saw these two articles in the circle of friends "I have raised this scumbag for 7 years, I don't want to slap him anymore", and the other is "I didn't write my homework. I was thrown into the train station by my dad at three in the morning and sent a "Bowl begging for dinner" talks about the difficulties and hardships of various tutoring children's homework. While reading, the parents can't help laughing and laughing when they are so angry that they do a heart bypass. The world is so big. Fortunately, my family is in the second grade of junior high school. Since the third grade of elementary school, I have developed a good habit of completing homework independently on time. Only the parents who are responsible for his homework will sign their homework.
took a lot of effort to send him to a private high school in the city with a high enrollment rate. Like all parents in the family, children are the most important works in our lives, and the continuation of our lives. It can be said that they have devoted all of our efforts and at the same time assumed our hopes. After graduating from normal school, I regretted that I didn't go to high school for half my life. I vowed to give my son a good middle school, a good high school, and a good university. The
era is progressing, and the waves behind the Yangtze River push the waves forward, and one generation must be stronger than one. I admit that I impose on him an unfulfilled dream when I was young, which belonged to Erniang's little selfishness. Of course, what parents do not want to make their children better and better than themselves in the future?
pity the parents of the world! Parents all over the world have the same heart.
Although my child is not the best in the class, as an enlightened parent, I only want my child to be sensible and obedient, not to cause trouble at school, not to form cliques outside, not to go to Internet cafes, not to fall in love, etc., and not to violate some principles. The problem is that academic performance remains upper-middle, (their school’s teaching quality is excellent, and the top 800 in the school can be promoted to a good high school) occasionally playing games at home is also allowed. He also plays the game that
classmates are playing. This is a characteristic given by the times. Why do you have to stop it? Think about us once, a broken and incomplete newspaper that can be read many times over and over again. Why? The material world and the spiritual world are extremely scarce.
I have suffered from all kinds of deficiencies since I was a child, and I will not let my children suffer. I promise.
son started boarding in the fourth grade of elementary school, and took five days off for two days. It means that my full-time mother is only responsible for taking care of this little golden swallowing beast in all aspects during holidays. I will be fine if I send him to school on Sunday afternoon. The rest of Monday to Friday is my free time. I can read and write or go hiking and relax. I am a free person who has become the envy of many of my peers (mothers with two babies). I have to thank the son who didn’t trouble me with his studies and homework. In the eyes of relatives, friends, teachers, and his classmates, his son is a sensible, obedient, shy and well-behaved, introverted and non-talkative child. Haha, so this is the real reason why I don't want a second child. I'm afraid that what if I want a second baby who is unconscious because of learning or homework problems that make me live for a few years...
But this comfortable and beautiful, wishful thinking was beaten by the son's parental conversation.
In a blink of an eye, the eighth grade midterm exam is over again. Since he entered this junior high school, the intense and rhythmic school life and monthly examinations have made him and I overwhelmed, and the time has been fast, and it feels like a semester is just an instant effort. A few times it was picked up by Bao Dad. When I opened the door for him, he broke into a hurried breath, taller than me, and said "Mom, I'm back". I don't know when I changed my voice. Seeing his prominent Adam's apple, there is no such thin female voice (the son looks delicate, and the childish voice that comes with his speech is often mistaken for a girl), and even a little faint hair on the upper side of his lips, I think the son in front of me is good Strange, whose child is this? Is it my child? Was it the little treasure I brought him into this world in October when I was pregnant? This is too fast, as if yesterday, the coquettish little treasure who hugged my neck and asked me to tell a story and kissed me good night after telling the story, how suddenly he grew into a teenager.
was in a trance and it was difficult to accept...
on Thursday, the head teacher simply posted the results of his son's mid-term exam, saying that the test had a great regression, so please come to the school.
To be honest, this is the first time I have been called to school by my parents since my son started elementary school.
also thank their schoolResponsible, the child has some troubles, the head teacher informs the parents as soon as possible, it is necessary to talk to the parents.
has also seen adolescence around 14 years old as the youth rebellious period. During this period of physical and psychological transition, the child's sense of independence and self-awareness is increasing, and he is eager to get rid of the supervision of his parents, thinking that he knows everything, scornful of parents who don’t even know math homework, arrogant, self-confident and conceited. Is my son's rebellious period also coming? Think about it, since the second half of the seventh grade, he communicated less and less with me. Every time I asked him, I was dismissed in a few words. If I asked too much, he used his eyes to pale me impatiently. I said: "I said again, I didn't say it again!" I hurriedly shut up, thinking that the child is tired from studying, and I just want to take a break from the vacation, but I was too much talking.
later on more than once he disliked me for talking too much, and I stopped the unfinished words in his eyes again and again.
I became cautious, and I started to watch his face speak.
But I will comfort myself: When the child grows up, it is excusable for the parents to nag. When I was a child, didn’t I think my parents were nagging, and I didn’t even talk to them for days?
Heaven is a reincarnation, who can be spared?
Because we are far away from the school (we are in the county, nearly an hour away from the school), the scheduled Thursday is changed to Friday afternoon to pick up the students and then meet the head teacher.
I am actively involved in any activities of my child's school, and I am never late, including the called parent this time. When I came to the classroom early on Friday and saw a dozen children sitting in the classroom and a few parents, I comforted myself: "It's okay, it's not us who called the parents, and there are still companions! "
I asked him in a low voice: "Do you know that I was called over to have a heart-to-heart talk?"
"Yes, I said that I have regressed in my studies, but this time I did very well in math exams, first in the class, if it weren't the super-level question , I should take the full score!" This guy even made excuses for himself, and was still complacent about showing that he was the first place in the test.
"Then what grades did you retreat because of this time?"
"Associate subjects, none of the four minor subjects did well."
"Why did you fail the exam?"
"I didn't recite the exam, and I didn't recite it." It's the same reason as the seventh grade.
After the parents arrived, the head teacher also came to the classroom. One by one, the parents who named XX arrived. When I was called, I emphasized the deepening of the tone and said "Ma~~ Put it to the last one." My head Buzzing, I didn’t catch the first sentence of the head teacher. I just felt that when all the parents were staring at me, my face suddenly burned. I looked like a kid who did something wrong. He didn't dare to look up, and turned over a geographic information book on the desk to conceal his panic and bewilderment.
When I accompanied another classmate's mother (the two children are elementary school classmates, we carpool together) staying in class for a parent meeting in the last month’s exam, the head teacher asked, "You are the parent of a horse~~, your results this time? Improved, there is no need to hold a parent-teacher meeting." When I said "I am with her", I stunned.
It seems that my cheating is a bit early, it is only three weeks from the last cheating.
When the head teacher talked about the different performances of each child at school, his parents kept chattering about being busy and having no time to take care of the child. Now that the child is older, it is even more difficult to manage. These are all excuses. No matter how busy I am, I have to accompany and take care of my children during holidays. This is my principle, and I have persisted until now. On Saturdays and Sundays, I changed tastes and tricks for him to make all kinds of delicious food. My son especially likes to eat meat, so every week is either chicken, duck or fish. It is when I am growing up. Normal school meals will definitely not be good. It is only natural to get more nutrition when I get home. For this reason, his grandmother said to me more than once, "Your son is so used to you. He has a very picky mouth. He doesn't eat any vegetables. It's too difficult to raise!" I smiled back to my mother. "You forgot that I picked up when I was a kid. I’d rather be hungry than eat other people’s cooking!” When my son has finished his homework, he is allowed to play games. Sometimes my husband and I will accompany him to play poker and fight against the landlords. Yes, sometimes both adults lose in a mess. On Sunday morning, he will also take him out for a walk. You can't stay at home and study all day. If you change your mood, relax and study will get twice the result with half the effort. I think, in companyAs for children, I was impeccably unable to find any problems.
So where is our problem...
finally our turn. While the class teacher handed me a stack of small notes, he said to me in a deeper tone: "Ma~~, the most frequent complaint in the class, he always thought he was a good boy who didn’t like to talk and saw so many children. I was also shocked by the note, it was hidden so well!"
was complained by a classmate of not paying attention to the lecture and talking with the classmate, my God! how can that be? I can’t believe my ears. I must have misheard. I usually use my eyes to whiten me when I hear a lot of words. I asked him how many classmates in the class he knew. He said he was not interested and encouraged him to talk with me. Classmates exchanged learning experiences, but he refused impatiently. I even worried more than once that my son was introverted and would not communicate with classmates. It seemed that my worries were unnecessary.
Until now, I was still maintaining his self-esteem. I tried my best to suppress my anger and politely asked the head teacher to take him outside the classroom to talk to him alone. This person who stood before me cautiously had a little nervousness on his face, but he was stubborn. In this respect, he looked like a husband, and he was as stubborn as a soldier who would rather die than surrender. Sometimes when my husband and I had a conflict, I knew it was his fault, so my mouth was so stiff that I didn't admit it, and I even found excuses and reasons to cover up my mistakes. This point has been inherited vividly. I laughed at myself.
"If a classmate in the class complains about you, then I think you offended him, he put on you shoes, three classmates complained about you, I also choose to believe you, but this pile of nearly 20 small notes are complaining about you, Who do you think I should trust?"
"There are no 20, okay?" Strong words.
"There are no 20, yes, I didn't count it specifically, I didn't say exactly 20, I said nearly 20, right?"
"There is another classmate who wrote that you once said something like this,' My mother said that as long as the main science is good, the sub-subject is not important.' My son, have I said that? My biggest headache is your minor sub-subject. Every time it is your sub-subject. I was still there until the monthly exam. Ask about your biology and geography, but you told me it’s not important?"
he acquiesced and said nothing.
"I was shocked to see so many complaint slips. It really made me drop my chin. You really gave me a big accident, son, has always been the shy who finishes homework on time and doesn't like talking Is the shy child always pretending to be? I asked the head teacher to come over. You should admit your mistake and write a letter of guarantee. The head teacher asked me to come and talk to prove that she has not given up on you and values you very much. You must understand her good intentions."
son nodded in my bitter heart.
I called the class teacher to come over, and the head teacher asked: "Is he aware of my mistakes?"
"Should not talk to people in class, and not pay attention to listening."
"Tell your mother clearly, why don't you pay attention to what class is in? What do you tell your classmates?"
"Discussion questions." Still quibbling. Not listening carefully to the teacher in class, and asking classmates questions is just talking, which is disrupting classroom discipline. I am angry.
"How do you say that the sub-subject is not important? The mother said it?"
"I never said it, I said math is not important!" The
class teacher pulled his face after hearing that the sub-subject was not important, but now Saying that math is not important, it's OK. I don't need to take math class for two weeks. See how much you can score in math test?"
"I am number one in math test this time." He muttered quietly. This bear is so angry that my liver hurts.
In the end, the teacher didn't have the patience to talk to him anymore, and asked him to go home and reflect on it.
brought him back into the house. I resisted the anger in my heart and went to cook. Early in the morning I bought a grass carp that was nearly five kilograms and marinated it. I knew his favorite was the fried fish, and it was marinated almost whole. After being fried, Tian's fish is tender on the outside and tender on the inside. It is very delicious.
After the fish was fried, I went into my room and said weakly, "I have no appetite today. I was called to have a parent meeting. I was complained about talking to many people and I didn’t admit my mistakes. I was embarrassed and thrown home. I’m full, what can I eat?”
tells the truth, I am not angry because of his decline in academic performance, nor is it angry because of complaints from others about his words. What I am angry about is that he has been doing something in front of me for so many years.Is the good obedient child just an illusion, just to perfuse me and deceive me? Just to show me, think about the perfection that a 14-year-old child pretends in front of his own mother, how deep is this child's city! I am angry at his deception, and angry, this is the most intolerable to me.
I should also reflect on myself, thinking that I know my son very well. In fact, at school, the teacher is the most authentic person in front of the classmates.
When he consciously returned to his room after eating to do his homework, I sat down in front of him: "Are you aware of your mistakes? Today I am really embarrassed in the eyes of everyone, you say I still Can I eat?"
"I haven't eaten in two days at school."
"Why don't you eat?"
"Uncomfortable, I don't want to eat!" I also know I don't want to eat, and I know I am wrong. Talked openly.
"Then do you realize your mistakes? Why don't you admit your mistakes to the teacher at school, why do you still quibble?"
he mumbled quietly for unknown reasons, and finally made me unable to help the raging anger erupted in my heart. Well, it seems that you don’t think you are wrong until now, so take a rest and reflect on it.”
was suspended for a week to do housework at home, wipe the floor, wash the dishes, and reform through labor was a punishment from the teacher. The penalty of suspension of classes seems so unreasonable, but there is no better solution. For him who has always lived a comfortable and happy life, he has never suffered, and has never suffered any psychological shock or setbacks in life. It is understandable and understandable that he has suffered a bit and learned a lesson occasionally.
I should actively cooperate with the teacher in this punishment.
On the first day at home, time: Friday night (it happened that one of my hands was scratched and the water could not be seen). After the meal, he took the initiative to clean up the dishes and put them in the sink. I stood aside with a lesson in tone Said: "I used to be too spoiled for you, housework never let you do anything, everything is based on your study, and finally raised an ungrateful, selfish and indifferent child, in fact, since you think I talked a lot last year, I He should be vigilant!” While teaching him to clean the stainless steel bowl, apply iron balls with a little detergent, use a soft sponge when cleaning the magnetic bowl, and use loofah sticks when cleaning the wok. Seeing him clumsy and messy, I couldn’t help but want to reach out to help him. At this moment, a voice told me, “You can’t help him, let him do it himself. You are going to help him until the year of the monkey. You are already 14 years old. I know how to kill fish and clean the white chicken and help my mother to clean the dishes and sweep the floor skillfully." When I was as old as him, I opened a restaurant at home. I will take the initiative to take care of these chores during school and holidays. After
did all this, he obediently returned to his room and picked up a book to study.
In the early morning of the next morning, Mr. Justice went out to work. He also got up. I said, you don’t have to read early today. Follow your dad to work on the construction site. I think you forgot that your dad is. How to earn money to feed you and spend your schooling.
The temperature dropped sharply that day, and the north wind was blowing. I sat and slept at home until ten o’clock. I rode a tram to my husband’s construction site. (Because the work on the construction site is not suitable for him, I let him sit In the car) He is doing exercises. The difficulty of lying in the car made me feel relieved. At this time, I seemed to see him when he was two or three years old. Because he was unattended, my husband and I took him to install windows on Saturdays and Sundays when he was not in kindergarten, and prepared for him. Putting toys and snacks aside, he is cleverly playing with himself, and when it gets dark, he always asks me: "Mom, when can we go home?" "Go home when we finish?" "When will we finish?" "Quickly It's coming soon!" At that time, Xiaobao was sensible and obedient, which made me feel distressed.
today's punishment ends, let him go back to do his homework.
The third day remains the same. Everything seems calm but it can't conceal my inner anxiety. I was worried that my child would feel resistance after being hit by punishment, so I contacted his math tuition teacher Lele, and wanted Lele to talk to him and do some psychological counseling.
After dinner, I drove him to a milk tea shop. Teacher Lele also arrived as scheduled. I enthusiastically ordered two cups of milk tea for them and left with a sense of fun.
I should give him enough space and trust when they talk.
After talking, the teacher told me a question in private. He has not done well in the sub-subject not because of the difficulty of the test, but because he does not like it.Recite the memory. Humph! Fortunately, I trusted him so much, thinking that the papers in their school were difficult. He said that he didn't memorize the exam, and the reason he didn't memorize the exam actually deceived me. Now, I was finally defeated by my innocence.
I don't forget to take photos of each labor scene and keep them, and I have to send them to his head teacher at an appropriate time to see if he can reduce his suspension time.
After all, a week’s suspension of classes will make the children’s learning a longer distance, not to mention that the speed of their school is faster and nervous than other schools. When
was about to go to bed, he asked me gently: "Mom, does the teacher really want to stop me for a week?"
"It depends on your attitude at home. If you behave well, I will intercede with the head teacher and see if I can Go to school as soon as possible." I said blankly. Kanyan has realized his mistake.
"It's so boring at home, so boring!"
On the third afternoon, I went out to work, and he said: "Mom, I want to eat instant noodles, come back and bring me a bag!" I said you bring your own, I don't know. When will he come back, he can't go on talking, he won't go on dying, it's too embarrassing and shameless.
Haha, knowing that it is shameful to know that it will be shameful. Then write a review book carefully. The review book must be written profoundly. It is necessary to truly recognize your own problems, correct your attitude, and actual actions in the future, and ensure that you will not make the same mistake next time.
I also listed the guarantee letter and my performance at home in the past few days on a piece of paper, and sent them to the class teacher together with some pictures of labor. The class teacher responded: Come to school tomorrow.
My son asked me in a low voice, did the teacher agree to my return to school? I said calmly, continue to reform, and talk about it tomorrow. On the fourth day of the suspension of classes, at 10 o'clock on Wednesday morning, I took my children back to school on time. Before that, I sent a message to his class teacher, we will not take the schoolbag up first, he must first promise you that I will bring the schoolbag up afterwards.
When I took him in his school uniform, I stood with him in the corridor of the classroom he was familiar with. In the classroom, his familiar classmates and teachers were in full swing, watching his thin body look awkward because of a little nervousness. Shaking and feeling distressed, if it wasn't for the suspension of classes, he should study as hard as they did at this time. What a blessing and beautiful thing to be able to sit in the classroom and read and listen. He doesn't know how envious I am that he can read and write.
The head teacher came over, read his guarantee, and said to him: "You are not in the class to close, and those classmates have not come yet. Your mother called me countless times and sent countless times. Information, let me give you another chance. I made you come here on a special basis. Did you know?” The son nodded deeply and assured the teacher that he would not speak in class and disrupt classroom discipline. If there is a recurrence, the parents Lead away directly.
Fortunately, after three and a half days, he can finally go back to school. I let out a long sigh of relief. Seeing him sitting at the back of the classroom (the class will be adjusted according to the scores after each exam, the remaining four vacancies are for the four suspended children, so there is no choice) I can't help but worry again. It is the first time for
son to sit at the end of his life. Since ancient times, the students at the end of the classroom have been children who are let go by the teacher. Not only are their academic performances poor, but they also disrupt the classroom and do not attend classes. This will definitely affect his future studies, in case he Abandoning oneself, giving up on oneself, and within two weeks you will be in the same foul play with them and become the last few poor students. How can I go to middle school and university?
Their school is famous for its strictness. I have heard that in the past few years, someone had violated school regulations and was called by parents to automatically drop out of school. They returned to their own county to find another school. In exchange, the children did their own way and did not repent. , I went to a 3+2 third-rate college before finishing the junior high school. If
really takes him back to find the school again, he will be ruined.
This is not the result I want.
Teacher Lele told me one thing that reminded me. She said that a child she tutored a few days ago just didn't want to learn, didn't feel the meaning of learning, and even thought about suicide.
Gosh, the children nowadays are really in the blessing and do not know the blessings. Parents give them the best, but they commit suicide in return, which is terrible.
I sent a message to the teacher in the evening, and asked her to closely observe the child's every move. If there is any abnormality, please notify me in time. My faceThe teacher who believes in him, like me, hopes that he will actively participate in learning.
waited anxiously until he came back from the holiday on Friday. I looked at the change on his face and asked tentatively: "Can I see clearly when I sit back?" "I can see clearly, and I found that I was carrying something when I sat back. It's faster!"
It turned out that I had a false alarm, and the child's frustration and adaptability made me feel at ease.
my husband told me about his friend’s son in the same village who went to a junior high school in the county. The grades of the first few grades, there was also a black history of being suspended for talking in class. When I told him this black history, he was actually in a mental state. Very balanced and gloating: "Haha, it turns out that I am not the only one who has suspended classes. It turns out that he will be suspended for very good academic performance!"
Youth that has not been punished is not worthy of youth, and students who have not been suspended are not. A good student. Dear child, I wrote this article for three purposes. First: to record your growth experience. I am very happy to be able to participate in me. Second: as a parent for this incident, I should also have a deep sense. Introspection, third: Take this as a proof. After you get married and have your own child, God will reincarnate. You can't spare anyone. When you face the same youthful and rebellious child, how do you deal with it?
Long Yingtai said, "The so-called father-daughter mother-child game only means that your fate with him is that you are constantly watching his back in this life and this life." I only wish that there will be years in this life without the next life. We do it and cherish it.
Author Yang Jing: A post-80s freelancer, he is born in Bailou, Sui County, and now lives in Yanling, Xuchang. I like all the words related to beauty. Gemini girls pursue modern fashion, and are obsessed with folk customs, especially the old rules and old things in their hometown Sui County, because being away from home all the year round has more attachments and ties to their hometown than others. If you are interested in her article, please add WeChat y623099097. Welcome to provide stories about her hometown Sui County.
