Hello, Lawyer Lu, my wife and I have been married for nearly 6 years, but we have not had sex for more than 2 years. Our feelings have sublimated to family relationships. Recently, I met a girl who moved my heart. I knew this was wrong, and I was honestly discussing it with my wife. I think the relationship needs to be managed, so I want to try harder with my wife, but what if I still don’t feel it then? The wife said that she still feels about me and will never divorce. But I think that in fact, the two sides only care about each other like a family. I can't feel any love. I'm really afraid that I will meet the girl I like again next time. This is not a three-minute heat, but I don't want to hurt anyone, except for love, I am willing to give her all the real estate deposits, because she is very insecure in Cancer, and I really don't know what to do. Thank you lawyer for answering, I am willing to provide myself as a Facebook case.
Donor, since you are willing to sacrifice your life to feed the eagle and transform the world, I will sincerely discuss my ideas with you, hoping that you can rejoice in your merits and gain the Tao as soon as possible.
First of all, the Sun in Cancer does not completely need material to have a sense of security. What she needs is to "feel" a sense of security. Material is indeed part of the reason that makes her feel safe. But if you love her with all your heart, she will feel safe. Frankly speaking, she was not afraid of "I would rather sit on a Mercedes and cry than smile on a motorcycle," but that she was worried about crying on a motorcycle. Just forget it, if you don't love her, it will be miserable.
However, I am still very touched by your willingness to go out. It shows that you are very determined to divorce. If I were your wife's lawyer, I would suggest that her last love is to let go. Have you heard of the three elements of divorce? Freedom, children and money, you are willing to give up one of the two, proving that freedom may be really terrible for you. If you want to pursue yourself, then go! Anyway, people don’t have to get married, let alone if your heart is gone, the person who keeps you is probably useless, so it’s more practical to keep money. When talking about divorce, as long as it talks about money, the other party will often question my client, "In terms of speaking, you just care about money." Every time I hear this sentence, I want to laugh. If marriage is simplified Materiality and feelings are about to be divorced. If you don't care about money, should you care about love?
But, the most important thing in life is this But. Although I admire your determination to donate all your property to your spouse for divorce, you still have to discuss your motives for divorce. I can summarize it into two points:
第One, you have no feeling of love for your partner.
Second, because you like others, although you have confessed, you don’t know if it will happen again in the future.
Regarding the first point, I must say that true love is like a ghost. Everyone is talking about it, but few people have actually seen it. The reason is, of course, true love is difficult to maintain in the torture of marriage. Many people in marriage always only see the other person getting fat, getting old, and getting ugly by life, and never see that they actually have hair. Half-bald, with shaken teeth, thinking that he is still a vigorous little meat, and his worth is not bad. The quarrel of firewood, rice, oil and salt will further make the foundation of marriage slowly shaky.
Then comes the second point. When a third party appears, she doesn’t need to worry about your parents’ illnesses, don’t worry about your children’s homework regression, don’t worry about how much housing loans are still unpaid, the only thing she has to do is worship You, love you, and accompany you, she is the one who travels around the mountains and the river, and your wife is the one who accompanies you like a tiger. At this time, the advantages and disadvantages of victory and defeat will immediately emerge. Of course you will feel that the third party will always appear in the future. It is the cruel reality.
But, coming back to the first point, don’t you think that when a marriage reaches a certain stage, it’s just a relationship? is because the other half accompanies you through so many difficulties. Watching your hair change from thick to sparse and Jin Cheng Wu to Jin Jong Un, there is countless tacit understanding and loyalty between you.
Actually, just answer your own question. If you change, after ten years, will you come to me for the same question?
If you are really sure that you will not, of course, you should have divorced long ago. After all, domestic violence, affair, and personality incompatibility should have been separated. This has nothing to do with the third party. But if the answer is indeterminate, can you think about it again, is it really worth it to get out of the house in exchange for freedom?
If you are determined and willing to pay a certain price, I will advise your wife to let go, lest she has to push the wheelchair for you in the future. but,Think for three more minutes and life will be better. After all, the lesson that mankind has learned from history is that mankind never learns any lesson. I hope you are not the one who never learns a lesson.
