1. In order to persuade my father to wear masks when going to crowded places, the two of us quarreled
"Dad, SARS is back. This time it broke out in Wuhan. I bought a few packs of masks on the street. As a precaution, go to a crowded place to wear it."
"Take that stuff, you see how many wear it on the street, people see it, don’t make a joke, you’re stupid, it’s time to say you don’t wear this one. This product is greedy for life and fear of death."
"This epidemic is not as simple as we thought, and the situation is even more severe than we think. Wearing a mask is effortless."
"Don't wear it, you should go to relatives and relatives, Scourge Wheel You can’t do anything about it.”
This is the first time I talked to my dad about the epidemic. It is estimated that many people are such dads, which really caused me a headache. I had predicted that the epidemic would not fade away easily, so I bought disposable masks and disinfectant from the supermarket. Whoever wanted to confront my family for the first time, I was defeated.
is similar to the above-mentioned quarrel more than once, the most powerful one was my cousin's marriage on the second day of the new year. At first, the official document prohibiting the banquet had not been issued yet, and we agreed to attend the wedding banquet. On the evening of New Year's Day, the notice came down, and my cousin also called to notify the wedding cancellation one by one. For some unknown reason, my cousin called us the next day and told us to go there. Later, I thought about it, maybe the banquet was ready. It takes some time for the documents to be delivered to the implementation. In this gap, my father and I had a big fight.
I insist not to go: "There are many people at the banquet. I don’t know if any of them have come back from Wuhan or have been in contact with infected persons. It is not insurance."
father said: "Your uncle and aunt have both gone. It is not appropriate for us not to go. Besides, It’s not too far, and I came back after I had a meal there.”
My uncle also called me several times to let me pass, but in the end I refused, and I gave my cousin the gift money. My dad said I was ignorant and was scared to death by a minor illness.
I know that I am not afraid of death, but because as a pharmacy worker, I have a hunch that the epidemic will not be very minor. insists on staying at home and being isolated. On the one hand, it provides protection for the health of oneself and family members, and on the other hand, it is the best ancient way for the government to quickly control the epidemic.
2. The case of "I never thought it would be me" shocked the young people, but it didn't hurt the elders. There is a story about a confirmed patient circulating in the circle of friends of
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"I never thought that this disease mentioned in the media would be my turn to get it." 21-year-old student of Wuhan University with pneumonia was diagnosed with a new type of coronavirus in Shanghai.
Xiaojin returned to Shanghai from Wuhan on January 15. He felt a little fever on the morning of the 17th. After reading the news, I thought he would never be so unlucky. Fever is just a symptom of the common cold, and if I take some cold medicine, my body's heat subsides.
However, things were not what Xiaojin thought, his headache symptoms did not disappear after the heat dropped. On the 21st, he went to a hospital near his home for treatment, and was quarantined as soon as he entered. I recalled that I did not come into contact with the South China Seafood Market in Wuhan, and may have contracted the new virus while working at a KFC store near the school.
Seeing this case, I immediately became vigilant: I was infected without touching the epidemic area. The spread of this new virus is a bit terrifying.
I told my father about this case, but my father said, "Perhaps he had been to the seafood market and concealed the situation, so he caught up with him by such a coincidence."
My aunts heard it and were not moved by it. Still stop by as usual, chatting with parents. In the stubborn argument between
and his father, even if his face is red, no one is convinced. Where is the problem? I thought for a long time and finally came up with an answer: there is a deep "generation gap" between us.
3. The "generation gap" between parents and children is not a single factor, but more of thinking and experienceContradictory superposition
The term "generation gap" was first proposed by the famous American anthropologist Margaret Meade, that is, the "Generation Gap" created in the 1970s, the book pointed out that there are two types of people behind the various social phenomena. The conflict and opposition between the elderly and the young. On the one hand, the traditional authority of the elders is ruthlessly challenged by the young. The elders and the traditional culture they carry are abandoned by the young. On the other hand, they only know the wrongness of the cultural order constructed by the elders. The young people who have not found the right direction are the energetic generation and the generation who act blindly.
In Mead's view, this is a problem between the two generations: "a deep, new, and unprecedented global generation gap" lies between the young and the old.
Therefore, when people talk about the "generation gap", it often reflects two meanings: in a broad sense, it refers to the psychological gap or psychological gap between the younger generation and the older generation in terms of thinking methods, values, living conditions, and hobbies; in a narrow sense, it refers to parents Psychological gaps or gaps between children.
As far as my father and I are arguing about wearing masks, the biggest difference is the difference in thinking. In my opinion, the scientific knowledge I learned in the university gave me a deep understanding of this new virus, including its composition, function, and lethality. In my father’s view, past experience told him that this new virus is invisible and intangible. There is no deterrent.
When I patiently explained the knowledge about the virus to my father, it was a little laborious. It was not that I could not explain it well, but that my father could not understand it. The daily communication with uncles and aunts does not require great reasoning, only the visible human affection, but the hidden dangers are ignored. My father said that I was cowardly studying and learning. People live in the world, life and death have fate and wealth in heaven.
I admit that I cherish my life. Compared with ignorance and fearlessness, I believe that truth is a big umbrella to protect life, and the meaning of truth is the meaning of life. Although
does not have the thinking and experience of my father, in the current society, I am not only an experiencer but also an implementer. Some old ideas are bound to be replaced by fresh ideas, because the times are fresh, and so are ideas. Perhaps my father is also willing to pursue a higher level of life in his heart, but because of the difference in age and physical function, he has to compromise and can only lower his pursuit and stabilize his current life.
4. Effective communication that goes deep into the other's mind is the best way to solve the generation gap
Now I will no longer quarrel with my dad over wearing a mask, because this matter has been resolved by effective communication. I gradually realized where the problem was and found that such quarrels were inevitable. We all wanted to forcefully instill our ideas into each other at the beginning, but we didn't succeed.
The principle of filial piety first, we must understand that, as children, we must remain patient and calmly communicate with parents. In order to persuade my father to go out and wear a mask, I used a way of emphasizing emotions and diversification. For example, my dad’s acceptance of viral knowledge in dialects and metaphors would make my dad more acceptable. My dad likes to listen to operas and jingle. The video tells Dad to wear a mask when going out and wash his hands frequently at home. The effect is much better than the previous imperative.
writes at the end:
Although the new coronavirus is coming, the government has responded very quickly. Find out the cause and isolate the infected person in time. I believe that the epidemic will be controlled soon. just coincides with the Spring Festival, when the flow of people is relatively large, supervision and control not only require the efforts of the government, but also the efforts of each of us, not to join in the fun and stay away from the virus. Unite and overcome difficulties together!
The "generation gap" is not terrible, and patient communication is most important. zThe formation and existence of the 14z "generation gap" not only has its inevitability, but also has the value and significance of progress. Correctly understanding and grasping this inevitability and value can weaken and eliminate the old generation’s worries about the younger generation and avoid their thoughts. The solidification and rigidity of cultural concepts also helps the younger generation to understand and tolerate the ideological and cultural concepts of their elders, so as to maximize the resolution of contradictions and conflicts between people of different generations due to differences in ideological and cultural concepts. To the harmonious coexistence between people of different generations.
We cannot expect to eliminate the emotional tears and pains caused by the "generation gap", but actively and consciously guiding the mutual understanding and tolerance between different groups of people can alleviate the pains.
Written by: Three and two grass
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