"Thirty Only" This hit drama was very popular during the broadcast period in terms of ratings and program topics. Through this TV series about the love, life, and career of three women, many thirty-year-old women also began to think about their lives.
But I don’t know if you have noticed that it is the same as the plot in "Thirty Only", no matter what position people are in, they all despise a link in the chain. No matter who it is, there is no escape from standing on the chain of contempt.
Take Gu Jia’s life as an example. She is a middle-class family. Her husband has her own career and dreams, but she is the person who assists her husband to get closer to success. In order to develop the company well, Gu Jia worked hard to squeeze into the world of his wives. From 50,000 to 60,000 bags to more than 200,000 bags, you think Gu Jia is greedy for vanity, but it is not. She just wants to squeeze into a wealthier circle and seek benefits for herself.
But in fact, if you want to integrate into a circle that does not belong to you, changing a bag is far from enough. At the same time, it is not only life, but also has its chain of contempt in love.
Don’t get into the circle of incompatibility
In order to fit into this wife’s circle, Gu Jia pieced together and bought a bag of more than 200,000 yuan, and then she succeeded and met the average living standard of the wives. But soon his wife began to squeeze out Gu Jia and calculate Gu Jia. The reason is simple, because Gu Jia is not only a handbag, but economic backwardness in all aspects. Although she and the wives are beginning to follow the same pace, she is qualitatively different from those who are rich and productive. The same goes for
love. For example, Wang Manni in the TV series has her own life goals. So when she chooses a partner, she also hopes that the other person is close to her goal. After that, she met Liang Zhengxian on the cruise ship, and soon she was with the charming fact and romantic Liang Zhengxian.
But even so, there is an asymmetric relationship between Wang Manni and Liang Zhengxian. In Liang Zhengxian's eyes, Wang Manni is an ordinary outsider who wants to squeeze into the upper class. Therefore, when he saw Wang Manni, he immediately said the difference between her and the woman on the cruise ship.
Wang Manni knew the gap between herself and Liang Zhengxian, but she still stepped forward under the drive of love. The final result is to be deceived and hurt. Therefore, if the circle that cannot be integrated is hard to integrate, the final result will definitely be to hurt yourself.
Being simple is always let down.
In the relationship between Wang Manni and Liang Zhengxian, the simple party is Wang Manni. Although I don't want to expose this fact, the purer the girl, the easier it is to become the despised party in the chain of contempt. In Liang Zhengxian's view, Wang Manni is just one of the many deceived women.
Although she is beautiful and good in figure, her simplicity makes Sea King Liang Zhengxian have to cheat. Facts have proved that Wang Manni is simple enough. Before being with her, Liang Zhengxian had already expressed his intention of "non-marriage". But the persistence and expectation of love still made Wang Manni reluctant to give up this man. So she walked towards Liang Zhengxian innocently and should, but finally found out what Liang Zhengxian should have been.
This is a kind of injury to Wang Manni, but it is also a kind of education. At least in future relationships, she will think about a man's motives before he arrives. In order to prevent yourself from being hurt and despised again in love.
Different personalities in love will also cause a chain of contempt
is the same as Wang Manni. Although Gu Jia is married, there is also a chain of contempt in her love. Because between her husband and Gu Jia, they have completely different ideas. Gu Jia despised Xu Huanshan's derailment, and Xu Huanshan also despised Gu Jia's pursuit of money and fame.
From the dialogue between Xu Huanshan and Lin Youyou, we can see that he has complaints about Gu Jia. He doesn't like being controlled by Gu Jia, and at the same time he doesn't look down on Gu Jia through means to improve the company's performance. Because the noble Xu Huanshan has always looked down on Gu Jia, who is chasing fame and fortune. At the same time, the status of a weaker family also made Xu Huanshan feel that he had always been despised.
It is precisely because of this that the relationship between Gu Jia and Xu Huanshan has come to this dayOf this step. Their different personalities make one of them feel despised, while the other is completely unaware of it.
There are actually a lot of talks about love in TV dramas, such as how couples stay together, such as how two people should repair the relationship when there is no passion in love. But no matter what, finding a close love is the most important thing.
The other person should have a similar character, a considerable success, and a considerable background with you. This can at least avoid the formation of the chain of contempt, allowing both parties to have a relationship in a relatively evenly matched position. And this way is also the best way to make love and marriage last more.
