Compared with the harsh criticism and harshness of public opinion towards women in the past, modern society is more tolerant. Marriage is not a must for women. It is more attractive and attractive for women to concentrate on their careers.
The consumption of marriage on women is in sharp contrast with the mutual understanding and growth between female friends. The friendship between women is more worthy of discussion and aftertaste, and it has also become a new topic on the big screen.
"Thirty-nine" starring Son Ye-jin describes the friendship between three 39-year-old middle-aged girls as well as their respective love and family relationships.
middle-aged
Haiqing once published a speech about "middle-aged actresses" at the "First Youth Film Exhibition", lamenting the current situation of the industry where middle-aged actresses have no roles to film and the market is not inclined. This is true for actors, not to mention every middle-aged man and middle-aged woman who is struggling for a living.
What does it mean to be middle-aged? Physically, my physical strength is not as good as before, I get tired easily, I can't stay up late, my skin begins to sag, and my complexion starts to look haggard; from a family perspective, there are elderly people who need to be taken care of, and children who are still underage, and a 40-year-old person is caught in the middle. Don't dare to stop, don't dare to complain about being tired; from a career perspective, when a person reaches middle age, he is the mainstay of the unit, responsible for the superiors and managing the subordinates. Of course, there are still many middle-aged people who have mortgages and car loans, but are facing layoffs and layoffs, and their lives are even more miserable.
A 40-year-old middle-aged woman is more like a top, being whipped around by life.
Married middle-aged women, in addition to tutoring their children, supporting the elderly and other trivial matters of life, also need to beware of mistresses. Unmarried middle-aged women, in addition to having to deal with the marriage orders from their three aunts and six mothers-in-law, will also be in a dilemma whether to enter the siege of marriage. On the one hand, they long for love, and on the other hand, they compromise with reality.
In addition to dealing with career and family, fate may give you a blow in the head, and you cannot even decide your own life.
"Thirty-nine" tells such a story, a story of three single middle-aged women supporting each other and redeeming each other.
The beautiful Cha Meizhao is the director of a beauty salon and has a successful career, but is troubled by anxiety; the cautious Jang Joo-hee is a department store manager, and she never dares to go too far as a single mother; the cheerful Zheng Canying is an acting teacher , there was a married boyfriend whom she loved deeply but could not be with. Before he turned 40, he was suddenly diagnosed with cancer and had only three months left to live.
The story revolves around Zheng Canying's life countdown.
Facing a terminal illness, what is the protagonist’s choice? Faced with the fact that your best friend is about to pass away, as a friend, how should you choose?
In the play, the relationship between the three people is portrayed in a delicate way so that it is real and touching, making it easy to cry.
Choose
active treatment or give up treatment? Active treatment means endless chemotherapy, a sharp decline in quality of life, and having to stay in the hospital during the last period of life. Giving up treatment means using the remaining life to say a final goodbye to life.
Faced with an unloved lover, faced with elderly and hard-working parents, and faced with friends who are as close as sisters, Zheng Canying chose to give up treatment and use her last time to make up for the regrets in her life.
The whole drama uses a montage technique, and the beginning of each episode will show a period of student life, thus making the friendship between the three people more three-dimensional, more concrete, and more supportive. The friendship between the three lasts throughout their youth, which provides the most delicate explanation for the reactions of the other two when they learned that their best friend had cancer.
The beautiful Che Meizhao was an orphan who had been abandoned twice. Although the family that adopted her later loved her and her adoptive parents treated her like their own daughter, her inner insecurity and inferiority complex made her Suffering from anxiety and severe sleep disorders.
Faced with the news that her best friend is about to die, Cha Meizhao's devastated mood and her complaints against Kim Jin-seok can all be found in her life experience. She is afraid of losing friends who are like family members, and she is even more afraid of loneliness. Therefore, she gave up her plan to go abroad and decided to stay with her best friend, making her the happiest cancer patient.
The cautious Zhang Zhuxi just cried and cried non-stop when faced with such bad news. This was also related to her personality.Jang Joo Hee is a good girl. She didn't dare to skip classes when she was a child. At work, when faced with customers' provocations, she would just grit her teeth and swallow. When he learned about his best friend's condition, he stupidly chopped up his winning lottery ticket, hoping that his fourth prize would buy his friend four years of life.
is like this, the friendship between the three is small, real and simple.
While Cha Meizhao and Jang Zhuxi worked tirelessly to make their best friend the happiest cancer patient, Zheng Canying's wish was to help Meizhao find her biological mother and Zhuxi find love before the end of her life.
In helping each other, the three of them got to know themselves again, gradually reconciled with themselves, and gained their own love.
About love
Love is completely a foil in this drama.
Because friendship is beautiful enough.
The protagonist Cha Meizhao can leave her boyfriend at any time because of her best friend. Jang Zhuxi's boyfriend is only an observer and attendee of the three-person meeting and has no right to speak at all.
As for the married man Zheng Canying has always loved, although he divorced for her and committed to marrying her, he was flatly rejected by her.
Zheng Canying has been thinking about how to leave this world, whether to leave silently or to say goodbye to the world. When he picked up his original dream of being an actor, he realized that it would be too cruel for his family and friends to completely disappear from this world. Missing him is not a bad thing, leaving a little evidence of his existence to the world, both for himself and for others. Family is the best farewell.
Therefore, Zheng Canying starred in the only TV series in her life.
remembers that when I was in college, the teacher asked me this question in one class: when life reaches the end, if you can only complete three things, what will you choose to do? Zheng Canying in the
drama also faces such life problems. Looking back on his life, although love is important, it is not that important.
The parents who worked hard to raise me up, the dreams that they gave up for the sake of life, the friends who have always been silently by their side, compared with these, love accounts for a very small proportion of life.
Love can be the icing on the cake, but it is too thin to provide help in times of need.
Farewell
The real disappearance is not death, but forgetfulness.
In "Coco", people gather together happily in the face of death, with neither tears nor sadness, because the most terrifying thing is not the end of life, but being forgotten by the one you love.
Chanying's friends held a farewell party before her death. Chanying smiled and said words that made her cry when she faced her confidants, friends, and colleagues in her life, the friends she wanted to invite to her memorial service. .
"Quality is more important than duration. I have lived a really good life in my life."
After Chanying passed away, people could miss her by watching the TV series she starred in, miss her while fulfilling her wishes, and be passionate and good about her. Life is not only the greatest comfort to the dead, but also the best salvation to the living.
Death is not only the opposite of life, but also the complement of life. No one is afraid of death, but life can be immortal because of love.
