Zhang Ailing's "The First Incense": Who wins and who loses when married to money and married women?

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Zhang Ailing " first incense "

"I love you, whatever it is about you, no strangers can blame you." Many people think this is Zhang Ailing's famous love quote. In fact, this is what Ge Weilong, the heroine of Zhang Ailing's "First Incense", said to her husband Qiao Qiqiao. This pure and strong love affects countless people.

Ge Weilong’s love is not Romeo and Juliet’s desperate, moth-to-fire vigor; it’s also not the lingering romance of everyday couples who stay together and stay together; it’s not the plain and pragmatic nature of Cowherd and Weaver Girl, but her in real life. Bear the heavy responsibility of earning money and supporting the family alone. The way of assuming, subverting the world.

She worked hard to make money for her husband to eat, drink and have fun in the Huahua World. Because he just wanted to marry a rich wife to satisfy his own need for fun. And Ge Weilong has no family background, and can only rely on his young and beautiful capital to shuttle among the men of the upper class in Hong Kong as a socialite. Only in this way can she make more money and make him Qiao Qiqiao willing to marry herself.

In love, she lives so humble and violates herself.

However, it is undeniable that Ge Weilong is an out-and-out love-oriented woman.

Ge Weilong's aunt is a rich woman. Middle-aged and single. Living in a large house in a luxurious residential area in the hills of Hong Kong, living a luxurious life. In the words of Ge Weilong: "Aunt is a capable woman, holding the great wheel of the times with one hand, and retaining the lustful air of the late Qing Dynasty in her own little world. Close the door and be a small Empress Dowager Cixi."

Such extravagance is not that Mrs. Liang has the extraordinary ability to obtain wealth in society, but that she has a large inheritance.

was born to Mrs. Liang, who was born in the middle class of Shanghai Scholars. When she was young, she married Mr. Liang, one of the best in Hong Kong, and became the fourth concubine. She won the old man's favor. When the old man died, she received a large sum of money. In the marriage of

, ​​Mrs. Liang once paid the price of breaking with her family. In the eyes of her family, it is a shameful thing for a scholarly woman to be a concubine for a man.

But she never minded other people's opinions, she sees all the money at her fingertips.

Now she never acts low-key, full of confidence: "What I have is money."

She is a complete gold worshiper.

Two aunts and nephews, one is material enough, the other is too infatuated. But they are all women who are unwilling to leave. In Mrs. Liang's values,

will invest only if she meets the actual needs. She put women's youth and reputation as capital and voted for the rich old man. Because this investment allows her to live a rich life across classes. She always looks at things from the perspective of investment, in exchange for the most profitable material she wants. A woman like

is undoubtedly smart and good at calculating. She calculated how long the old man could not live, as long as he died, she would have both money and freedom. When youth is still there, why not worry about being graceful!

But such a woman is also the most ruthless, even to the point of unsympathetic.

When Ge Weilong asked her to support her school, she didn't have the slightest affection at all, but considered whether this niece was useful to her and whether it was worth the investment. "I heard that my niece is coming. She hesitated for a while. She has always been careful about winning transactions. This time she intends to make a big blow to her niece sacs . I still can’t make up my mind. I don’t know if this little niezi has any. Promising? Is it worth the investment? How about taking the opportunity of a treat tonight. Ask the child to change clothes. Come out to meet the guests."

Fortunately, at the garden fair held by Mrs. Liang, Ge Weilong became the most bee-attractor. Beauty, Mrs. Yang finally decided to keep her niece, Is used.

In order to keep Ge Weilong by her side and continue to serve herself, Mrs. Liang wants to persuade Qiao Qiqiao to marry Ge Weilong. This piece of exhortation is so blatantly shameless.

"I think you will be just a little bit. You want to marry a wide lady, your vision is high, you are close to the door, and you are not eye-catching. You are really a girl born with tens of millions of wealth. Yes, how can you be so talkative like Weilong, everywhere you can't help being restrained. The purpose of your asking for money is to play, not having a good time, what do you want money for? Of course, after seven or eight years, Weilong’s income must be If you can’t make money to support your family, then you can get a divorce. Under British law, divorce is relatively difficult. The only legal reason is to commit adultery. If you want to catch the other party’s evidence of committing adultery, then you can get a divorce. It's not easy."

Mrs. Liang's starting point for everything is around "useful" and "easy to use" . Whether it is marriage or people. Once it is unsuitable, she will throw it away like a rag. Even the method of arresting and divorcing one's niece is good. I really want to scold her: Not a human!

However, her set of realistic values ​​is useless to Ge Weilong, who values ​​love, but it hits off with the same realistic Qiao Qiqiao.

A woman who pays attention to the reality of vested interests. What they can ignore is love and affection. But it will never be based on their own material enjoyment.

marrying this kind of realistic woman, unless you can meet her material needs, otherwise you will have no value in marriage.

Ge Weilong's affection for Qiao Qiqiao was when they first met. He spoke to her with bluffs, but she thought it was a liking.

She found out that she fell in love with this playboy, not because of his masculine charm, but because of " his child’s air, which caused Weilong to have a kind of almost maternal reaction. She wanted to kiss the back of his head. Short hair. Kiss his serious thinking face, kiss her sleeves and elbows where the crepe is wrinkled. Only the memory of the present, that lovely posture, there is a kind of softness and warmth The feeling of love spread to her heart."

But love is love. Once a woman falls in love with a man, no matter how scumbag he is in the eyes of others, but in her own heart, he is protected by 10,000.

"In the past. Qiao Qiqiao refused to be a good person. He was too smart, and his outlook on life was too negative, afraid that people around him would not understand him. He lived among Hong Kong people, like a foreigner. Fortunately now He is still young. As long as his wife loves him and believes in him, what can he not do? Even if he has no money, there are acquaintances of Qiao’s family in various institutions, and there is no way to survive."

It is a kind of unreasonable and incurable love.

When she knew that he could not marry her, all her sane lines of defense, in front of passionate love, collapsed. She is determined to learn from her aunt how to be a socialite in high society, and use her youth and beauty to exchange money. She is willing to make money to support her family, just to satisfy Qiao Qi's conditions for marriage. After

got married, Qiao Qiqiao found out in conscience and said: "Our current distribution of rights and obligations is too unfair." Ge Weilong said: "In the relationship between people, there is no way to talk about the word fair."

, We thought, we can use our words to see who loves who is more! The more you love, the more you give .

In their relationship, how much a woman should love, so that she can tell her husband, "I love you, it's up to you, no strangers can blame you. " The other party has a little psychological burden, and in love without a little bit of grievance, she thinks that her degeneration is voluntary. Of course, this is also true. She fell for him willingly.

A woman who doesn't mind her husband going out to spend a lot of time, she doesn't mind her own laughter and glory, she can ignore the reputation and bottom line, but she does not want to marry a rich but loveless man like her aunt. Ge Weilong dedicated all available resources to his love. Because she never ends up in love.

Marrying a woman like this is not because you are worthy of her love, but because you touched her love. In her blindly giving without a bottom line, she has no herself and no you. In her heart, there was only what she called love.

In the eyes of this aunt, who is right or wrong, who is the best and who is foolish?

A person loves one thing, if you love to the extreme and become idiot, it is yourself that suffers in the end.

Although Mr. Liang is old and smooth, he does not die as quickly as Mrs. Liang thought. When he died, Mrs. Liang was already old. She who is a half-old milf can never fill the famine in her heart, "She needs love, the love of many people." This is what he suffered. When she chose money, she could only give up love. But she is human, and everyone needs love. The older you are, the less you can fill your inner desire and need for love.

and Ge Weilong led a life like this after marriage: "From then on, Weilong was sold to Mrs. Liang and Qiao Qiqiao. He was busy all day, either making money for Qiao Qiqiao or Mrs. Liang is making things happen." She is paying for her insistence on marrying love.

Those who pursue money are short of love; those who pursue love cannot find happiness in the end. Is

created by the times, or is it a trick of fate? What

actually cannot escape is human nature: people are too obsessed with something, and obsessiveness arises, and the rest of the world cannot be seen.