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When children reach a new age, they will be curious about one thing. However, because of their young and self-protective nature, even if they are curious, they dare not let it go. If parents encourage boldly, there will be different gains.
There are emotional quotient, IQ, and financial quotient in the world. So, are you a mother with "encouraging quotient"?
is learning to ride a bicycle recently, and he fell a dog at the beginning. Now he became a little scared. He wanted to learn but said, "Mom, I don't want to ride anymore. I'm afraid of falling." "We Try it!" I always say that. In order to encourage him to try and find confidence, I deliberately took him to a big slope. He exclaimed and held the handlebar with both hands tightly: "Mom, you must hold me!" I gently supported him. He said on his shoulder, "Try it!"
When we dashed down the slope at a relatively fast speed together, he obviously found fun in it. This is the nature of boys. He said: "Mom, I think it's too funny, and I want to do it again." So, he took the initiative to push the car to a high slope and tried it again.
About the meaning of "trying"
What is the nature of children aged 3 to 5? They are always tirelessly pursuing new things. For them, experiencing things they haven't touched before, going to a new tourist location, trying new games, playing with new friends, and reading a new book are as colorful as fireworks blooming above their heads.
psychologist Todd Kashdan believes that attempts are a way to bring one’s happiness . Only taking the first step and achieving results will bring the child a sense of spiritual satisfaction and accomplishment. This feeling of excitement and selflessness fills their minds and gives them the motivation to explore more unknowns. Therefore, trying bravely is the first and very important lesson to cultivate children's emotional intelligence.
At the same time, cultivating children's ability to try courageously from an early age is also a good frustration education. Japanese education circles agree with this view very much. They generally believe that if children can touch things they never know, it will not only increase the experience, but also cultivate the children's endurance and endurance, and be able to overcome difficulties with perseverance.
Facts have also proved, "Let's try it", this seemingly simple language, what a huge amount of wealth for children's natural play and full respect for their choices.
"Let's try", a vegetable market mother cultivated a doctor daughter
in 4 words. She is an ordinary and ordinary mother with no culture. She lives with her daughter and sells vegetables to support her life. One day, my daughter saw the continuous flow of bean sprouts in other people's homes and asked curiously, "Why do they sell bean sprouts so well? Can we try?" Although mother
was taken aback, she nodded: "Okay, we Let's try it."
just do it, and the mother and daughter with strong executive ability put them in the basket and on the balcony, and started planting bean sprouts.
But the two inexperienced people found that growing bean sprouts is not easy at all. Soon, the bean sprouts withered and died. Although they found that the reason is too much sun, and bean sprouts like humid environment. Many improvements have been made in the planting environment, but the bean sprouts are still dead.
looked at her sad daughter, mother raised her mouth again and again and said: "It's okay, we can try again."
has experienced repeated defeats. The two mothers and daughters chose to persist. Finally, they also developed a special product for bean sprouts. Watering device. And this time, the watering device was just as expected, spreading water on the bean sprouts on time, letting hope germinate, and finally broke the ground. The story of
is a Thai public service advertisement, but it is adapted from a real story. In the story, the little girl who constantly stood up in failure not only successfully entered the university, but also became a doctor of biology. Currently, she is engaged in bioengineering research in Sweden and is also a full-time teacher in the Department of Science at Thaksin University, Songkhla, Thailand.
She hopes to tell more children and enlighten them by telling her mother’s golden sentence "Let’s try"Children continue to explore ways to solve problems. It is precisely because of the continuous encouragement of her childhood mother that she discovered the joy of exploration little by little from an ordinary little girl living in the vegetable market, and eventually became a talented person with great ambition.
What do mothers who really have "encouraging quotient" do?
Parents must know how to delegate power
Encourage children to be brave enough to try, cannot do without the company of their parents, let alone the real power of parents. Treating the child as an independent individual and letting him make plans and choices is the real encouragement and education.
My friend Rafa, a Jew, recalled that when he was about 10 years old, his family would travel out every summer. Their way of traveling is very "chic"-to let the children plan the journey. Dad asked his brother and him to bring a map, mainly in the form of self-driving. According to the plan made by the two brothers, he galloped through the jungle water. The most memorable thing about a journey like
is that in addition to the excitement of adventure and exploration, there is also the autonomy that he and his younger brother decide every day of the journey. "Your two brothers decide where we go, where we live, and where we eat." Dad gave a high degree of autonomy to Rafa and younger brother.
rafa and dad
, although the children are still young, they have long been given the responsibility to come up with new ideas and make important decisions. Every morning, Dad Rafa will issue a daily challenge to them: "So where are we going today?" At the end of the day, whether he chooses A, B or C, the father always delegates the power to the child, and he himself will protect him. God.
gives them the greatest spiritual support and encouragement
as a child to do one thing very hard, even if it fails, encourage them with warm words, it will make the child feel that "mother is with me by my side". This companionship is not only physical, but also spiritual. Let's take a look at the "effective" encouraging language that mothers can often use.
1) You worked so hard!
When a child learns to ride a bicycle, don't rush to say "You are awesome!" First affirm that his hard work and hard work are more important than anything else.
2) You have made great progress in ____
When your child has made progress in certain areas, such as eating faster and getting dressed by himself, parents can praise the details of the progress, the more specific the better.
3) Your attitude towards doing things is pretty good.
When the child is full of positive energy when facing the task in front of him, and has done well, don’t worry about saying "you are awesome", you can do a good job with the child’s attitude towards doing this. Sexual evaluation.
4) is very difficult, but you have been insisting.
When a child completes a challenging task, such as falling two or three times, he can barely ride a bicycle. Contemplation finally defeated the opponent who played chess. When he finishes things through setbacks, he must affirm his patience and persistence.
