Humor, self-deprecating and complaining play a very important role in work and life, distinguishing the differences between the three, in the interaction with people, intimate relationships, etc., can improve your personality charm.
Humor
In real life, a person who knows how to be humorous can alleviate embarrassment in any situation and give others a relaxed way of getting along. There are three main principles of
humor:
unexpected sense
superiority
pressure release
accidental sense means that people will be amused by unexpected things;
superiority means that you will be superior because of the embarrassment and clumsiness of others Feeling, and thus laugh;
and stress release means that you will be released suddenly because of your tense emotions and pressure, and laugh in relief.
When communicating with people, if you want to show your own humor, you must meet two conditions:
First, we have to relax the atmosphere of communication with each other;
Second, if what you say can satisfy the sense of surprise and superiority Any one of feeling and pressure release will produce a humorous effect.
self-deprecating
self-deprecating self-deprecating self-deprecating self-deprecating self-deprecating self-deprecating self-deprecating self-deprecating jokes By making fun of yourself or others, let the listener feel a sense of superiority, feel relaxed and funny, and naturally bring you closer.
When you are laughing at yourself, you unintentionally give the other person a sense of superiority. The other person will feel relaxed and happy, and your relationship will naturally get closer. Some friends of
may say that this sounds easy, but the actual operation seems to be quite difficult. On the one hand, I feel embarrassed and don’t know what to ridicule myself. On the other hand, I am worried that I am not good at self-deprecating, and whether I really appear to be not so good.
Here are three suggestions, you may wish to try:
1. To really complain about your shortcomings or predicament, you must tell your own real shortcomings when you laugh at yourself. This self-deprecation can only be established if you speak it sincerely. Do not pretend to be humble and use self-deprecating as a means to make others praise you.
2. The shortcomings and predicaments of self-deprecation are acceptable to you. Although self-deprecating may seem like a kind of self-deprecating and low profile, in fact, only people who are confident enough to accept their shortcomings and predicaments can laugh at themselves.
3. When you are in a high position, it is suitable for self-deprecating. The high position I am talking about here does not necessarily refer to external conditions. There is also a high position that refers to an advantageous psychological position.
Tucao
Good complaints must be kind. When it comes to communication skills, few people say Tucao, it seems that Tucao gives people a less positive feeling.
In your daily communication with other people, self-deprecating can help you expose your shortcomings in a timely manner and get closer to the other person. The closer your relationship is, the more topics you will ridicule and complain about each other.
specific to actual communication, what is the kind of complaint?
First, you can complain about a person's weaknesses that everyone knows, or complain about something that everyone knows, but don't complain about what the other person would really mind.
Second, when you complain about someone in person, remember to add one of his advantages. Praise him first, and then spit out, often can release your kindness.
In an intimate relationship, three conditions are more important:
the other person is interesting
you are willing to accept the other person
thinks he is interesting, the other person is also interesting to you, willing to make you laugh.
In fact, it does not matter whether the other party is really interesting, but the next two points are important, that is, your mutual recognition and acceptance. And the "stalk" that makes you giggle is the best embodiment of your mutual recognition and acceptance.
The more long-term intimacy needs this kind of interest...
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