text | Sanqi
editor | Xiang Wanwan
01
After seeing the rose, Zhou Shihui quoted a sentence from "Love in the Time of Cholera" and said: When these things such as security, harmony and happiness are added together, they may seem to be love, but they are almost Equivalent to love.
This seemingly beautiful sentence, his next sentence is: they are not in love after all.
I have read this book by Yi Shu many times. In the book, Zhou Shihui only met Rose after his wife became pregnant. After seeing her for ten thousand years, he abandoned his wife and daughter just to be with Rose.
In the play, Zhou Shihui believed that Huang Yimei was his destined goddess and ruthlessly abandoned his girlfriend Guan Zhizhi who had been together for seven years.
Whether it is in the book or the play, when I see this, I feel really wronged for Guan Zhizhi, and I wish I could press Zhou Shihui to the ground and rub him thousands of times.
Fortunately, Zhizhi's little sister in the play gave out this bad breath, which really relieved her hatred.
What I hate is not the story itself, but the person I see through the story, the thousands of female compatriots who share the same fate.
When Zhou Shihui and Guan Zhizhi received the certificate, they said: Marriage without love is immoral, so he decided to regret the marriage.
Seven years, how many seven years does a girl have?
It was clear that Zhizhi was not wrong. In the past seven years, Zhou Shihui thanked Zhizhi for all her efforts, but in the end he betrayed her for a rose he had met once, leaving her in the predicament of being despised by everyone.
looked at Guan Zhizhi crying and saying that she must get married today, even if she divorces tomorrow, I felt really distressed and sad. Isn't this a true portrayal of thousands of women who are being forced into marriage by their parents!
Even if you don't love her, even if you are let down, in order to give her parents and relatives an explanation, she is willing to divorce the day after getting married.
When I saw Zhou Shihui seeing the rose, he really smiled from the bottom of his heart.
Because he really loves roses. I read the book five times. When I watched the show again, what I wanted to tell women the most was not the hateful things about Zhou Shihui in the book or the show, because these are all It's an insignificant thing, nothing more than a point for emotional catharsis.
What is really useful and worthy of happiness is Rose's particularly good view on marriage and love.
The elder brother questioned Rose, and Zhou Shihui regretted his marriage for her.
Faced with her brother's questioning, she said something like this: "Repenting of the marriage, what does it have to do with me?" Does his fiancée still want him? I despise such women.
Can you get married simply by having courage? Rose sees this clearly. Marriage requires three consistent views. Marriage is not something that one person can do just because he or she wants to.
You know clearly that the other person has made a mistake, but you are still willing to work hard to make things right and wait for him to come back. This is the person you look down on.
In the eyes of Rose, girls should dress themselves up in a flashy way. They should focus on being themselves before and after marriage. They should never lose themselves at any time.
Zhizhi and Zhou Shihui have been in love for seven years, and she is reluctant to give up the seven years they have been together.
However, she did not get Zhou Shihui's love and respect, but only Zhou Shihui abandoned her because he loved others. When Zhou Shihui said he regretted their marriage, she should have joined forces with her sisters to severely retaliate against the scumbag, making him pay for the seven years he had spent on her and letting him know that she was not someone to be bullied.
But, she didn't.
She just blindly looked for trouble with Rose and cried about how difficult it was for her to be in this relationship.
02
Just like what Rose said, you men just treat your feelings like clothes, and throw them away when they are old. Women also treat their feelings like clothes. They keep them for three years, then mend them for another three years.
Zhou Shihui himself had problems, but Guan Zhizhi's connivance amplified Zhou Shihui's irresponsible nature.
Many women who are loveless and sexless live happily.
It’s not about how good the men they meet are, but that they understand how to handle love and refuse internal friction.
Zhou Shihui regretted his marriage and announced to the world that he loved roses, leaving roses in rumors. When her parents questioned her, she said, "You just don't believe me. Aren't you just trying to seduce a married man?" I think.Rose will not fall in love with someone she doesn't like.
Because Rose is a girl who dares to love and hate, both in the book and in the play. "Time is precious, love first before you say enough".
Zhou Shihui made an appointment with Mei Mei for dinner. Mei Mei admired the surrounding scenery and the food in front of her with the heart of a junior. But Zhou Shihui wanted to give her a carefully selected gift to express his love to her.
She refused immediately.
Because of Zhou Shihui's incident, Rose was scolded by her brother, scolded by her parents, and ridiculed by her colleagues. But she endured all these things. She felt that she didn't do this and there was no need to care.
03
Love or not, roses bloom freely.
Zhou Shihui's selfishness made Rose's situation extremely difficult, but she was not afraid.
"The world is in front of me, pointing to wherever I want to go. I am completely and absolutely in charge of me."
Every time I see this, I see the rose smiling like this in this situation. I really like this girl, she is so transparent at such a young age.
She doesn't love a man, but she has no choice but to do this for her, so she doesn't care what others think of her or say about her. She won't be internally frustrated because of it. She wants to live her own life.
can't help but sigh: Miss Huang Yimei should be loved by thousands of people, loyal to her heart, passionate and free, and full of vitality.
There are still many little boys who like roses, even if Zhou Shihui's story spread. They would come to see Rose at home and send her flowers and gifts. Even if they were rejected by Rose's family many times, they would still wait at the door.
Rose knew that she had no true feelings for these little boys. She clearly refused. She also made it clear to her family that she would not accept any benefits from them.
Because these are not what she likes, she will not stop. What awaits her is a grand bloom, a miracle of time. Wherever the rose passes, there are scenery along the way, and a very open mind.
Although Rose is young, she has her own view of right and wrong in love, as well as her own persistence and bottom line.
If a woman doesn't even have the freedom to touch love, and can't even bear the hurt in her relationship, it's hard to imagine how such a "strong" person can face the more layered problems in the real world. Huang Yimei explores not only love, but also her own brilliant, passionate and free life.
Many girls actually realize that they are not suitable for each other when they are in love.
They quarreled, they blamed each other hoarsely, their hearts were broken, and they lost their love, but they still entered the palace of marriage together because they were reluctant to part with the time they had spent.
In their traditional concepts, two people can't live without quarreling. It's better to get married or have children. But I have never thought about it. This was already the case when we were in love. How to deal with the mess after marriage?
Guan Zhizhi regretted her marriage to Zhou Shihui. She complained everywhere and made trouble for Rose. Huang Zhenhua taught her that the person who tied the bell must also tie the bell to untie it.
04
Which woman has never encountered a scumbag in her life?
Especially as we get older and older, family members are afraid that they will not be able to get married, that they will be picked on, that they will not find a good wife, and that many girls who were originally calm have turned their persistence into It's about to end.
Therefore, when Zhou Shihui regretted his marriage, Guan Zhizhi said that all relatives knew that he was getting married, and they would rather register for divorce today than it would be okay tomorrow.
is like a female friend who said: "Every day when I go to work and get off work, I can't wait to get 36 calls urging me every day. It's like if I don't get married, it is something that is not allowed by nature. Under the urging of my parents, I have no choice but to make do with it. Marry someone. "
But is it useful to marry someone?
Rose in the book said: "Zhou Shihui doesn't understand love, because he gets married and has children when the time comes. You all don't understand love. Love cannot control choices at all. This is not a question of whether I am in a hurry or not. Love is like a plague, it will come when it comes. "
Many women will say that love is hard to come by.
But this is just life.
In this life, the road will not always be smooth. Only by stacking up setbacks, big and small, can we achieve a perfect life. If you can't control these setbacks, why not face them and learn from the rose? Why not just break up? Will it affect my eating? My steps never stop for men.
Every time I watch "The Story of a Rose", I think about a question.
If Guan Zhizhi continues to live with Zhou Shihui, will she be happy? If Zhou Shihui had not met Rose, would he be happy?
The answer is that no matter who Guan Zhizhi is with during this period, she will not be happy. Because she does not have the courage and wisdom of Rose, even if she makes the wrong choice, she still has the determination and courage to start over.
Because Rose understands that love is very important, but people cannot have only love, otherwise it will consume you in turn.
"This person must be able to work and enjoy life at the same time." Love yourself well, this is really important!
