True love can only be felt with heart. (Photo/Photo by reporter Huang Kexiang)
Text/Xu Lanfang
Some cases often ask me: "I have sex with him, isn't it his girlfriend?" Every woman is waiting for Prince Charming, using her body again and again It was confirmed that this was my love, and what I had no choice but to exchange was not the expected confirmation, but the actual harm. How does
know whether a man is "in love" with a woman or is "in love" with a woman? In fact, there is no standard answer. The performance of behavior only represents a person’s perception, and it is impossible to determine whether he really loves you. Real love needs to be felt with your heart, as the little prince said: "The really important things are invisible with the eyes." When he falls in love with you, I believe you absolutely know it. If you are still not sure whether he loves you or not, there are only two possibilities: one, you don't believe that you have the value of being loved, and two, he doesn't actually love you that much.
When men fall in love, they rarely aim to marry like a woman. Some men will try to associate with women, even if they know that this woman is not what they want from the beginning, they will still get married. She continued to associate, maybe she was riding a donkey to find a horse, or she was holding a good attitude without fish or shrimp. The
man is a hunter by nature, and he will not stop because he hunts down a prey. What he sees and chases is always the unhunted creature, no matter if he is a little white rabbit or a big wild wolf. So, if you think of getting his love, don't rush to dedicate yourself, time will test a man's patience for love.
A man is born a hunter and will not stop because he hunts down a prey. (Photo/Unsplash) How does
tell whether a man is "in love" with you or "in love" with you?
Please be the prey he wants to chase forever. The following 6 points are for everyone to judge:
1. Don’t have a sexual relationship with a date, just think that you are his girlfriend
. Especially in this relatively open society, even if you have a stable sexual relationship, you can only say at best. It is a friend of artillery. Some women think, "He wants to have sex with me because he loves me?" But in fact, for a man, being able to have sex with his beloved is the best situation. Although he does not love you, he also You can do it, but the moment you do it, the feeling in your heart is different.
2. Don’t just believe the promise in his mouth, but feel his actual dedication.
Even if a man tells you "I will love you forever", "You are my only one" or "I really miss you" , Don’t foolishly think that this is his promise to you. One possibility is "I (looking forward) will love you forever", "You (will) be the only one for me" or "I really miss (on) you". You can't say that a man lies, only that he advances Your expectations for the future. The best way for
is that you don’t need to deny how he feels about you. After all, he didn’t lie to you. You just need to enjoy his love for you now. The timeliness of these words is the present, not eternal. However, when a man does not love you, these words only mean one thing, that is, "I want to have sex with you."
3. You can’t forget the best self because you have entered a stable relationship.
After many women fall in love, the other person becomes their own world. Everything is dominated by each other, and all life is around. He turned around, and then I forgot who he was. Please remember that when he falls in love with you, he loves the first you. When you slowly lose yourself in order to perfect the other person, he will slowly forget to love you. Regardless of whether they enter a relationship or not, a woman should always pursue what she wants to do as long as she is alive. Standing in place not only makes no progress, but also represents a step backward.
Don't forget your best self after entering a stable relationship. (Picture/pixabay)
4. A woman can't be a yellow-faced woman, but don't just be an ornamental vase
Appearance is important, but it is definitely not a necessary condition for a man to have a long-term relationship with you. A woman with a beautiful face and a graceful figure may be able to attract a man’s attention for the first time, but although the love period has passed and the hormones have faded, only a kind personality and a substantial inner body allow a man to decide whether Spend the second half of your life with youNecessary conditions. This can also explain the common question of many Masamiyas who have had an affair with their husbands: "Why is my husband inferior to me and uglier than me, but fascinated by my husband."
5. Don't be afraid to refuse
. They know whether their interaction with each other is due to sex or love, they know very well; if it is sex, he will definitely find a way to succeed in the shortest time. On the contrary, when he falls in love with a woman, he does not care about gains and losses, and is not in a hurry to possess it. On the contrary, some men are afraid that if he does something beyond the rules, he will make the other person feel bad.
Therefore, when the other party is courting you, if you feel that the current atmosphere is not right, feel uncomfortable, or even have no desire at all, please boldly refuse to let the other party know that you have absolute sexual autonomy is very important; when you also want When you have sex with your partner, please also remember, "You want to have sex, just because you want to do it, not to please him." Some girls are afraid to say, "If I refuse, will he not love me? I'm afraid he will find someone else to do it!" Don't worry, absolutely not. If he really loves you, he will definitely wait for you, and even care that you feel more than you want. If he does not love you, please see the reality at this time and leave as soon as possible.
From the process of making love, you can feel whether he is "in love" with you or "in love" with you. (Schematic/CFP)
6. Don’t just care about "did you do it or not", but also the process of making love. If you are a man who really loves you, he will try his best to please you even in bed. They will always observe your face and Expression, caring about "Are you comfortable?" is better than "Did I shoot?" If a man is just to satisfy his own sexual needs, some people will even skip the foreplay such as kissing and hugging, and solve this round in a straightforward way. Both situations are "done", but the former is sex and the latter is venting. So, please enjoy the process of sex. I believe you will slowly feel whether he is "in love" with you or "in love" with you during this process.
For me, the mood of love is so deep that it is too deep to define or set a standard in specific words. You just need to love yourself, live a good life, let yourself live full and happy, keep pursuing yourself, and strive to be a warm, confident, thoughtful, brave and empathetic woman. I believe that in the near future, Your heart will tell you whether he is in love with you or is in love with you.
This article is excerpted from / Xu Lanfang (Ph.D. in Nursing, Taipei Medical University, Assistant Professor of Ministry of Education) / Creative Market Published by
