Recently, when reviewing the variety show "Wonderful Flowers", I found that there was a debate titled "Do you want to tolerate your partner's desertion?"
During the heated debate, Fu Seoul's speech made people's eyes shine. She said:
"A good marriage is that you are prepared in your heart. He is ready to get off at any time, but he has not left. Therefore, the best loyalty of a partner depends on his self-discipline, not my bondage. Marriage is because We need each other and stay together because we constantly need each other. When he needs and is afraid of losing you, he will be self-disciplined."
And this debate also responds to the common saying, "How much does he love you," There is more self-discipline."
We often try to prove a man’s love for ourselves in various ways, but we don’t know that the standard for testing true love is to see if he is willing to maintain self-discipline for you in his relationship.
Maintaining the feelings of self-discipline is not just to maintain self-discipline in the body and mind, but also to maintain self-discipline in all the trivialities of life. This is the advanced cultivation of a man who loves you.
Self-disciplined men will reject other people's ambiguous
Choice is love, rejection is a deeper level of love.
A good lover can use emotional self-discipline to soothe the other half’s suspicion, anxiety and doubts. He will use a sense of security to drive you into the warmest harbor in marriage;
but a bad partner will make your feelings I've been nervous and uneasy, and I can't see any hope for the future.
Before Wu Zun was on "A Date with Luyu", Lu Yu asked Wu Zun in the show, "You are in the entertainment industry and look handsome, how can you give your partner a sense of security?"
Wu Zun replied, "It's self-discipline. We met at the age of sixteen. I told her every day what I did all day. She knew everything about me, so she wouldn’t worry about it.”
Luyu added, “but many men are very Huaxin, after all, the entertainment industry is very attractive."
Wu Zun replied, "but I don't want to embarrass my daughter. I think my daughter can be proud to say that you see my parents' feelings when they grow up."
In fact, the greatest charm of a man is to exercise self-discipline in his emotions and give his lover enough security.
A man who is self-disciplined in his emotions will bravely say "no" to others;
he will reject all ambiguities, give you love, and give you peace of mind.
And such a man is worthy of your love, it is worthy of you to give him all the rest of your life without hesitation.
Self-disciplined men will maintain their own image
There is a saying before, “women are the ones who please oneself,” , but self-discipline in the image of feelings, in fact, regardless of gender.
has heard such a sentence: "Generally speaking, women are higher than men in China, that is, in terms of personality, Chinese men are slightly inferior to women. The same couple often feel that men are not worthy of women. No matter from the appearance, from the inner appearance." Before getting married, many men in suits and ties, youthful sunshine; but after marriage, they become rough, fat and fat. Before
watched "Defensive of Love", there was an issue of the theme "How can I tolerate you so sloppy?" On the
show, the girl complained about her husband like this:
"When I was in college, I thought he was sloppy, but I felt that It’s okay. These lifestyle habits can be changed gradually. I can help him, but now I can’t stand it anymore; his jeans have not been washed for two years, and his shirt is full of sweat and dirty fingerprints. Go to friends The socks at the party are too smelly and it’s embarrassing...;"
, but at this time the man replied: "I have already found a girlfriend, so what are you doing on the accident table?"
Look, this man is casual and perfunctory , I feel that finding a girlfriend is going to be all right and ignore it;
, but as everyone knows, many marriage crises are caused by the two sides' loose management of body and image. After all, the pursuit of beauty is everyone's nature and essence.
And "a man is a person who pleases himself" is also an important factor in maintaining a harmonious marriage.
Self-disciplined men will set aside time for their lovers
Many men have good morning and afternoon every day before marriage; but after marriage, they become less and less willing to communicate;
but in married life, Daily communication and communication between husband and wife can heat up the relationship.
In the variety show "IMHO," when it comes to the secrets of preservation of love, Bao Beier said:
"I go out to film, and I will video and call my wife every day. Before going to bed, I have to tell my wife that I have gone to bed and tell her: "I love you", and then she will also say I love you."
Speaking of Bao Beier and Bao Wenjing's marriage, you can use a "sticky" word to summarize.
They say good night every day, they say I love you, and no matter what happens, even if they quarrel, they still have to hug each other; Bao Wenjing will let Bao Beier choose clothes for her, and Bao Beier will also patiently accompany her shopping ......
It is precisely because Bao Bell knows time self-discipline and will leave enough time for his wife, so the two will have enough happiness.
And if you lack the time to communicate with your lover and ignore the warmth of daily life, you will find that the less time, the less emotional.
A self-disciplined man knows how to control emotions
Dumas once said: "You have to control your emotions, otherwise your emotions will control you."
Only when emotions can be self-disciplined can other self-disciplines have the basis and possibility. People who "get in harmony" emotionally, other self-discipline are nothing but painting. Ang Lee, the director of
, was once asked about his successful experience by a reporter. He replied: "Probably I am afraid of my wife!"
. When the reporter asked him why he was afraid of his wife, Li Ang replied:
"Probably it is me." My wife’s words are often right. Of course, sometimes she will say something wrong, sometimes even the wrong is obvious and unreasonable, I will be very angry. But even if I am really angry, my solution It's definitely not a confrontation with her, but usually just don't speak, and stay alone in silence. When your anger is gone, you can live happily together again."
Many times, men always put pressure on work. Emotions are brought to the home, and they lose their tempers, leading to endless quarrels between the two;
But a girl is willing to accompany you into marriage because of love, not because of your emotions after marriage.
Ang Lee knows how to maintain emotional self-discipline in marriage and will not lose his mind due to anger, so marriage can be harmonious and lasting.
Maintaining emotional self-discipline is also a prerequisite for a high-quality marriage.
Yan Geling once said:
in marriage also requires a certain degree of self-discipline.
In the world of love, men know self-discipline, which is the guarantee of marriage.
Self-discipline is the loyalty to the partner, the importance of this relationship and marriage.
Only by learning self-discipline can you protect your marriage and embrace true happiness.
And how much a man loves you, he has more self-discipline.
hopes that every girl who is deeply in love can find a man who knows "self-discipline";
also hopes that every man can maintain self-discipline in his feelings and give the girl enough sense of security.
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