Facing the divorce of children, what attitude should parents take? The old saying goes: "Persuade peace but not divide", and the common attitude should be to persuade peace.
Let's take a look at "Happiness Knocked on the Door Twice". Facing Luo Nannan's divorce, what attitude did Luo's father and Luo's mother have, and who would you support?
Fang Xiuqiong told Lao Luo that Luo Nannan and Qian Cheng were getting divorced, and they came to their daughter's house to find out what happened.
It happened that Qian Cheng’s family was there. After listening to Qian Cheng’s mother’s cry, the two elders finally understood. Qian Cheng’s mother wanted Luo Nannan to take out money to buy a wedding house for her younger son. The crux of the problem was that her daughter did not want to raise a younger uncle. Give the house you live in now to my uncle, and he is unwilling to pay the money. The first time the two elders had a disagreement after they left their daughter’s house, Lao Luo and Fang Xiuqiong who were unwilling to watch her divorce because of this incident discussed with him, or they could give out the money, but Fang Xiuqiong resolutely disagreed. Think this is a bottomless pit.
Thinking of Luo Nannan's misfortune in his marriage, Lao Luo sighed, why his daughter's personality follows her own and not her mother. If her daughter is half as strong as Fang Xiuqiong, at least he will not suffer from being bullied.
could not withstand his mother's hardships, Qian Cheng privately handed in his bankbook, but did not notify Luo Nannan, this was the fuse of Luo Nannan's divorce.
is willing to bear it again and again for the sake of her child Luo Nannan, but for her husband's repeated and repeated behavior of not paying attention to herself makes it difficult for her to support her, so she convened both parents to have a meal together, and publicly announced the divorce .
Divorce is a major event. Luo Nannan’s parents still don’t want their daughter to end in divorce, and they both did ideological work for the young couple.
Fang Xiuqiong persuaded Luo Nannan from the perspective of a child, telling her that it is the child who suffers from the divorce of her parents, and she knows that her daughter is most worried about her son.
Lao Luo questioned Qian Cheng. The biggest problem between the young couple was that Qian Cheng didn't take Luo Nannan to heart. He always only cared for his mother and younger brother, not his wife. The dinner was over. On the way back to the nursing home, the old couple once again had a disagreement on their attitude towards the divorce of their daughter.
heard the old Luo Xuxu's worries that his daughter's divorce would ruin his whole life. Just now, she persuaded Luo Nannan to think carefully about Fang Xiuqiong for the sake of the child, and immediately quarreled with Luo. She thinks she can persuade her daughter to be cautious, but she must not compromise because of fear that no one wants a divorce.
arrived here, Luo Nannan's parents' attitude was clear at a glance. For the sake of his daughter's happiness, Luo's father resolutely does not support her daughter's divorce, while Luo's mother believes that he cannot compromise.
Is there any parent in the world who does not want their children to live a happy life, but they stand at a different angle, and their attitude is also affected by their different personalities.
Lao Luo has a stoic personality. He understands his daughter’s personality and knows that his daughter’s heart is to value his position in Qian Cheng’s heart. He believes that the root of all conflicts between the young couple lies in Qian Cheng’s attitude, as long as Qian Cheng can change , The daughter must be able to ignore the predecessors.
Fang Xiuqiong has a strong personality. Her starting point is that Qian Cheng is deeply influenced by her mother. As long as the mother-in-law who is hard to contact is present, her daughter will not have a good life. Instead of being bullied by her mother-in-law every day, it is better to be cruel. Sword cut love silk.
One thinks that separation is good for her daughter, and the other thinks that harmony will make her daughter happy. It can be said that they are all right or they are all right.
Whether you persuade you to leave or persuade you to reconcile, you must first find out the crux of the family so that divorce problems will not recur.
Luo Nannan said that she still loves Qian Cheng, but she puts her son first, she cannot see her husband’s frustration in the workplace; Qian Cheng said that she still loves Luo Nannan, but his mother and younger brother are the first in his heart. To the wife's contribution to the family.
But it can be seen that both Luo Nannan and Qian Cheng just put the divorce on their lips, and there is a certain emotional basis. But if the key to the problem is not solved, the couple does not recognize their own problems, and what effect can they play even if they persuade them to make peace.
Parents will eventually get old, and their children will spread their wings and soar on their own. Living the rest of their lives together is the vow of marriage. Putting each other first is the key to a happy marriage.
