Text: Lu Qiuyuan (Bachelor of Finance and Taxation, National Chengchi University, Master of Soochow Law, Ph.D., National Taiwan University, Ph.D., London School of Economics and Political Science, post-doctoral research. Current head of Mida Economic and Trade Law Office, member of Taipei Municipal Commission of Integrity, News 98 Radio "Nine Eight Host of Law Firm. Good at telling stories full of human experience behind legal cases by way of storytelling.)
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when divorce consultation At that time, one thing I still can't understand is, why are you not angry?
Let's discuss the first question first. Before marriage, he said that the two of them need to save money to buy a house, so they must live in the husband's house first. Why don't you tell him that they live in the natal house? Because I live in my husband’s house, I have to pay my filial family 10,000 yuan a month. Isn’t this the same as the rent for living outside? what? Still have to pay for filial piety when living outside? Then I would like to ask you, your mother raised you so much, what the hell did you give him? Why not take the filial piety fee because he is considerate of his son buying a house to save money? Think of it as a loquat paste, and you still need to recognize the filial piety sign?
Let me tell you, it’s okay to live with his parents or not. You don’t have to live outside, but at least you have to get your consent instead of using the so-called saving money as an excuse. Living in his house, why don't you have to pay for it?
The second question is, when your mother-in-law tells you, "You only went back to your natal house last week, why do you go back so often?" You won't ask him with a smile, "Your son goes home every day, but he doesn't Infrequently?" I know your face is stunned, because you think this is a rebellious reply. However, such remarks are a great insult to you, do you know? The implication of this sentence is that you are a member of their family, and you are no longer your parents' daughter, so you should talk to your parents for a while, and hang on with their family for life. Strange, why can't you go home after getting married? The point is that when I told you that you must refute him this way, I saw that your mother was overjoyed, but you were horrified. Are you constrained or what? You want to communicate! What his mother said is nothing. Your mother used to tell you to go home before ten o'clock. Why did you ignore her?
The third question is, why does his sister sleep with the child at night instead of you? You obviously didn't accept it, but you only dared to complain to me instead of telling his family. Your husband said that the child can be born again, and he wants to pass the child to his sister, but you dare only say "I don't want it." You should tell him coldly, "I'm going to be divorced, you think I am a lizard, so I will be born again?" He said this, like asking you, "Can you cut off your head to lend me? Use it?" You only said "no"? Are you brainwashed or what?
Finally, your husband said that if you get divorced, you have nothing, he has income, and the judge will sentence him to the child. That is nonsense. Basically, the child's care is "the rich and powerful". It is good for him to have money. In the future, he will be allowed to pay for the support. Just take care of it. What's the problem? Don’t be constrained and think that maintaining peace at home is the best result.
Peace will trade your happiness, and so will I! You are all such grown-ups, do you know the truth that toleration can only raise rape? If you wake up, take up your courage and face your marriage. Mother is strong, have you always heard this sentence? Sister
, you have to be angry, and be angry rationally. Happiness is not for unilateral sacrifice and forbearance.
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