Written by: Xiao Chen
In many second-child families, parents and onlookers often notice a phenomenon, that is, the second child seems to be smarter and more witty than the eldest child. So why does Erbao seem to be smarter than Dabao in many situations?
First of all, family environment and parents' parenting experience are important factors. For Dabao, parents are often experiencing the process of raising children for the first time, and they may make some rookie mistakes while learning how to better educate and care for their children. By the time the second child was born, the parents had already accumulated rich parenting experience, knew better how to deal with various problems, and were more proficient in using effective parenting methods. This accumulation of experience enables Erbao to enjoy a more mature and scientific educational environment from an early age.
In addition, Erbao grew up in a family that already had children, which means that the family atmosphere is generally more relaxed and inclusive. The experience parents learned from their first baby made them more confident and calm when facing their second baby, and reduced their tendency to be anxious and overprotective. This relaxing environment contributes to a child's intellectual development, as the child is able to explore the world more freely and develop creativity and independent thinking.
As Erbao grows up, he will continue to observe and imitate Dabao's behavior. This imitation includes not only actions and language in daily life, but also problem-solving methods and learning methods. As a role model, Dabao can invisibly guide Erbao to learn new skills and knowledge. At the same time, the competition between Erbao and Dabao also stimulated their motivation to learn. The second child often strives to catch up with or even surpass the older child and perform better academically and socially.
In a family with siblings, children learn from an early age how to get along with and cooperate with others. This early social experience is especially important for second-born children, who need to share resources, resolve conflicts, and support each other in play and learning with older children. This improvement in social skills not only helps children grow in the family, but also has a positive impact on their future social life and career.
Physiological and psychological factors may also play an important role. Research shows that mothers are usually in a more stable physical and mental state during their second pregnancy, which contributes to the healthy development of the fetus. In addition, the birth order of the second child may make them more psychologically confident and independent because they are used to interacting with older children from an early age and learn how to express themselves and fight for attention.
Every child is a unique individual. Whether it is the eldest child or the second child, he has his own advantages and potential. Parents should teach children in accordance with their aptitude, pay attention to each child's needs and growth characteristics, give them equal care and support, and help them thrive on their own paths.
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