Dahe Daily·Yu Video Reporter Liang Qihui On September 28, 2024, Yu Baobao blocked his mother. Two days later, he chose to publish the conflict between himself and his biological parents and two biological brothers online. On this day, just a full year had passed since he successf

Dahe Daily·Yu Video Reporter Liang Qihui

On September 28, 2024, Yu Baobao blocked his mother. Two days later, he chose to publish the conflict between himself and his biological parents and two biological brothers online.

On this day, just a full year has passed since he successfully found his relatives.

For Yu Baopao, who knew he had been trafficked since he was a child, his hatred for human traffickers and longing for his biological parents have run through his life of more than 30 years since he was abducted. He had imagined his life after finding his parents countless times, but after "Going Ashore" became popular, and with the influx of traffic and opportunities, the trajectory of his life was not within the preset.

Less than half a month after they recognized each other, Yu Baobao and his two younger brothers started selling goods live. Within two months, the three brothers fell apart. What makes him even more unacceptable is that he and his mother are gradually becoming estranged.

These unhappy netizens have also become bystanders. The live broadcast room and comment area of ​​the parties’ social media are still full of discussions about their family relationships.

Why did the reunion life that Yu Baopao and his family had been looking forward to for many years slip to the other end of expectations?

"You are not Yu Baobao, you are Li Qiang"

The conflict broke out at a wedding.

One day in November 2023, Yu Baobao and his relatives were attending the wedding of his second aunt and granddaughter in Inner Mongolia. Before the departure of

, Yu Baobao and his two brothers were live-streaming goods in Yiwu, Zhejiang. In the first ten days of the month, they arranged five live broadcasts in a row. After much consideration, he decided to cancel the last three live broadcasts and go to Inner Mongolia to attend the wedding. This is the first time he has been invited to attend the wedding of a blood relative since he recognized his family. "If I don't attend, what will my relatives think when I get married in the future?"

This temporary decision was opposed by the third brother. Come on, why not make money if you have money.

At Yu Baobao's insistence, the three brothers went to Inner Mongolia. What Yu Baobao didn't expect was that the wedding would feature the emotional breakdown of the three brothers.

He said that at the wedding scene, he was ridiculed many times by his three younger siblings who were already dissatisfied with him - "Look at the words 'Look at our big influencer coming', which made me feel very uncomfortable at the time." Over the past few months, the knots accumulated over income distribution, living habits, and ways of getting along were completely ignited by a quarrel.

According to the description of the video that the third brother posted online afterwards, Yu Baobao and the third brother and sister started arguing in front of everyone, even to the point of getting involved in a fight.

In the end, Yu Baobao left the hotel alone with his luggage. At about 11 o'clock in the evening, the second brother called, but he didn't answer. Immediately afterwards, the WeChat voice sent by the other party made him feel like he was falling into an ice cave -

He changed his previous title of "big brother" to Yu Baopao, saying that the whole family was in debt and had nothing, so they swiped their credit cards to take him home, " To be honest, I don't need this money, but the attitude must be correct. Your attitude really makes me feel sick, do you understand? Li Qiang, let me emphasize, you are Li Qiang, you are not Yu Baopao. I won't nod. , no one in this family dares to take you home."

In the voice, the second brother said to Yu Baopao: "I can return to a peaceful life. To be honest, this road is not suitable for me. My IQ is really not enough. I hope that your future Internet path will be bright."

"I I have gone through so much trouble to find a home, and the pain I have suffered for so many years has brought such good benefits to my family, but they are not satisfied." Two months later, Yu Baobao cried bitterly on the roadside again.

The life of the adopted son "Li Qiang"

When he was four or five years old, Yu Baopao learned from his adoptive parents that he was not the family's biological son, but bought him for 2,600 yuan and was named "Li Qiang" .

's adoptive parents live in a small town more than 1,000 kilometers away from his biological parents' home, and the family conditions are relatively good. He has lived in the yard of a meat factory since he was a child, and his family has more than a dozen houses. Unlike many "buyers", before Yu Baopao's arrival, his adoptive parents already had two sons and one daughter. The reason why they spent money to buy him "may be because the family has a big business and can have more than one person to take care of things in the future."

In Yu Baopao’s memory, he was often beaten. “I am a bit naughty in raising a family, and I am often beaten very hard every time I make a small mistake."In 1997, Yu Baobao, who was full of fear about supporting his family, chose to run away and wandered around the town. He slept on buses, dormitories in foundries, and even outdoor boiler stations.

In 2006, Yu Baobao began to travel to Shanghai and Beijing At the same time, he has been tormented by the longing for his biological parents. Since 2015, Yu Baopao has posted many messages on Weibo about missing his parents and asking for help in finding relatives. Blood collection was done 16 times in various places in Beijing.

On the morning of September 15, 2023, he was preparing to go online for takeout in Beijing when he saw a text message sent to him by a police officer surnamed Hu from Sichuan - "Now there is news about your suspected biological parents, please receive it. Contact me after sending the message."

Yu Baopao called Officer Hu while trembling. After receiving the confirmation, he burst into tears on the street. "He told me that he had news about my biological parents. I will tell you the rest. I couldn't listen to it anymore and kept crying."

On September 25, 2023, the Mianyang Public Security DNA Laboratory determined that Yu's mother and Yu Baobao were related to mother and child. Due to Yu Baobao's financial situation, the recognition ceremony was canceled. The police arranged for the Beijing Yuanmeng Charity Foundation to shoot a series of videos for Yu Baopao with the title "The Delivery Boy Who Was Trafficked for 34 Years". He said with tears on his face that he just wanted to lie down with his mother. Get a good night's sleep on your knees - the story of Yu Baobao's search for relatives has begun to enter the public eye.

The "beginning" of a reunion

On September 28, 2023, a family recognition ceremony was arranged by the police and a charity foundation in a hotel in Beijing. On the Internet, multiple cameras recorded Yu Baobao's "agonizing" waiting. He also brought the gifts he prepared - a pack of longan and a pack of lotus seeds. "Longan represents reunion, and lotus seeds are the connection between mother and child." "

The moment his biological mother, Mama Yu, and his two younger brothers opened the door, he felt numb all over and his legs were weak. He could only stand up with help. He threw himself into his mother's open arms, and the two embraced each other. He knelt on the ground and cried loudly. Afterwards, Yu Baobao found that his father had not come to the marriage recognition ceremony. After asking, he learned that his father was not in good health and should not be overly excited.

The two younger brothers said that for many years. Since then, my parents have never let go of their abducted eldest brother. From childhood to adulthood, people around them have called them the second and third children, and the position of the eldest brother is assumed to belong to Yu Baobao. My mother registered WeChat in 2013, and her avatar has always been. Photos of Yu Baopao when he was young.

Yu’s mother caressed Yu Baopao’s face, “Your home is in Shanxi. There are three cave dwellings below and four cave dwellings above, all of which belong to you. You will always be the boss of this family. ”.

He couldn't calm down during the whole process, and his attention was focused on his mother, whom he had not seen for many years. When her mother kissed and rubbed his face and looked at him, he couldn't help but cry. His mother brought mooncakes made by herself. , He cried while eating.

At the reunion of relatives, Yu Baopao felt hatred for the human traffickers, "Mom, we are reunited now, and I want to settle the score with the human traffickers now." On the same day, Yu Baobao and her son went to the Mianzhu City Public Security Bureau to report the crime. In the same month, the police confirmed that a crime had been committed and had opened a case for investigation.

The family recognition was broadcast live, and the traffic was "monetized"

This was a family recognition ceremony that was broadcast live. The story of Yu Baobao's search for relatives quickly became popular on the Internet. The live footage was gradually transferred from the hands of charity foundations and media to Yu Baobao and his family. On September 29, his two brothers returned to Shanxi. Giving him new shoes meant that he would end his hard life and walk on the road to happiness. “But those shoes didn’t fit at all. "Yu Baobao said.

Yu Baobao brought its own traffic during that time.After returning to his father's home in Shanxi, Yu Baobao's Douyin account was banned for violating the platform rules because of live broadcast while riding an electric bicycle. The two younger brothers used their own Douyin accounts to live broadcast. The content was mainly about Yu Baobao's relationship with Yu Baobao after his successful search for relatives. In the daily life of the family, netizens who flocked to the live broadcast room supported them by "giving gifts". "Basically, we have to broadcast several times a day."

The whole family wants to catch this wave of "traffic." The two younger brothers named their Douyin accounts "Yu Baobao Second Brother" and "Yu Baobao Third Brother". The second brother made suggestions for the operation of the account - make porridge from the lotus seeds and longan he brought when he recognized his parents, and make a video and publish it to maintain the popularity. "I made a video of you putting on my dad's shoes before, and captioned it Music has millions of views." On October 20, 2024, in response to the controversy on the Internet, the third brother posted the backend bill of his account in a video. The bill showed that within 3 days after recognizing his relatives, he received a total of more than 10,000 yuan in rewards.

Yu Baobao can intuitively feel that the family conditions of his parents are not superior. His parents divorced as early as 2005. His father lives in a town in Pianguan County, Yizhou, Shanxi, his mother remarried in Sichuan, and his second brother makes a living by driving an online car-hailing service. The third brother previously ran a billiards hall. "But both brothers are in debt. They said that the money they spent when they came to pick me up, and the clothes and shoes they bought for me, were all charged to the third sister-in-law's credit card."

Yu Baobao had to start thinking about practical issues, "I have this platform and opportunity, plus I will need money to get married and build a house in the future. The most important thing is that I have to pursue the traffickers, and I also need money, and I don't expect it. Mom and dad help me."

is chasing traffic, and many merchants have found them. Soon, the three brothers of the Yu family set a time for the first live broadcast to bring goods. On October 10, 2023, they will cooperate with Langsha Group, whose main business is textiles. At the request of his parents, Yu Baobao took his two younger brothers to Yiwu, Zhejiang Province. "On the way, I proposed that each of the two younger brothers would receive 30,000 yuan for this live broadcast, but they did not express their position at the time." The first live broadcast of

achieved great success. Excluding returns and refunds, the sales of the two Douyin accounts of Yu Baopao and San Di totaled three to four million. After the live broadcast, Yu Baobao and his party found that there were seven or eight waves of merchants squatting at the entrance of Langsha Building, and invited them to bring goods. Yu Baobao rejected their invitation, "I think money can be earned slowly. If such a high traffic is used up all at once, I will feel quite uncomfortable."

The three brothers earned a total of about 470,000 yuan from this live broadcast. Yu Baobao’s backend account received about 400,000 yuan, and the third brother’s backend account earned about 70,000 yuan. After the first live broadcast, Yu Baobao proposed a 6:2:2 sharing plan at his mother's house in Sichuan. He would get 60%, and his two younger brothers would each get 20%. There are two reasons. One is that they were trafficked. He has suffered a lot over the years. Secondly, he still needs money to pursue the traffickers, which costs money for travel expenses and lawyer fees.

But he told reporters that he never told his parents and younger brothers the reason for this assignment. "I didn't think so far back at the time, and I couldn't talk about all the issues openly." The

plan was not accepted. Soon, his parents told him that they would change to a 4:3:3 split, with him getting 40% and his two younger brothers each getting 30%.

Yu Baopao didn't accept it at first. His parents advised him not to have conflicts between brothers because of money. Some relatives who had helped him also advised him: "This plan is acceptable."

In the end, Yu Baopao chose to compromise, but he always felt a forced discomfort in his heart. He told reporters that his childhood The living environment was very repressive, so when I grew up I didn’t particularly like being “forced”.

After that, Yu Baobao and his two younger brothers collaborated on several live broadcasts in late October and early November in the name of the three brothers of the Yu family, until they went to Inner Mongolia to attend the wedding.

"Miss the family, but can't get close"

On November 22, 2023, Yu Baobao proposed to his two younger brothers on WeChat that they would no longer cooperate in live broadcasting and selling goods, thinking that it would be better to separate.

In the same month, the commissions from the three brothers’ first live broadcast began to arrive. Yu Baobao took out a transfer record. He transferred more than 190,000 yuan to his two brothers. In addition, he mentioned that he had previously given money to the two brothers. A younger brother took 20,000 yuan in cash, and his transfer amount exceeded 210,000 yuan - this was the commission share for the first live broadcast.

"They keep saying that the money has not been settled, which means that the commissions from the subsequent live broadcasts have not been divided, but their commissions and rewards received have not been divided." Yu Baobao said that the first live broadcast brought goods Later, Lao San's account also received a commission of about 70,000 yuan. "But they only want to share my commission, not theirs. This is the source of the conflict."

The conflict is not just about money. According to some chat records, the second brother once asked Yu Baopao to put him and the third brother in a group, and inform each other about brand connections and other similar matters to avoid estrangement. The third brother also put forward his own thoughts to Yu Baobao: "My second brother and I must obey our orders in everything. Have you ever respected us?"

Around the Spring Festival in 2024, Yu Baobao took a picture during a live broadcast at his mother's home. After showing netizens a gold lock that he wanted to give to his third brother's daughter, he had another quarrel online with his younger brother and sister-in-law. "They said I was using my child to promote traffic." His mother cried in the house after witnessing everything, but what he didn't expect was, "My mother actually asked me to give them more money." Yu Baobao said, "At that moment, my heart was completely cold."

In May of this year, Yu Baopao found out that he was blacklisted by his father on WeChat. Compared with facing his mother's heartbreak, this time he felt slightly indifferent, "I have deeper feelings for my mother, and I can't contact my father." Too much, and I feel most responsible for my two younger brothers."

When recalling the time he spent with his family, Yu Baobao said that in addition to money issues, "there are also differences in cognition and living habits, and we did not accept each other."

Faced with various speculations on the Internet, Sandi released a video response on October 20, denying that the breakup was because of money, but that the administrator of the Yu Baobao Douyin group mistakenly identified a person who was looking for relatives. After being kicked out of the group, the family held different attitudes towards the incident, which triggered a series of subsequent conflicts. "Since we can't get along, just stay well."

Yu Baobao’s second and third brothers no longer carry goods live, but they often hold live broadcasts to chat with netizens. During the third brother's live broadcast on October 24, there were still many barrages asking about his family relationship. He replied that whatever he said now was wrong, and after the above video was released, he would never mention it again. It's over. Faced with some accusations in the barrage area, he couldn't help but refute: "Don't take these things on the Internet too seriously."

On October 30, a reporter from "Seeing" contacted Yu Baobao's third brother and wanted to know what happened. , he replied: "I won't mention the past, it's meaningless. After all, they are all named Yu. Time is the best proof." Previously, the reporter contacted Yu Baobao's second brother through social media, but the other party did not reply.

To this day, Yu Baobao has hidden the content in his account that appeared with his relatives, his mother has set the account to a private status, and his two younger brothers have also deleted "Yu Baobao" from their previous account names.

Even if the breakup of the family relationship is almost a foregone conclusion, Yu Baobao does not regret his search for relatives over the years since he knows his name and where he comes from.

"Is there still a possibility of reconciliation?"

Yu Baobao said: "It should be impossible."

"Then do you still miss your mother?"

He paused for a while: "Yes."

"Then will you still get close to her?"

"No."

Is the end of finding a loved one 'linking up'? Cyber ​​Kindness Achieves Finding Relatives and Bringing Goods

Today, Yu Baopao’s focus in life has completely shifted to live streaming and “pursuing human traffickers.”

In March this year, in order to facilitate the live broadcast, Yu Baobao rented a three-bedroom apartment in Hangzhou and set aside a room as a live broadcast room, which was filled with samples sent by merchants.In this city, he has no team or friends, only partners he met through live streaming e-commerce.

Live streaming is not an easy business, especially for those looking for relatives who are responsible for "special traffic".

Before, there were Xie Qingshuai, the son of a "multimillionaire" who successfully searched for his family. He has transformed into a professional live broadcast anchor. The sales of a live broadcast reached tens of millions. However, at the beginning of his transformation, he also suffered from the "searching for his family". At the end of the day are controversies such as 'linking to 321' and 'monetizing netizens' sympathy', and it is difficult to find a balance between traffic and commercialization.

However, for more families looking for relatives, their family savings have been overdrawn too much. Live streaming is only one of the means of making a living with a relatively low threshold, and netizens are also willing to use "cyber kindness" to help these families who are suffering. family. When

was first launched, Yu Baobao was also involved in the controversy of "consuming kindness". A vice president of Langsha Group once said: "Families looking for relatives are miserable, but in this era, there is more or less a little Fortunately, at least live streaming can allow them to see a long-term development direction." It is understood that in addition to Yu Baopao, Langsha Group has cooperated with many family seekers such as Xiao Xiaosong, Li Fang, and Li Fei's mother.

At present, the number of fans of Yu Baobao exceeds 300,000, and the number of purchases is basically no more than 5 times a month. "The traffic hasn't been very good recently, and people keep reporting me." After being reported several times for the live broadcast on the morning of October 19, Yu Baobao broadcast it for half an hour and then hurriedly took it off the air. A staff member of the brand said that this is very common among bloggers. “Maybe someone bought it from an online troll. After he or she has set his sights on you, he will report it as long as he is live streaming.”

In order to reduce the platform's traffic restrictions, Yu Baopao hid videos related to "human traffickers" in his account. The brand also gave advice, saying that "human traffickers" is a sensitive word and try not to post it. "Although this is all true, but It is very sensitive, they will report these contents, and have great restrictions on the promotion of live broadcast products.” In addition, he also set a rule for himself. During the live broadcast, he would not mention topics such as family members or "human traffickers", but would only focus on explaining the products and "not give them the opportunity to report me out of context." The overall popularity of

's live broadcast room is also declining. The brand has cooperated with Yu Baobao three times in total. "Previously, Teacher Baobao's live broadcast room could have thousands of people, but this time there are only seven or eight hundred people." According to Cicada Mama, Yu Baopao’s live broadcast room sales reached more than 100,000 yuan in September and only more than 40,000 yuan in October. The products he sold during his live broadcast included daily necessities, snacks, agricultural products, etc. Most of the products were The unit price is within 50 yuan.

The person in charge of the brand was one of the merchants who rushed to Yiwu last year and intercepted people at the entrance of Langsha Group. With Yu Baobao’s proactive contact, the first cooperation was reached in March this year. At that time, they were moved by Yu Baobao's story of finding his family and drove directly to Yiwu. "Of course (first of all) it's because we are businesses and this is normal."

In real life, the "revenge plan" against the human traffickers became Yu Baopao's only spiritual support. The interview period was shortly after the first retrial of the "Yu Huaying Suspected Child Abduction Case" ended. On October 25, 2024, the Guiyang Intermediate People's Court of Guizhou Province issued the verdict of the first retrial and sentenced the defendant Yu Huaying to death.

Even though he knew that the possibility was not high, Yu Baopao still hoped that the traffickers who abducted him would also be sentenced to death. "Sometimes I hope that it will be found out that this trafficker abducted more than just me, because the sentence will be more severe. But sometimes I also hope not to, because it will harm more people."

Extended reading

Psychologist: Being abducted After a child's family recognizes their parents, both parties must establish a boundary consensus.

Song Xuhui, who has a master's degree in clinical and counseling psychology from Beijing Normal University and is a national second-level psychological counselor, has been focusing on the field of parent-child relationships. In an interview with a reporter from "Jianjian", he told the story of Yu Baopao's family After the successful search for relatives, I expressed my views on the process of reintegrating family members and rebuilding their emotions.

"There is a saying in psychology that only when a person has a mother can he survive in this world, and when a person has a father he will live better - living here refers to the living heart world." He believes that from Yu Baopao's experience, both mother and father are missing in his inner world. This lack may have affected his entire study, work, and life. It is also this lack that makes it difficult for him to focus on his own life and growth.

After Yu Baopao returned to the family, there was a very important issue in getting along with family members - boundaries. There is an understanding in psychology that all relationships need boundaries. When the boundaries are unclear, the relationship will inevitably cause problems. An important factor in breaking off the relationship between Yu Baopao and his family members was the boundaries around money and work.

For families and children looking for relatives, time separation has been created. What mentality and method should be used to accept family members who are no longer strangers? The most important thing is that everyone needs to see how the hurt caused by the separation of parents and children affects each other's lives, and understand each other when they are reunited again. In addition to understanding, another important theme is to establish boundaries and reach a consensus on these boundaries. Only in this consensus on boundaries can a family be relatively stable.

Ye Zhen, Supervisor of the Juvenile Prosecution Project in Anyuan District, Pingxiang City, Jiangxi Province, previously stated in an interview with the Rule of Law Daily that some abducted children were treated as commodities during their growth, and children’s rights to development and participation were ignored, which is intuitive. Being deprived of the right to education, not being respected for personal opinions, etc., may even lead to problems such as domestic violence and abuse. “These may cause trafficked children to face physical trauma such as stunted growth and development, poor physical fitness, and psychological trauma such as depression. These traumas seriously affect the healthy growth and development of trafficked children."

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Source: Dahe Daily·Yu Video Editor: Liu Huijie