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Now more and more women are joining the divorce team, The reason why they get divorced is nothing more than the accumulation of disappointment in their married life, and gradually they feel that marriage is just a thing that makes them sad. Some women choose to remarry after divorce, but some women choose to live alone.
is from Ms. Tan's account.
01
I am 38 years old this year, and my ex and I have been divorced for 5 years. I used to think that our marriage was a happy one. After all, he and I went to this stage of marriage from campus, but our relationship was still lost to the reality of marriage. He betrayed our marriage. He kept saying that he only loved me, and there was no way to be believed.
I married him when I graduated from college. When I got married, he could be said to be a poor boy with nothing, but I still married him. My parents didn’t agree with me to marry him at the beginning, not because his family is in the countryside, nor because he has no money. My parents only think he is not a reliable person, but I was stunned by love. .
After I got married with him, it can be said that we have had a lot of hardship with him, and then we have a well-off life. I thought that we could see the sunshine in our married life, and it was no longer gloomy, but he gave me a heavy blow and made me understand that marriage is really a very unreliable thing. Even if he once said how much he loves you, he will betray you when he should betray you.
In the second year after I gave birth to my daughter, I found that he often said he was going to travel, and even saw him shopping very intimately with a woman. I can't deny that that woman is indeed much more beautiful than me, and my figure is not as perfect as before because of having a baby, and I don't like to dress like before.
02
After he learned that I knew about his cheating, he didn't feel a little sorry for the family at all. Instead, all the responsibilities were put on my head, saying that I was no longer as beautiful as before, and I didn't like to dress up. He didn't dare to take me out at all, for fear that I would shame him.
Our marriage is like my parents said, he is not a reliable man. After the divorce, all the house and car, including the children, belong to me. The company we worked hard together, I didn't go to grab anything from him, just ask him to pay me 10,000 yuan a month. To be honest, after the divorce, I was also very sad, but what made me understand more is that I still have a child to take care of.
Unlike before, I spend all my time on the family. I took my mother over to help me take the children. I can also have a lot of free time to learn other things. I am a woman who works hard and motivated, but for him, I was willing to be the woman who silently paid for him.
Now, I have opened a beauty salon by myself, and my own life is very fulfilling every day. For so many years, I myself have never thought about remarrying, even if my parents forced me to remarry, I didn’t have that thought. I have always believed that it is enough to experience the marriage once, and there is really no need to find trouble for myself.
03
My ex-husband has also talked to me about remarriage in the past two years, and said that I would give my child a complete home, but I refused him. I still remember the harm he caused to me at the beginning. I am not so stupid that I know that I have fallen in that place once, and I have to experience it again. It is completely unnecessary.
Seriously, I have changed a lot in recent years. I am no longer the yellow-faced woman who only knows how to take care of the family. I have learned how to dress up and take care of myself. Even if I take a child now, there are still many men chasing me. But I have never wavered my determination to be single, nor do I want to experience another marriage.
I also asked my daughter this question, and her answer to me was that it was enough for her to have me. I am also very glad that my divorce for so many years, my mother has always been by my side, even my daughter because of thisOne thing becomes very sensible. I have no regrets that I chose to divorce at first, but I feel that my divorce is the right thing.
I can live happily with my child now. When I have time, I will take my children to travel with my parents, or often go shopping with my girlfriends. But more time is spent on learning things and enriching myself. I think this kind of life is a very happy thing for me.
Concluding remarks
After marriage fails, everyone has different choices, but as long as they think they are happy. In fact, for a woman, it is not necessary to remarry in order to make oneself feel happy. For a woman, remarriage means that she has to take care of a family. If the relationship is still not handled well, conflicts will always be indispensable.
Single mothers are really not terrible, as long as you think your life is happy.
