In Taiwan Province, Li Peizhen, known as a good daughter-in-law, is the eldest daughter of the family and has always had a sense of responsibility. She is used to taking care of her mother and two younger sisters, and her husband’s mother is no exception.
He also often appeared on the show to share many ways of getting along with his mother-in-law. Although
occasionally needs to communicate because of the different concepts of her mother-in-law, but also because of his carefulness and wisdom, slowly opened her heart, and also because of her understanding, like willing to learn new parenting knowledge and actively discuss with the couple. Make the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law become more comfortable.
For any relationship, you have to invest your time and energy to manage it before it can blossom.
is like becoming a novice mother. You have to learn how to be a mother again. From the setbacks of parenting, you gradually find out your child's personality and preferences, and understand how to get along with your child. The relationship between
and mother-in-law will also experience some ups and downs.
The mother-in-law is anxious to hold the child, and the child-rearing method has been tested.
Peizhen has also had many parenting concepts different from her mother-in-law like most novice mothers.
After giving birth, the mother has her own baby child, which is equivalent to the mother-in-law’s life with more golden grandchildren. The mother-in-law puts the family first and hopes to participate in all kinds of things in the family. The child is crying, sick, etc. It is easy to attract the attention of elders. When
gave birth to her first child, Pei Zhen wanted to follow the advice of the parenting books: would not hug when the child cried, but the mother-in-law felt unbearable when she saw the child crying hysterically, and would often reach out and hug the child directly , Leading to the failure of the parenting method I wanted to try. What impressed her most was that when she heard the child crying, her mother-in-law rushed into the room nervously, and quickly picked up the child to comfort her, but did not realize that Pei Zhen, who was about to feed the baby, was not wearing any clothes.
At the moment, Peizhen felt so embarrassed that she quickly covered her body with a quilt.
Don’t go head-to-head with her mother-in-law, and indirect communication makes her attitude change
Sometimes she thinks, “It’s obviously my child, why can’t I raise it the way I did? help. Although
felt discouraged, he did not choose to head-on with his mother-in-law. Pei Zhen believes that confrontation with her mother-in-law not only makes the family relationship tense, makes the child feel negative emotions, but also destroys the relationship between the family, causing greater harm and unable to solve the difficult situation.
When faced with these things and feel unhappy and unable to be understood, Pei Zhen will discuss with her husband how to communicate with her mother-in-law, indirectly let her mother-in-law understand her feelings and thoughts. What distressed him at the time was the reaction of his mother-in-law when faced with the child's fever. Sometimes she rushed to take the child to the hospital alone and hoped that the child would take the antipyretic as soon as the child had a fever.
One day, Peizhen accidentally saw newspaper news, in which the doctor shared how to deal with the child's fever, so she left the newspaper on the table.
Cleverly, without directly denying the mother-in-law, let the mother-in-law see the doctor’s suggestions, such as first observing the child’s activity and crying, and then let the child take anti-fever medicine according to the situation, so that the mother-in-law can understand the age of her growth Different medical concepts.
After a while, Pei Zhen discovered that her mother-in-law would take the initiative to discuss the timing of medication with her husband and she was very willing to learn new knowledge.
explored the hidden language of the mother-in-law, and found the cute side
Pei Zhen suggested that when we are not so interested in the content shared by the elders, we should just relax and smile! The life experience of the elderly
is richer, for everything, of course Everyone wants to share their own experience, even though it is a cliché, being able to listen is a sign of respect.
Peizhen believes that most of the time can speak out or refuse directly when facing her mother, but she cannot treat her mother-in-law in this way.
naively felt that as long as treating her mother-in-law as her own mother, it was a filial piety. As a result, she found that each mother has a different personality, so she should find the most suitable way of getting along.
It takes some time for people to understand each other, mother-in-law and daughter-in-lawis also like this.
It took him nearly 8 years to gradually find out the hidden language of many mother-in-law, like sometimes asking her mother-in-law to eat, the mother-in-law said not to be really refusing, and the mother-in-law asked a lot of things, but in fact just felt uneasy.
Pei Zhen laughed and said, thinking from another angle, We are always like children in the eyes of the elders!
As the time we get along increases, Pei Zhen also sees the innocent and lovely side of her mother-in-law from the more traditional and conservative mother-in-law. , Made her feel very interesting.
is sometimes the best example for elders to teach
to marry her husband into the 10th year. The relationship between Pei Zhen and her mother-in-law has changed from strangers to family members who can get along with each other.
has always taken care of her family carefully and puts the family first in her heart. Pei Zhen laughed and said that children have seen us treat our elders well and have a sense for our children since we were young. This is the best example!
year after year, watching The years left marks on his parents and in-laws, and he had a deep feeling.
We often love children, but not the elderly, but in fact they are the ones with little time left. We should create more opportunities for them to get along with our grandchildren within the limited time.
She also sighed that when she was a child, she only saw grandpa and grandma during the winter and summer vacations, because she didn't get close to each other often.
For this reason, the couple deliberately arranged to live nearby with their elders. They ate together every day. After years of getting along with each other, Pei Zhen felt very relieved to see that the child would sit on her mother's lap and act coquettishly when she grew up.
Even trivial daily life can be a good memory for a family.
