The fourth season of "Goodbye Darling" continues to stage heart-wrenching scenes. Huang Shengyi and Li Xingliang both made people feel distressed. Zhang Quanling appeared to dissect the truth, but many of the crux of the matter were still unresolved due to human sentiment.

The fourth season of "Goodbye Lover" continues to stage heart-wrenching scenes.

Huang Shengyi and Li Xingliang are both very distressing to watch. Zhang Quanling appeared to dissect the truth, but many of the crux of the matter were still unresolved due to human sentiment.

The observation group in the studio chatted happily, using Yang Zi Huang Shengyi to analyze and make various deductions.

please! Female celebrities and collectors, you really don’t need to worry about your financial status here, okay?

Huang Shengyi’s so-called “not knowing personal property” means that he does not know how many large fixed assets, collection values, etc. there are. One month's living expenses are the entire net worth of an ordinary couple like you and me, right? You are still here to help Huang Shengyi redress his grievances, and you don't have to worry about it. I'm afraid there are many truths that you don't dare to expose, right?

The real pain is still the pair of Mai Mai Li Xingliang , which confirms my previous judgment that poor and humble couples are in trouble.

I bought a house and complained about the falling house prices every day. I bought it and had no money to decorate it, so my family lived in a half-built house, which made me feel distressed just looking at it.

Not only that, Li Xingliang’s life and creation were interfered with. He shouldered the responsibilities of a middle-aged man and did not dare to breathe. To put it to the extreme, he really felt like he was “escaped”.

Analyze this issue from three levels: Parents’ desire for control, sixpence of the moon, face and lizi.

a. Parents' desire for control

Yang Zi is Huang Shengyi's "father", and Mai Mai is Li Xingliang's "mother".

also educates people from a condescending manner, nagging them non-stop, which is really suffocating.

The identity swap game brought by Zhang Quanling is like looking in the mirror, allowing everyone to see themselves in the eyes of their spouse.

When Yang Zi saw himself played by Huang Shengyi, he still felt handsome, admired, and secure. He could be said to be a profound patient with NPD, extremely narcissistic.

And Maimai also saw how humble Li Xingliang was in front of her. There was also the story of Li Xingliang playing a romantic game and buying a Youth League. Zhang Quanling analyzed it and finally made Maimai see how hard to please herself.

Huang Zhizhong summarized Maimai's behavior as "grievance monster" , deliberately torturing himself, not to get compensation, but to gain the other person's "guilt". The "guilt" of others is the only source of these "grievance monsters" compensate.

Both couples are more like a "parent-child relationship" with clear status, which can also be used as an educational case for reflection.

"Parents" like Yang Zi strive to destroy all their children's talents, advantages, imagination and impulses, and then enjoy the satisfaction of controlling everything, a kind of "omnipotent narcissism". Huang Shengyi just plays this role, the bearer of what he calls the "little brat", "uneducated" and "can't do anything".

So Huang Shengyi is actually Yang Zi's "daughter", being taken care of, guided, controlled, and enjoying all of this.

Li Xingliang is naturally Maimai's "son". He has high hopes, arranged life, encouragement and guidance. Until he becomes an adult man whose creative space is occupied.

In the parent-child relationship, children are absolutely weak and unable to resist. But Huang Shengyi and Li Xingliang are adults who can resist on their own. But in the early stages of a relationship, they are also participants who enjoy this pattern.

Huang Shengyi was alone outside, hidden and suppressed, and Yang Zi intervened like a father; Li Xingliang's parents died and he was alone. During the draft, he wandered around. He also enjoyed Mai Mai's "controlling" care.

In fact, this pattern may exist forever. Many children who were controlled later became parents who controlled their children. Only one day, when one party feels uncomfortable, it is possible to propose changing the model.

When both parties feel that they are enjoying themselves, it is best for outsiders not to forcibly interfere with other people's patterns.

Just like so many children who are controlled and hurt by their parents, except for themselves who one day realize the harm of their original family, others have no right to interfere.

b. The Moon and Sixpence

This is also a very important topic in life. Li Xingliang and Liu Shuang both need to face this problem. And the example they deserve to learn from is Yang Zi next to them.

Li Xingliang must choose between ideals and bread, which is also part of creation. As a text output person, at the moment, whether to continue with pictures and text, or start working on videos, this is what Zhihu respondents need to choose.

Liu Shuang made a choice between the so-called "individuality" and letting go of the air and accepting the trend. Being a "rebuke" blogger, sarcastic and enjoying adulation is of course very satisfying, but the trend has passed and he is now a "buyer" "Market", cultural products must please consumers, and the model of gaining worship based on so-called cognition, knowledge and realm is shrinking or even dying out.

The above is also a judgment on the literature, film and television markets, and of course it does not mean that the niche should disappear. The cultural pendulum will always swing.

But Li Xingliang and Liu Shuang will fall into internal friction, not knowing what to choose, or they want to choose but are shy.

Looking at Yang Zi, he is very transparent and self-consistent. He may be arrogant or arrogant, but he knows very well what he needs and what he doesn't want, and he is completely unaffected by others.

You can understand Yang Zi as being conceited about "everything goes smoothly", but his achievements have proven that this may be a reliable model he has established after many vicissitudes of life.

I admire Yang Zi very much. Even though his marriage failed, he was still quite successful from a business and career perspective.

c. Face and Lizi

This is mainly aimed at Liu Shuang. A man who loves face too much may eventually hurt the possibility of his career, and even endanger his life and family.

Ge Xi is an admirable woman, independent, rational, sober, and very aware of her own demands and situation. And it also gave Liu Shuang a lot of opportunities.

From the perspective of a bystander, Liu Shuang is truly lucky to find a wife like Ge Xi.

Ge Xi’s appeal is also very simple: to cheer up, care for her family, and face reality. She is so lucid that even her expressions are admirable.

You can't have both face and sliver;
You can eat soft rice, but don't eat soft food hard.

What he said was sincere and reasonable. Liu Shuang really does not know how blessed he is despite being blessed; or he has been carrying the "aura of stardom" for too long. He needs to truly see the cruelty of reality before he can really take off his disguise and live a down-to-earth life.

is still the sentence from "The Catcher in the Rye":

The sign of an immature man is that he is willing to die heroically for a certain cause; the sign of a mature man is that he is willing to live humbly for a certain cause.

If Liu Shuang is willing to mature, he can do more. With such good basic conditions, he still has a lot to do.

Huang Shengyi, Mai Mai, Li Xingliang, and Liu Shuang are all like strivers on the road to growth. They vaguely see their goals. Now, they just need more courage and execution ability.

Let’s work hard together!