01 Around three o’clock in the afternoon on December 4, I was shocked to hear the news that writer Qiong Yao had committed suicide. Surprised for a moment? How is it possible, so suddenly. Later, I saw Qiong Yao's suicide note posted on the online social platform.

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At about three o'clock in the afternoon on December 4, I was shocked to hear the news that the writer Qiong Yao had committed suicide.

Were you surprised for a moment?

How is it possible, so sudden.

Later, I saw Qiong Yao’s suicide note posted on the online social platform. She had passed away "gracefully".

"Don't cry, don't be sad, don't feel sorry for me. I have gone "gracefully"! "Pianran" is my favorite word, which represents the flying of "autonomy, ease and freedom". It is graceful and light. I got rid of the body that was gradually causing me pain, and "Pianran" turned into snowflakes and flew away!

This is my wish. "Death" is the only way for everyone, and it is also the last "big thing". I don’t want to leave it to fate, I don’t want to slowly wither and wither, I want to “make the decision” for this final event. "

Through the suicide note, we learned that the reason why Qiong Yao chose to commit suicide was the torture of physical illness. At the age of 86, her body was getting old, withered and withered, and the illness tortured herself day by day. This was an indescribable pain. Qiong Yao His view of life and death is very free and easy, and everyone Everyone will experience death, and death is the last big thing for everyone. It is also a kind of luck to be able to make decisions about your own big things.

"God did not design the process of life very well. When people get old, they have to go through a very painful period of "weakness, degeneration, illness, hospital visits, treatment, and no treatment." This period of time can be long or short. It is such a torture for people who are bound to die of old age. ! If you are unlucky, you may become a "bedridden old man" who relies on "intubation for life support"! I've seen that kind of tragedy. I don't want that kind of "death". "

Qiong Yao once witnessed the tragic situation of "intubation for life support", referring to her husband-Ping Xintao.

Ping Xintao suffered a stroke due to vascular dementia and was bedridden for 3 years. The sight of him with a nasogastric tube inserted was heartbreaking. Qiong Yao also caused a family storm with Ping Xintao's children because of the nasogastric tube. She finally chose to compromise. On May 23, 2019, Ping Xintao passed away at the age of 92.

As you get older, you will die sooner or later. But if you become an old man who is "intubated to maintain life", isn't it a kind of physical and mental torture? Precisely because she had witnessed it with her own eyes, suffered pain, and struggled, Qiong Yao still hoped that she could "die" with dignity, and that she had to make the decision herself.

When Ping Xintao passed away, Qiong Yao said:

"If you have a spirit, , bless me with only laughter and no tears, and live like a spark. Okay? Farewell! "

Her words are always so beautiful, romantic and full of tenderness.

is quite sentimental. We grew up reading Aunt Qiong Yao’s novels, and we also grew up watching Qiong Yao’s dramas. Her works have influenced too many people. There was no one in the 80s and 90s who did not watch Qiong Yao’s dramas, such as "Huan Zhuge Ge", "Love in Love" "Deep Rain", "Another Dream Behind the Curtain" and so on.

Qiong Yao's life is full of controversy, and her own story is also quite Qiong Yao's.

Some people say that Qiong Yao’s view of love has poisoned too many people.

No matter what, these so-called controversies were all taken into the grave with her death. In 2019, Ping Xintao passed away; in 2024, Qiong Yao also passed away. Those past disturbances are no longer important. Maybe we should take it lightly. This life has come to "death", and there is nothing left to let go of.

I am the "spark" and I have tried my best to burn it.

She has lived her most beautiful life.

Today’s article reviews the love and hatred between Qiong Yao, Ping Xintao and his original wife Lin Wanzhen.

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The relationship between Qiong Yao and Ping Xintao was originally the author and the editor of the publishing house. Later, they fell in love with each other after many contacts, and then it became a complicated "love triangle" relationship.

Ping Xintao made Qiong Yao a success. As Qiong Yao's "publisher", "agent" and "protector", Ping Xintao always supported her and kept her creative works flowing. Wherever they were published, they always triggered purchases and sales. A ratings frenzy. With his help, Qiong Yao's novels and TV series created myths that have been popular for a quarter of a century.

Ping Xintao is a person who particularly likes art. He also said in his autobiography, "My love for drama throughout my life has almost reached the point of going crazy." Perhaps this has something to do with his later exposure to the publishing industry and his subsequent love for Qiong Yao. His love for art must be related to romance, and he is getting closer and closer to Qiong Yao.

Ping Xintao later founded a publishing kingdom. In his early entrepreneurial experience, there was a woman who was his noble person, and this person was Lin Wanzhen.

Lin Wanzhen is very beautiful, even more beautiful than Qiong Yao. Lin Wanzhen is also very talented, but she has paid too much for Ping Xintao to become a good wife and mother and regard her husband's career as her own.

Lin Wanzhen is a first-class beauty with outstanding temperament even in today's society. Beautiful women tend to favor talented men. There were many people pursuing Lin Wanzhen at that time, but she didn't take any fancy to them. However, she was finally captured under Ping Xintao's strong attack.

Ping Xintao is a very talented man. Women all like romance. When Ping Xintao read to her the plot of the entire novel "The Count of Monte Cristo", he also wrote a note to her, "It was once difficult to change the sea. "Except Wushan is not a cloud" and other expressions of love, Lin Wanzhen was moved.

Every woman can't stand the sweet words and enthusiasm of talented people, because their talents add some emotional things to the relationship, which will make you irrational and make you close to him involuntarily.

Ping Xintao and his ex-wife and children

After Lin Wanzhen married Ping Xintao, she became a "good wife". Internally, she gave birth to two daughters and one son for Ping Xintao, and she was a good mother to the children and an excellent hostess of the family. Externally she is Ping Xintao's right-hand assistant.

Because Lin Wanzhen is also very talented. She can speak Mandarin, Japanese, Taiwanese, and Shanghainese. Lin Wanzhen is the only customer service provider for the newly founded Crown. After Lin Wanzhen married Ping Xintao, she gave up her favorite traditional Chinese painting and devoted herself to her husband's career.

In the early stages of her career, Ping Xintao worked very hard, but at the same time, Lin Wanzhen did not wear many hats. She became an employee of "Crown", doing bookkeeping, accounting, and customer service, handling all kinds of complicated work.

It can be said that without Lin Wanzhen, his Ping Xintao career may not have been able to flourish. Lin Wanzhen played an indispensable role, putting in a lot of hard work and suffering a lot.

It stands to reason that they were married because of love. The couple went through ups and downs together and finally started their careers. There should have been a perfect result, but who would have expected that the third party in their marriage, Qiong Yao, appeared.

young Qiong Yao

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Qiong Yao’s real name was Chen Zhe. Because she liked classical literature, she made her pen name with the two characters “Qiong Yao” in “Throw me a peach and give me a peach in return.”

Her personal experience also determines that she is a woman who has been hurt by her original family and is very lacking in love. Qiong Yao's father is a university teacher, but because Qiong Yao's other grades except Chinese are a mess, she is also looked down upon by her parents.

Also because of the loneliness of a literary girl, Qiong Yao fell in love with writing and began publishing works in magazines at the age of 16.

At the age of 16, Qiong Yao wrote the novel "Cloud Shadow" for the first time in an adult tone. However, her literary talent was not recognized by the school and parents. Only her high school Chinese teacher gave praise and encouragement. So she, who had always longed for warmth, fell in love with this elegant and delicate teacher from mainland China. However, this " teacher-student love " caused an uproar in the simple and conservative social background of the time.

Later, she published her famous work "Outside the Window" and wrote about this ignorant first love related to her personal experience.

Qiong Yao said: "That love almost destroyed me and created me again. I began to understand that there are many encounters in life that you must face and experience."

Stills from the movie "Outside the Window"

Qiong Yao married Qing Yun, a teacher in the English Department of National Taiwan University, in 1959 despite her mother's objections. After marriage, she wrote while raising children, but her marriage was very difficult and she was not happy.

In 1963, Qiong Yao ushered in a turning point in her life. She wrote "Outside the Window" and submitted it to "Crown" magazine, and then was appreciated by Ping Xintao. They have common interests and admiration for each other, and they gradually develop feelings for each other. Even if it's just business dealings at first, they will gradually develop a liking for each other and become attracted to each other later on.

"Outside the Window" became a hit. Qiong Yao was originally a housewife with a very hard life, but she suddenly became a best-selling author.

Qiong Yao later took her children to live opposite Ping Xintao's house, and the relationship between the two became closer and closer.

has a lot of contacts in his career, and his relationship has gradually become hot. Lin Wanzhen was relatively simple and did not realize that Qiong Yao would destroy her marriage at first. She even invited Qiong Yao to her home for dinner. Lin Wanzhen just regarded Qiong Yao as an ordinary author and did not think about it as a third party.

Until later, Lin Wanzhen’s helper told her that the relationship between Ping Xintao and Qiong Yao was not simple. Because Qiong Yao would wear nice clothes and ask Ping Xintao if he looked good. Ping Xintao has a wife. Isn't it very ambiguous for an unrelated woman to ask such a question?

Lin Wanzhen also discovered the love letters between the two. Qiong Yao told Ping Xintao: "Once I have true feelings, I will put my life into the feelings. It's late at night, and now you are lying in the arms of your wife and children, no help, no help!"

about this During the extramarital affair, Lin Wanzhen later wrote in the book:

"I still have three children to take care of. I have to cook dinner and watch them do their homework, take a bath, and go to bed. No matter how bad my mood is, I can't treat my children badly. .

To be honest, I once wanted to imitate her love of running around, crying, shouting, and seeking death, but I can't do it!

But I am not the kind of person who lives in dreamy love! I was really heartbroken and even considered committing suicide. I thought about jumping off the bridge in Sanchongpu and it would be over! But my love for my three children made me give up the idea. "

I fell in love with my husband. Qiong Yao and Lin Wanzhen's life is not easy. Qiong Yao is also very confused. She ended a painful marriage, but the person she fell in love with was a married man.

Perhaps it is like Qiong Yao later defended herself: You and I are both getting married for the second time. It was clearly you who pursued me desperately for 16 years.

Even if Qiong Yao said this, how could the breakdown of the marriage between Ping Xintao and Lin Wanzhen have nothing to do with her?

Ping Xintao and Lin Wanzhen divorced in 1976, and married Qiong Yao in a low-key manner in 1979.

But later, 88-year-old Lin Wanzhen published the memoir "The Past" on Qiong Yao's 80th birthday, detailing the emotional disputes between the three of them that year.

Lin Wanzhen's voice was called "the 88-year-old original wife tore into the 80-year-old mistress". For a time, many people attacked Qiong Yao, and Qiong Yao could not wash away that she was the "third party".

are just past grudges, and there is no point in pursuing them too much. What about love in life? In the end, it will return to dust. Ping Xintao finally passed away at the age of 92. This 56-year entanglement of love and hate has finally come to an end!

Lin Wanzhen and Ping Xintao's son Ping Yun also spoke out on this matter:

"My mother never said anything to protect us. I know my mother had After thinking about committing suicide, I was very reluctant. Although my mother did not show it in front of us, she would suffer from insomnia for the first two or three days. "

Now, Qiong Yao is gone, and the love and hatred of the past are also brought back. In the grave, who is right and wrong is no longer that important.

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Six days before her death, Qiong Yao mourned her late husband on social platforms, writing that it would be better to go back.

"The process of your departure was too long and too tragic, and it also included many false accusations against me. These have left deep pain in my heart. This kind of "pain" is something I have never wanted to face. Always escaping. Recently, I have been busy doing some "finishing" work for my life. I am about to be eighty-seven years old, and I have to arrange everything. I can't follow in your footsteps! "

Being able to die with dignity is also a blessing in life.

I was discussing the death of Qiong Yao with a few friends in the group. One friend commented: Talented women and scumbags.

I replied: At this age, there is no such thing as scum. I have let go, let go and let go of the past. The rights and wrongs of , all the troubles, took them to the grave.

Let's say goodbye to Qiong Yao. She passed away "gracefully", burning like a spark, and her controversial life also passed away with the wind.

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Author: yibao, original emotional author, millionaire emotional blogger, marriage and family counselor, writes warm emotional things in this world through personal practice.