text | Mi Li’s mother
The college entrance examination results are out. Now you can watch the videos and see the beaming faces of many parents and children.
But there is a family in Changsha that is really special, because in their family it is not one or two children who have problems, but quadruplets.
The key point is that all of the quadruplets are promising. The eldest has been admitted to Tsinghua University, and the three younger brothers also have good grades. They can be regarded as four talented students.
The four children interviewed were also very grateful. They kept saying thank you to their parents. Their parents were also very well-organized. When it came to choosing a major, they expressed the hope that their children would become the talents the country needs.
Anyone who passes by should give it a like and feel happy.
But before the popularity of the video dissipated, the quadruplets and their parents were completely overturned.
In fact, as early as 2006, the birth of quadruplets became the focus of local topics. Even the news headline was:
Shenzhen's first naturally conceived quadruplets were born to a 41-year-old woman.
Such a rare family naturally received a lot of attention, so these children also received great help from the local media and society.
Due to family difficulties, it is impossible to raise 4 babies at the same time. It is the donations from caring people in the society that enable the children to grow up healthily.
Later, due to household registration issues, the quadruplets were unable to study in public primary schools. The government gave the green light and included them in the local dual-free education, which directly solved the problem fundamentally.
In addition to solving the most basic difficulties of life, the media also provides many opportunities for children to become famous.
The quadruplets have appeared on various major TV programs since they were young, and their parents are often interviewed together. The family of six stands in the spotlight and enjoys flowers and applause.
Just when everyone thought this was a family of six, netizens revealed that the quadruplets had two sisters.
I’m not surprised that everyone didn’t think of it, because ever since they appeared in various programs, their daughter has never been included in their family photos.
It wasn't until the quadruplets were 10 years old that the family participated in the recording of a decoration program, and their sister, who was 15 years older than them, finally showed up.
Do you think that your sister and her family will welcome the program crew together and introduce them to everyone with joy?
is dead wrong.
The eldest sister is just an "uninvited guest" in the eyes of this family of six and the program team.
opened the door, and the sister who came in had a confused and reserved smile on her face, but there was almost no reaction from the family.
Here comes the key point. The family's renovation request to the designer was to make the parents' and quadruplets' rooms more spacious and comfortable, and even the kitchen to be doubled in size.
However, my daughter’s room was directly renovated and no one raised any objections.
Seeing this plan, the eldest sister was neither dissatisfied nor questioned, but asked very humbly:
No matter how small it is, even if it is a storage room, if it can accommodate a bed, it will allow me to have a bed in this home. s position.
The designer is really very intelligent. He just wants a bed to satisfy you.
He designed a foldable bed directly in the kitchen cabinet, which can be pulled down when sleeping and put back when not in use.
Mi Li’s mother really can’t complain, what about “the bedroom is in the kitchen”? Is the kitchen a place to sleep?
What’s even more irritating is that the mother and the quadruplets in the camera are particularly satisfied with this design. The father also said on Weibo that it was “ingenious”, perhaps because he felt that he had given his daughter a huge favor. The
program may be trying to show the good relationship between the family. It is said that the elder sister, who is 15 years old, and her younger brothers were sent back to the countryside to study when they were born because their parents did not have the energy to take care of them.
's family conditions are not good. She has to pay for her studies by working, but she also has to help her parents take care of her four younger brothers.
What a touching story. If you share the story with your sister, you are not considered your parents’ child and do not need to be taken care of.
What's annoying is that 's sister, who has sacrificed so much, has never stood with her parents and younger brothers on camera, and has never even appeared in the description.
But regarding the "preference of sons over daughters", I still underestimate this family, because they also have a second daughter who "disappeared".
The second daughter was obviously alive when the quadruplets were first born, but no news could be found later, and the family never mentioned this sister.
Some people say that he was given away, and some say that he is a shady family. In short, it is true that the parents gave birth to children at an advanced age in order to fight for sons, and they happened to give birth to four "Yaozu" at once.
After having a son, the daughter was no longer important. Not only did he send the eldest daughter to fend for herself, he even made the second daughter disappear from home. This is horrifying to think about...
We have all seen too many cases of favoring sons over daughters, but as a parent who only cares about her daughter and has no concern at all, Mi Li's mother couldn't help but get angry when she saw it.
Mi Li’s mother had seen a girl’s post before.
As an elder sister, my family gave away a younger sister when she was a child. More than 30 years have passed in the blink of an eye. My parents and elder sister suddenly realized their conscience and begged my younger sister not to hold a grudge against them.
So, my mother made dried fish by herself and put it "ceremoniously" in a plastic bag, and asked her sister to wait at the door of her community for a day, hoping that she could have a bite.
In the end, I don’t know whether it was because my sister was missing or because the timing was unlucky. Anyway, I didn’t see her, so I asked the security guard to pass it on.
Unfortunately, the message my sister replied also revealed an important piece of information: my sister’s adoptive parents passed away, and my sister lived a good life while her adoptive parents were still alive.
Is this a touching story about finding a relative?
Mi Li’s mother even thought this was a horror story.
30 I couldn’t think of this daughter, but I remembered it after the adoptive parents passed away. I wish I could make another fortune from the inheritance my daughter inherited.
That bag of dried fish makes people even more angry. If you want to make up for your debts and repair your relationship, what valuables should you take? How about sending the kitten away with a bag of dried fish?
No wonder I can't see my sister, she is living a good life, why should I have anything to do with this group of family members.
This is not about retrieving family ties, it is obviously about grabbing benefits.
Mi Li’s mother also saw a family search notice, and the wording was particularly elegant: she was born in 1995 and her zodiac sign is Pig (female), and her parents had no choice but to let her go.
released?
Why do you talk so nice about abandonment?
There are also people looking for relatives, and they directly mark "abandoned" on the missing type.
There are also those parents who went on the show and wanted to recognize their daughters who lived a happy life. They cried and wiped away tears. They only talked about how difficult it was for them, but they did not consider the feelings of their children at all. ?
Mi Li's mother really wants to say to those girls who have been abandoned, If you were given up when you were a child, even if your parents find you again when you grow up and feel sorry for you, it is just to make up for their own regrets, not out of true love.
Besides, it is very likely that there are no regrets at all, and are only driven by interests.
A girl fell into such a trap.
The girl has a younger brother. She grew up in a family that values boys over girls. She has suffered all the pains imaginable.
Fortunately, she had good grades and went to college free of charge. She also worked and studied without spending a penny from her family, so she successfully changed her destiny.
After she started working, she got to know her parents thoroughly. She basically had no contact with them and only gave them a sum of money every year. Even if she got married, she didn't go back to her hometown. She just brought her parents to a wedding banquet.
But after she gave birth to a child, her parents, who favored sons over daughters, suddenly came to the house, bringing a bunch of local products and keeping a very low profile. They didn't ask for money or services, and they only devoted themselves to taking care of their daughter and child.
As time went by, the girl let down her guard, thinking that her parents had really changed and began to make up for the debt they owed her.
But the truth is always more hurtful. She accidentally discovered that her mother had stolen her jewelry. After asking calmly, her parents felt like they were exploding: "I gave you your life. Aren't all your things mine?" ?”
During the dispute, her parents showed off their cards and came to the house just to let her, who was promising, take care of her parents in their old age, and also pay a bride price to her younger brother, and threatened to stay at her house if she couldn’t do it.
The situation is easy to change, but the nature is hard to change. If such parents really loved their daughters at all, they would not let their daughters be wronged in the first place.
In the late reparation, the package is probably not sugar, but a handful of salt, sprinkled on the wound, which is painful and spicy.
Children who have been abandoned may have become obsessed with forcing family affection and parental love, but even if they ask for it, what they get is not care, but a more hurtful fact.
There is a question on Zhihu: What happened to those women who were known as "Fu Di Mo"?
had a very upvoted answer, which made Mi Li’s mother very sad.
The girl has taken care of her younger brother since she was a child, doing all the housework and shouldering the family's hopes of studying hard.
finally went to college with student loans. He worked 6 jobs at the same time to support his living expenses. During the holidays, he would go home and work in the fields for more than three days. In the first month of
's work, her parents asked her to give her salary card to them for safekeeping. She felt that her parents were working hard and she handed it over without hesitation.
Since then, she has been responsible for all the family's favors and red envelopes. Whenever her parents say they are not feeling well, she will give them 2,000 yuan. She will give them 2,000 yuan if they can't go home to help during the busy farming season.
In short, she was working hard to make money outside, and her parents all came home after a phone call.
But where did the money go? I think it all goes to my brother.
Later, she fell in love with someone and wanted to get married, but her parents refused to allow it because they were worried that the money she earned would not be given to the family.
In the end, all the bride price and her savings before marriage were handed over to her parents, and she finally realized that her parents had been using her hard-earned money to support her ineffective younger brother.
Now the girl understands and can escape from her original family.
She couldn't escape, or she didn't want to escape at all.
She gave in when her parents cried or made trouble. said she was awake and no longer expected her parents' love, but she still kept accommodating her parents, asking for money, and working hard.
My parents came to the house every few days to cause quarrels. The husband, who was originally in love, was so disturbed that he even decided to divorce.
Many people commented on why they didn’t resist even though they already knew he was a brother-supporting demon, and even took their husbands to subsidize their parents who only know how to suck blood.
Mi Li's mother wanted to say, She just looked forward to that love. After giving her money, she could be loved by her parents for a short time, and even a word of praise made her happy.
On the surface, she was in a dilemma, but in her heart, the balance had already tilted.
If you don't want to wake up, you will only be squeezed out by your parents. In the end, you won't even be able to keep your original happy life.
Actually, there are really not a few girls like this.
The eldest sister of the quadruplets is like this too.
Even though he had no status in the family, he still felt that he could not leave this home and humbly begged for a bed.
Later, when someone questioned their preference for sons over daughters, the eldest sister actually wrote a letter to rectify the names of her parents and younger brother.
The family loves each other, and everything I do is voluntary.
Perhaps, in her world, she is not a "little brother-supporting demon" at all, but just an ordinary sister who loves her younger brother.
However, the daughter who has long been abandoned in the hearts of her parents still has such a self-deceptive mentality. The final result is nothing more than being squeezed out of her last trace of value.
Not everyone is destined to have family love, but the lack of family love does not mean that there is no way to achieve happiness.
The TV series "Ode to Joy 3" also has such a victim of patriarchal preference. As the eldest sister in the family, Zhu Zhe has supported his younger brothers and sisters since he was a child, and was forced to go to college to work to make money.
But after she left home, she never gave unconditionally.
While working hard, she concealed her financial status and bought a house in a big city to settle down, but she was able to refuse her family's request for money through hard and soft tactics.
Her predictions about her family were horribly accurate. When outsiders were feeling sad, she was only grateful for her sobriety.
no longer pursues family affection, but only loves herself. Even if she takes many detours, Zhu Zhe still lives a good life that belongs to her.
Mi Li’s mother always feels that whether she grows up in a family that values boys over girls, or is hurt by eccentric parents, the most important thing for girls is to recognize the truth and give up their fantasies.
Giving up the family love you long for may be painful, but it is the only way to happiness.
Because only by escaping from this family that only asks for things can we start a new life without any scruples and pursue a new life without burdens.
personal profile: @米里马爱Sharing MiLi’s mother, a returnee from the United States and a parent in Haidian. Focus on learning practical information, educational experience and further education.
