Xiaopan丨Emotional essay series
Xiaopan talks about love contract author original
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Stars in the entertainment circle, in addition to acting and appearance, fans should always pay attention to emotional life. I hope my idol will have a double harvest in his love career.
But love is an inexplicable fate. Some celebrities’ partners are people outside the circle, and they end up quietly without being concerned; while some celebrities eventually become partners because of drama.
Ruby Lin, the impression that gives to everyone must be more of the gentle and pleasant "Zoweigege" in "Huanzhugege", especially those big smart and passionate eyes that make people fall into it.
Since Ruby Lin's wedding with Huo Jianhua was known, the relationship between the two people has not been appreciated, it seems that they have been cursed, there are always rumors of various "marriage", and the two have never been Responded.
Recently, Ruby Lin responded positively to the rumors of marriage for the first time when attending an event. She said this: "A divorce, a pregnancy, how can a divorce get pregnant? If you are really pregnant, there should be three! "
Regarding the rumors of the emotional discord between the two people that have been circulating in the outside world, Ruby Lin said that she and her husband, Jianhua Huo, are actually not very concerned, and generally laugh at it, except that relatives and friends will tell about the relationship between the couple.
It seems that the public is really a little worried about it. Recalling that when the two people were together, the two sides had a large-scale de-fanning, and even the fans on both sides began to "tear" for a long time. The war is really unfounded.
In fact, when you think about it carefully, it is not difficult to find that the relationship between two people is not a whim. It has been more than ten years from acquaintance to becoming a partner.
Lin Xinru and Huo Jianhua met during the filming of "Metro". At that time, Huo Jianhua was 26 and Ruby Lin was 30. At that time, the two did not call, but the fate was buried.
Ruby Lin and Huo Jianhua both come from divorced families. Those who have experienced this kind of growth must know that in childhood because of the lack of parental and maternal loveLoss has led to an extreme desire for family.
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Huo Jianhua once said in the show that he is very attached to his mother, and even suspects that he has an Oedipus complex, but Ruby Lin, who was only 4 years older than him, was obviously not the kind of mature woman he admired at the time, and even a little careless. "Tomboy" character.
And at that time, Ruby Lin couldn't find a breakthrough after filming "Returning the Pearl", Huo Jianhua wanted to enter the singing world but suffered a dismal sales of the first record.
At that time, the two people were in the downturn of their careers. It was reasonable not to come together, because it is difficult for the imperfect self to give each other more positive energy in the relationship.
Dickens said: Mature love, respect and heartfelt are not easy to express. Its voice is low, it is humble, retreat, and lurking, waiting and waiting.
The love worth waiting for will always come in a better state, just like Huo Jianhua finally mustered the courage to confess to Ruby Lin. At that moment, both of them understood that the one who belonged to them finally awakened.
After so many years, Ruby Lin moved to the filmmaker and set up her own studio. Her career is flourishing. People are no longer used to saying that she doesn’t have Zhao Wei and Fan Bingbing anymore, and she will pack her pets with 400,000 famous brands. dog.
Huo Jianhua gave up singing that was not suitable for him, focused on attacking the acting career, and created a number of classic roles. Whether it is "A Thousand Bone" or "War of Changsha", we can see Huo Jianhua's progress.
Success in career does not only mean the accumulation of wealth, but also the precipitation of life. Ruby Lin has become more confident and calm, and will no longer be anxious about not getting a good role, not to mention the need to be in love The little girl inside is seeking protection.
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Since childhood, Jianhua Huo is very introverted because of the family environment, he likes to be quiet, he doesn't like to move, and he doesn't talk much, but with age, his attitude towards life has also changed.
During Li Jing’s two interviews with Huo Jianhua, she clearly noticed the changes in Huo Jianhua. Only 3 years later, what made Huo Jianhua outgoing?
Huo Jianhua believes that in addition to acting reasons that make him more willing to share his life, he is more happy that he feels that he understands, because he knows that he can't please anyone, so he only needs to be responsible for himself.
At first glance, it seems that everyone's growth experience is like this, but when you think about it, it is not difficult to find that Huo Jianhua and Ruby Lin have very similar growth experiences and are very independent people.
Some people say that if both parties in love are particularly independent people, then they will not have the heart to tolerate each other, but I think it is precisely because of independence that they will be more rational and responsible for love.
Therefore, in the face of external rumors, two people understand that no amount of explanation is useless, because their own life has nothing to do with others, and only oneself can experience the warmth and coldness of it.
What Lin Xinru values is to get each other’s sincerity in love, Huo Jianhua loves his daughter and Gu family; and Huo Jianhua is no longer thatA young and stupid big boy, but a man who can provide his family with reliable shoulders.
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The so-called "strong alliance" in marriage is probably like this! Whether it is career achievements or commitment to the family, Ruby Lin and Huo Jianhua have given us the best interpretation.
Some people will ask, Ruby Lin is over forty, but she can still live such a glorious life. Where does she come from? I think the best answer is evenly matched love.
Only by making yourself more perfect and outstanding, and constantly enriching yourself, can you have the opportunity to meet the person who is more suitable for you.
Smart girls have always understood this truth, so instead of crying for temporary gains and losses when they were young, it is better to rectify their mood and state and devote their energy to how to improve themselves.
Like Fromm said, immature love is "I need you, so I love you", while mature love is "I love you, so I need you."
When people become mature, it does not mean that they are more indifferent, but they will be more rational about feelings and will not be impulsive. This is also a more responsible performance for yourself and the other party.
Some people always want to take advantage of their youth and beauty to squander their youth and take shortcuts from love, but in fact love is the most fair. Even if you have more advantages, you can only follow the laws of love, and that is to give sincerely. gain something.
Therefore, it is better to let yourself grow better first, so that you can match the best person in love.
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