Bi Shumin once said: "Rejection is a right, just like survival is a right."
only has 1440 minutes a day, and we can see where time is used, so we must be alert to the use of time. Even if it is only 30 minutes, it is used for making phone calls and arguing, which means that you can't do other things. This period of time can be used to write plans that you want to write but haven't started writing, solve code that hasn't been debugged, check reports that haven't been verified, or come up with an idea you haven't thought of before. Anything does has a price.
Do you want a "mantra", once you write it out, you can free up all the time on your calendar?
"The key is to say no."
-Steve Jobs
In the workplace, rejection is a very important ability. Directly affect the quality of your work for a period of time, refuses to produce value, you must learn to say "NO" . The topic we are discussing today is: [Faced with the non-work in the workplace, you must bravely say "No"]. We will discuss from the environment, reason, self, and influence:
1. The workplace is a balanced internal environment, and compromise is not the final chapter
2. Why do we need to refuse? Beware of the elephants in the distance
3. To cure the guilt of ārefusalā, the sense of responsibility is a good medicine, and the efficacy is brave.
4. Establish the workplace personality, shape the professional bottom line, and maintain professionalism
01. The workplace is a balanced internal environment, not a compromise. Chapter
Office has its own culture, workplace is a balanced internal environment . Each person performs his or her own duties, leaders have the responsibility of leadership, and employees have the tasks of employees. But everyone is connected through a certain connection to form a whole. Many units of have their own unique ways of doing things, and is formed by the joint action of all parties in a long time.
1. The internal environment will stabilize, and border work will always surround
. You must realize that those jobs and tasks that are to be rejected now will still be available in a month, six months or even a year later. Unless you completely change your current life, just like in your life, your children will still get sick and have to do sports, you still need to attend a tutor meeting; the car still needs to be changed and inspected; and friends will ask you to go to the party. Just like life, the workplace environment will continue to stabilize, and boundary jobs will continue to squeeze over.
2. Zero-sum game, compromise is not the final chapter
A zero-sum game refers to a game in which the players win and the other party loses. The total score of the game is always zero. , a zero-sum game The reason why the principle has received widespread attention is mainly because people can find a situation similar to the "zero-sum game" in all aspects of society, and there are often bitterness and bitterness behind glory.
The workplace is an internal environment that tends to be balanced, even if there is a problem with one's work. The relevance of work will cause other stakeholders to intentionally or unintentionally bridge . In particular, there are many non-work jobs with unclear boundaries. Just like the rule of "Zero-Sum Game", when the overall work is scattered on everyone in the team, the total score of work and is fixed . (Employees) players have a win or a loser, and what one party wins is what the other party loses. Many non-work jobs of come from the negligence of other colleagues, and these negligents will always exist, and your compromise may be just filling in the holes dug upstream. In the face of these non-work jobs, compromise is not the final chapter, but the status quo that occurs and exists at any time.
3. Carefully examine the work and analyze the work boundary
Different positions have different job divisions, and different positions have responsibilities. In the workplace, it is not uncommon for good intentions to do bad things. Even if it is valued by the leader and is habitually arranged to work, it is necessary to fully analyze the boundaries of the work.
02. Why do we need to refuse? Beware of the elephant
in the distance. Everyone knows that even if is a huge elephant, it looks very small from a distance. Unfortunately, many small things become big things when they do happen. I named this phenomenon "The Law of the Elephant". The non-work job with unclear boundaries of is the elephant in the distance. When it first appeared in the office, it was just a small black spot in the eyes of the leaders and colleagues. But when you finish this work, you will continue to approach the elephant. As you continue to deepen, the elephant will eventually appear in your world in a complete posture, consuming a lot of energy and time . But in the eyes of other people and leaders, it is still an elephant in the distance.
Elephant-like non-work is the killer of the planned work, which will seriously affect the progress of the normal work and also affect the mentality of the work. When facing non-work jobs, treat it as an elephant in the distance and be wary.
1. Every "Yes" means to say "No" to another thing
My best tool is always thinking in my mind: any one of your affirmative answers means negation of another thing Reply.
-Melanie Benson
personal energy and ability are limited, accident itself is a great risk, even if the accident is profitable. and the appearance of "elephant" must be an accident in the original work . Why does need to refuse? because every "Yes" means to say "No" to another thing. It is very possible to give up food due to choking, and the choice between one's own job and non-one's job is a manifestation of the ability of an excellent employee.
2. This is not to say that all must be rejected, but to seriously consider before making a decision
Those generalists who can easily manage their work know that the pursuit of perfection means that you cannot add more points, but it also means No point can be taken. Perfection means choosing to give up. Because the "no" we say today will create more time for tomorrow.
-Rory Wieden, "Intentional Delay"
People in the workplace may not be able to avoid some things, and choosing to accept is sometimes a helpless move. Not all non-work jobs must be rejected, but serious consideration before making a decision. When an elephant appears in the distance, it is the most important decision to start approaching, and it is worthy of caution .
3. Be careful with the elephant in the distance, it's best to keep it in the distance.
You must have heard that it takes a few steps to put an elephant in a refrigerator. Elephants in sharp turns can be turned off. But the elephant in the workplace cannot escape. Rejection is the only escape card. When these non-work jobs drift like elephants in the ecosystem of the workplace , the best way is to be careful of the elephant in the distance, so that it is always far away in your field of vision, keeping the prototype of the black spot.
03. To cure the guilt of "refusal", the sense of responsibility is a good medicine, and the efficacy is brave
We have been educated since childhood to help people in need, and this is also true in social life. We all value helping others. Helping others is the foundation of happiness . But, naturally, always agreeing to the requirements of others, and soon we will block the things we value ourselves, including our own work. When we refuse, we will put pressure on ourselves and make us feel guilty. Therefore, even if asks for help almost unreasonably, we still feel contradictory and overwhelmed by .
Below, letās discuss a few points how can heal the guilt of ārefusalā ?
1. Responsibility is a good medicine, and the effect is brave.
As a staff, we must first be responsible to the company and responsible for the work assigned to ourselves. Second is the help to leaders and colleagues, but when this kind of help will affect the core work, as executives and controllers, our first priority is to enhance our sense of responsibility for the core work. I have the responsibility to do XX work well, which is the prerequisite for me to do a good job during this time. When it appearsWhen the people and things of the job are endangered, I have a responsibility to protect it. When faced with the guilt of "refusal", a sense of responsibility is a good medicine, but the effect is bravery.
2. Just saying "no" is enough. You don't owe anyone an explanation.
Says no to a colleague. Know that just saying "no" is enough. You don't owe anyone an explanation. You have eaten the pill of responsibility, and you are already focused. But if you are still struggling with "just say no", try to give some subtle responses humorously. "Thank you for finding me...".
Say no to the leader, consider the consequences, think about the best decision for yourself; donāt try to please others, first consider your own work. If you are really correct, say no out of conscientiousness, even if you are a leader, rejection is not a big deal. Time will prove everything.
3. Rejection produces value, learn to say "NO"
Rejection will produce value for work, not excuse . The value of rejection is even related to the success or failure of another job. Therefore, when leaders and colleagues doubt, when you hesitate, you must clearly understand the value of rejection in your heart and explain it. If your rejection is worthless, then you must be unable to convince your leaders and colleagues.
Refusal will bring value to oneself. Why do others treat you less and less, because you are so easy to talk. You will agree to anything when someone finds it; and when someone gives you something, you will ask for it. In this way you become less precious. In addition to saying YES, you should always say NO. Although affinity is very important, human value comes from rejection. Rejection can make you more precious.
04. Establish workplace personality, shape career bottom line, maintain professional quality
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Everyone in the workplace has his own working methods and principles. In the workplace, it is impossible for people to do their own things, and it is impossible to listen to the arrangements of others. It is very important for to form its own attitude at work, to shape its own "professional bottom line" , and to establish a good personality in the eyes of leaders and colleagues.
1. Learn
to do your own professional work, learn professional knowledge, and improve your workplace competitiveness. needs continuous learning in the workplace, through learning to match their actual work, with the enrichment of knowledge and the accumulation of experience, their work will become more and more handy. It can also make oneself more professional. In the face of unreasonable requirements, theoretically and professionally, it can stand up.
2. Shape your own "professional bottom line"
When facing the elephants who are not working, you must have your own professional bottom line. This bottom line needs to be continuously summarized and improved by oneself. It is a manifestation of professionalism and must be positive and correct. For example, my bottom line is the quality of software products. Although the "elephant" is small and simple, but it affects product quality, I will never do it. "Elephant" is big and complex, but it can improve the quality. has taken a long time, and even if some things refuse to lead, the leader can understand. With the deepening of work cooperation and further understanding of each other with the leader, the leader and colleagues will recognize your attitude. I wonāt even arrange unreasonable jobs for me in the future.
3. It is very important to establish personal brand and workplace personality
. Among colleagues and leaders, is required to establish a workplace setting . Persist in being yourself, persist in doing the right thing, persist in doing work that is beneficial to the unit and the workplace, and do not do something small for good and do not do something small for evil. Over time, you will form your own professional image. Get everyone's respect and recognition.
Conclusion
As an Olympic athlete, part of life is that I have to miss a lot of important thingsEvents, moments. I'm almost used to saying "no" to many things.
-Sarah Hendershot, a rower of the US Olympic delegation, participated in the 2012 Olympics, and was training for the 2016 Rio Olympics.
Life is always a bit bullying and fearful of hardship. It is impossible for a person who does not know how to refuse to win true respect.
There will always be elephants in the workplace. This is due to the environment. We analyze the reasons, explain ourselves, and deepen the impact. When faced with these elephants wandering in the workplace ecosystem, be brave to say "No".
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