movies with the theme of love are beautiful and hopeful. The process may go through twists and turns, but the ending has repeatedly emphasized the greatness of "love" that can break through the siege. However, although love in reality is very likely to be unsatisfactory, it does not mean that love is no longer great, because the wonderful part of love is often not in the beginning or the end, but the unforgettable process.
2006 starring Joseph Gordon Levy (playing Tom) and Zooey Deschanel (playing Summer), the classic movie "500 Days of Love in Summer", tells the story of Tom, a boy who believes in his destiny, and falls in love with him. The girl who believes in love meets each other's blessings in 500 days in summer. Although
pointed out at the beginning of the movie, "This is not about love, but about the encounter of a boy and a girl." But after watching "500 Days of Love in Summer", many people think that Summer is a love liar, and Tom is a fool who has been tricked. , But is that really the case?
is destined to meet, not necessarily destined to stay together
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"I met my soulmate. She didn't" is a well-known British six-character microscopy, meaning "I met It’s my true love, but she doesn’t.” The editor thought, this sentence is a perfect interpretation of Tom’s mood in the movie. Tom believes that it is destined that he only focuses on the part that "perfectly fits" with summer. Therefore, when summer's behavior deviated from the track of "destiny", Tom felt painful. But what Tom doesn't understand is that the encounter between two people may be fate, but if they want to stay together for a long time, they rely on management.
Tom self-righteously believes that "true love" is everything, ignoring that the strengthening of relationships requires careful management. In love, it is more practical to try hard to grasp every opportunity to get along than to believe in fate blindly.
turns from passive to active, does not rely on imagination to fall in love
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Carefully observe every link in the movie, and you will find that Tom is living in his own imagination. He never takes the initiative to pursue it, and only relies on imagination to guess whether he can go further. The first time they kissed and had a relationship for the first time, it was all summer initiative. Even when she asked Tom if she liked her, the answer was only "like among friends."
is afraid of being rejected by the summer. Tom hides his true feelings, but also missed the opportunity to "determine the relationship." When the two separated and met again in the play, Tom stared at Xia Xia’s wedding ring in a daze: "You don’t want to be someone’s girlfriend, but now you are someone’s wife." Xia Xia smiled and replied, destined to really exist, just with you I can't be sure when we are together.
The communion of hearts in love is a tacit understanding, but before this tacit understanding is established, "communications" will easily become "indifferent" in the eyes of the other person.
Don't be blinded by memories, especially those fond memories
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"500 Days in Summer" is explained from Tom's perspective, so it is not difficult for the audience to understand his mood. From his perspective, the love affair with Xia Xia is perfect and untainted. It is a beautiful scene of the two getting along. Therefore, when he heard Summer complaining, "We are arguing all day long!" Tom's feelings of anger and disappointment actually stem from the facts he overlooked. In the
play, Xia Xia and Tom found in the record shop that they both love rock music and the Smith band. Therefore, Tom believes that summer is his true love even more! However, another singer whom Summer loved, Tom did not like, so he chose to ignore it.
People who are deeply in love often choose to ignore the reality of imperfect feelings. Until the fireworks of love burn out, I am willing to admit that the other person is not so beautiful.
Don’t just think of yourself, and ignore the other person’s needs
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When you talk to Tom in the summer, the foreign voices in Tom's mind will always override what she is talking about content. Only halfway through Xia Xia's words, Tom began to wander around thinking: "I am important to her. Only important people will know about these things." Tom lives in his own world complacently, and he doesn't even give Xia a word of comfort.
Maybe Tom really loves summer, but at the same time he is very selfish, holding "self thoughts" everywhere in what he thinks should beSuch things include summer. When the two first met, Xia Xia had already expressed to Tom that "she didn't want to talk about feelings and didn't want to be tied up by relationships." However, before the end of the movie, Tom thought that Xia Xia had ruined his imagination of love. Maybe this is true, but part of the reason is actually that Tom often ignores summer needs and wants a sense of security.
Thank you for each relationship, let us know how to love
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Tom "grew up" at the end of the movie. He met Xia Xia in a familiar park. Although he did not understand Xia Xia's decision at first, when Xia Xia told him, "Your idea of true love is right, but you misunderstood me." Tom relieved him and got up. The most sincere blessing to summer, the classic scene must make many people cry. Although the two of
"500 Days of Love in Summer" did not reach the end hand in hand, they both grew up because of each other. This encounter is worth it!
"Who is right and who is wrong" in love is an untestable proposition. Everyone may be Summer or Tom. There is always one party in the relationship who wants to be the "bad guy". But how do you define the criteria for bad guys, fools, and love? In fact, it is just a different position, which affects different choices.
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