As soon as "In the Name of Family" was broadcast, the entire network was overwhelmed by Li Haichao's "dad".
In the past family life dramas, there were more discussions about mothers, but this time "Dad" was used as the protagonist of bringing the children.
Especially Li Haichao. After the death of his wife, he took his daughter Li Jianjian and became both a father and a mother, as well as two sons.
A single dad raised all three children bright and sunny.
Some people say that the state of being a father is: I can’t hold you by holding a brick, and I can’t support you by putting down a brick.
But from the father of one child to the father of three children, Li Haichao has to work and have full rights to raise children. He still leaves the impression of a good father. How did he do it?
Actually, Li Haichao didn't make a big talk about being a father, but tried to act step by step.
So, don't always think about being a good dad, "try" to be a good dad.
This is a matter of course.
"Try" emotionally and give children a sense of security
When Li Haichao faced a child, one of the actions he did most was "squat down and talk to the child".
He is willing to approach the world of his children. His sharp love for his daughter is always present. Her daughter has no lack of emotions. Her optimism and self-confidence are also revealing her inner security.
After Mae and Li Haichao met, once he brought his son Ziqiu to Haichao Noodle House to eat noodles, Ziqiu casually played with the frog toy on the table.
In the pointed heart, Ziqiu is the one who came to share his father's love, so he regarded him as a "bad guy".
Tip Point returned to the store and saw the toy being held by an unpleasant "bad guy", and angrily hit Ziqiu's hand, and the toy was knocked to the ground.
Haichao stepped forward to stop it, criticizing the point, turned around and comforted Ziqiu, asking him to forgive his little sister.
The well-behaved Ziqiu replied: "I shouldn't take my sister's toy..."
WhenHaichao heard, Zhi Kua Ziqiu was a little man, and he reached out lovingly and touched Ziqiu's face.
pointedly felt jealous and shouted to tell his father not to touch Ziqiu. Hai Chao was surprised, then smiled and touched her daughter's face again, showing her that her father did not love her.
"Childhood is not short of love: How to give children a sense of security for a lifetime" says:
The key to a child’s sense of security is that parents take the initiative to establish an emotional connection with the child... Gazing affectionately with the child is a bond. Letting go of the parent’s identity to enter the child’s world, playing with him is a bond. When he wrestles, Holding him and feeling his pain is also a kind of connection.
Regardless of the point of doing something wrong, or suddenly appearing a "brother" who wants to share his father's love, Li Haichao always maintains his love for his daughter and makes her feel that his father's love is consistent.
Therefore, the tip has a solid sense of security.
A sense of security is an important requirement in the growth of children. It allows children to trust their parents and others, believe in the beauty of the world, and thus gain the ability, courage and perseverance to survive.
At the same time, children also think that they are cute and loved, have value, and have the courage to overcome difficulties and solve life problems.
Many times, father does not have much time to accompany the child, but this does not prevent him from maintaining an emotional connection with him.
A hug from dad, loving eyes, caring on the phone, and 20 minutes of attentive company can all establish an emotional connection with the child.
Try to provide children with the required sense of security and build a strong sense of life.
"Try" on the rules, let the children get along with the pressure
Li Haichao always treats children in a "gentle state".
Even when Jianjian is naughty, Li Haichao is unhappy, but he quickly speaks softly to the children. Therefore, Jianjian and his father always have such a harmonious relationship.
once, Zhu Peng, a big man, brought a few children, laughed at Ling Xiao's parents fighting, and put on a bully posture.
It happened that Jianjian and Ziqiu were also nearby. In order to help Ling Xiao, Jianjian rushed up and knocked Zhu Peng down. Ziqiu followed, and the children ganged up together, biting and pulling...
Zhu Peng's mother brought her child to the door to ask for an explanation.
pointed a fight, was complained by the parents, although the other party was wrong first, sent away Zhu Peng's mother, Li Haichao turned around and raised his hand, pretending to be sharp, expressing that there was something wrong with his daughter.
was so puffy, Li Haichao punished her not to eat meat.
Despite this, when her father asked her again if she had bitten anyone else, Jianjian made a grimace at his father, facing "stern", but Jianjian trusted his father's gentleness.
And Li Haichao nodded her forehead really gently.
The parent-child relationship is the foundation of education. If the parent-child relationship is good, many problems can be easily solved.
And a good parent-child relationship depends on the way parents treat their children.
In terms of rules, the parents are gentle, the parent-child relationship is closer, and the child has no pressure to get along with the parents, there will be fewer behavioral problems, and the energy will be spent on self-development.
Many parents worry that if they are gentle with their children, they will not be able to educate them well. The fact is just the opposite. The more gentle the parents, the more positive energy they have in their hearts. The warmth and love that it exudes can be Influencing children's thoughts and behaviors tend to be positive.
Gentleness is also an attitude. It is to respect children, to let go of being a parent and treat children equally.
Although, children always make people angry, if parents can treat them with a positive vision and attitude, and respect the children's feelings, the children will change their behavior and obey their parents because of the gentle power.
The influence it produces can change children, and also change the family atmosphere, adding a warm background to children's lives.
"try" to participate in the care of children, and no longer be the shopkeeper
Speaking of taking care of children, Li Haichao makes many mothers feel ashamed.
After Li Haichao's wife passed away, his daughter Li Jianjian's food and drink Lhasa were all on him.
Every day, after finishing the shop, I went home to busy with the children’s meals, washing clothes, sewing, mending, cleaning, and keeping the house clean and tidy. Even Mae couldn’t help but praise him.
Although as a single father, he can't get rid of the responsibility of taking care of the children, but Li Haichao has to take care of two other children, Ziqiu and Lingxiao. Because of this, several children have a very close relationship with him.
In most cases, the mother is the main caregiver of the child, while the father is the outsider.
In fact, if the father can participate in the care of the child, there are many benefits.
The American "Psychological Science" academic journal once introduced:
Columbia University has conducted an investigation on the relationship between whether fathers undertake housework and their children’s future development with 326 children aged 7-13.
It turns out that when the father is involved in housework, the future career choices will be richer when the child grows up.
They will not set limits on themselves, thinking which occupations should correspond to which gender.
Yale University research results show:
Children brought up by their fathers have a higher overall intelligence level than children brought up by their mothers, and their overall achievements in society are also higher.
This is not to say that father should be solely responsible for parenting.
Children need the care of their mothers, but also the participation of their fathers, whether it is the education of knowledge and conduct, or the care of the children's diet and daily life.
Mom gives her children more careful care, while father has an advantage in training him to solve problems and dare to challenge.
The children also experience the love and joy given by their parents, laying the foundation for the children to be sunny throughout their lives.
Many people think that singleThe children of pro-family will lack love, but Li Haichao not only nourishes his daughter Li Jianjian with love, but also supports the lives of two other children. They treat Li Haichao more than blood relatives.
