality
is a child of someone else's family, a "guest", so he must be courteous, caring, and wronged his own children - this almost arrogant moral kidnapping has made many children chill. Parents, on the other hand, think that the child is making trouble for no reason. The book case turmoil in
's drama is neither humble nor arrogant, and it is about what is in the play, but it makes many off-screen children become people in the play.
Because of their parents, maybe just like the grandmother in "Xing Han Splendid", they are eccentric.
When they defended themselves, they were labelled as "inexperienced". What does
count as sensible? Submissive, servile?
" Kong Rong makes pear " has long become a cliché, etiquette is just a pretense, maybe children don't need hard-hearted preaching, they just hope that their parents can give them some preference, and those "outsiders" have a preference at their fingertips.
is like a curl in the book turmoil, the onlookers are noisy, she stands in the crowd, what she needs most is not a fair "trial" from her mother, she may just hope that her mother can say the last sentence with pity, "It's my mother who ignored the curl. , it's my mother's fault."
is arguing about the book case? This little girl who has suffered a lot, just doesn't understand why her mother refuses to give her any favor.
On the other hand, in the play, the tacit understanding between the mother and daughter when they entered the house together made the audience applaud.
The mother and daughter supporting each other at this time must have really made the curls feel happy.
That's what curl really wants as a daughter - when she's being bullied, her mother can stand in front of her to protect her instead of berating her for being cunning and rude.
Having said that, doesn't grandma love to curl? As a mother, she was pregnant in October and reluctantly abandoned. What she cherished was not only love, but also debt and distress.
She just lost her way in the love thing.
And off-screen, we and our parents owe each other throughout our lives.
"understanding" is the gap in the middle. The parents on the other side of the gap are waiting for our moving faces, and we on the other side of the gap are waiting for the parents' apology.
Years passed, one day my parents grew old, and until they passed away, this gap finally shattered, leaving us in the same place, with unwillingness, regret, longing, and at a loss.
The story of the mother and the curl in "The Star is Splendid", I really hope that parents and children can watch it.
Parents have changed their eccentricity, stubbornness, and feudal patriarchal education model since middle school; and children, watching their grandmother and curling in each other's eyes, can also remember that when their parents make mistakes, they will not forget that they are love after all my own.
also hopes that those lonely children who have not received the love of their parents can one day wait for their parents' heartfelt apology, like a curl, as a cure for their unfortunate childhood.
"On my shoulders is the wind, and on the wind are the twinkling stars".
