Before the holiday, I talked with my colleagues in the editorial department about Ariel Ariel ’s new drama "We Are Not Kind Enough", which is so good! Although
has been updated, it has too much stamina!
This drama very accurately tells the dilemma and unspeakable situation of women after marriage.
has a plot that is particularly subtle.
heroine Jian Qingfen has always been called "green tea" by netizens because she knows how to use her own strengths to achieve what she wants, has firm goals and has her own ideas.
After her mother contracted Alzheimer's disease, Jian Qingfen passed it on to her eldest brother and sister-in-law.
Although her husband never forgot his first love, she also used some tricks to win her over.
Although her pre-marriage life was not about getting everything she wanted, she could get whatever she expected through her own cleverness.
All this changed after she got married.
After her mother-in-law became paralyzed, she was forced by her husband to quit her job even though she was unwilling to do so. She has been taking care of the elderly and children at home, but her husband ignored her.
Taking care of patients is the most difficult thing, and it is repeated every day. Let her feel no value and be on the verge of emotional collapse at any time.
Once my mother-in-law went to the toilet and due to incontinence, she left excrement all over the floor and walls.
Jian Qingfen, who had been suppressed for a long time, exploded and scolded her several times.
When his son saw this, he begged Jian Qingfen to stop scolding her grandma.
The child turned his head and stepped on the poop. He immediately burst into tears and asked for help: "Mom, I stepped on the poop."
Why do you say this plot is very subtle?
This is the most intuitive manifestation of human nature. Did
find it?
Everyone can only see the problem from their own perspective and cannot truly understand the feelings of others.
Many people think that when women complain about hardship and tiredness after marriage, they are just complaining and hypocritical.
As everyone knows, the hearts of those "mothers" and "wives" who continue to contribute but see no response have already died countless times.
I suddenly thought of a post I saw some time ago.
It asked,
"What is the most hurtful thing your husband has ever said to you?"
Several high-like answers in the comment area are as follows:
@ Target Weight Loss Success
I was breastfeeding, and he said that your belly looks like a sow. He laughed, and his mother laughed too.
@lulu
He said: Whoever you marry will have children, so don’t always talk about how great it is to have children for me. This sentence should be something I will remember for a lifetime.
@大树
Don’t think that I will sympathize with you just because you cry.
We all know that sometimes the thing that crushes a marriage is not an earth-shattering event.
Some small actions and casual words determine the stability of the relationship between two people.
I collected some answers from sisters on the Internet and let’s experience them together.
Today we have a confessional session.
Let’s talk about what behaviors of your partner made you feel heartbroken for a moment?
He has paid so much
but he feels he deserves it
@ Cui Xiaowan
I said it was hard for me to breastfeed my child, but you only know how to play games. He said, "What else can I do if I don't play games? You have two breasts. The child will stop crying once he feeds from you. I don't have two breasts."
@jjjjj
I don't have a good relationship with my parents. My husband said something my dad said about me. After a quarrel, he said no wonder your dad said something about you. From that moment on, I didn’t love him anymore. A feeling that my heart suddenly became cold.
@Hey? !
beat me, and called the police every time we had a quarrel, saying that I scolded him; "You are just a child that no one wants." Yes, I am a girl from a divorced family. My biological parents don't want me. I take care of myself by myself. I cried a lot when he was violently raping me. I cried for a long time. I think I will never forget it until I die.
Don’t think that I will love you after you get married. I just can’t marry anyone. I want to get married. Marrying you will save trouble;
After I give birth to your child, I hope that I can have sex once a year. If you need it, you can solve it yourself. I have never been clear about what marriage is.
@Dudu
"You are too sensitive, no wonder you have no friends"
He was also the first person to dislike me when he said I was raising you
@ secular
I recently suffered a sprain and fracture and was recuperating at home. The TV at home is too old. I want to buy a new TV to watch. My husband said, you don’t make money at home every day, but you still want to spend money.
@五百
In the early stages of pregnancy, the doctor told me to stay in bed because of bleeding. My mother has three days before she can come over to help, so she asks her husband to make some breakfast at 9 o'clock in the morning. He said why others can still go to work when they are pregnant, but you can't do anything and have to cook for you every day. Who do you think you are?
@你鱼
Ex-husband: You can’t find a job close to home because you are incompetent. If you want to blame, just blame yourself for marrying me because of bad luck.
@杨多拉
He didn’t let me go out to work. In the end, he said that he supported our family without any regrets (we have three mothers and he said that he supported our family). He also said that I am not even half as good as other women...
A person no longer loves you
It’s all hidden in the details
@上山春暖
I was pregnant with my daughter for a few days, but he asked me to keep my son, and he didn’t want the baby in my belly. He told me to get out, his family Where there are no buses, you have to walk more than ten miles to where there are buses.
@元火热
“Why are you nervous? I have never heard of any woman giving birth to a child alive or dead.”
@青lux雨
I had constipation during pregnancy and it was inconvenient to go to the toilet. He asked me to go back to his hometown with him. The toilets in his hometown in rural areas are like that. I said it was inconvenient for me to use the dry toilet, but he said I was hypocritical and looked down on his family, so why did I marry him in the first place.
@sso
In the afternoon of the day when he received the new birthday gift I bought him (a tablet and a pen), we went for a walk together and came back to sleep. I asked him if he was dreaming? He said he dreamed of divorcing me. After a sleepless night, he said that he didn't want to be married anymore and wanted to get divorced. He had been in a relationship for five years and been married for nine years, and it suddenly ended like this.
I don’t feel sorry for you
I just don’t feel for you
@倪雅
I asked him to change the baby’s diaper at three o’clock in the morning. He was so fierce that he couldn’t talk to me because he was afraid of sudden death.
@141414
He said that he was with me because I was easy to talk to. After the quarrel, he said a lot of unpleasant things. He said that I was targeting you. He was very sad and felt very uncomfortable.
@比奇奇大王
The prospects for unit reform are unclear. I can’t go where I want to go. So I was asked to come up with an idea. I am just a small low-level employee. I came up with an idea and the result was done. Things didn't go well, and the first thing I said when I came back in the evening was, it was all your bad idea! It means I have hit a wall and been scolded by my boss...I really...can't mourn more than my heart is broken. I have been married for seven years and I haven't learned to shut up. I'm such a pig!
@ Ziyehuihui
“ You pursue perfection so much that you have conflicts with everyone. You can only live with your parents, because they think everything you do is right."
@stinky egg
I am a junior college student and he is an undergraduate. He said that I should "go to trade school and go back to have babies"!
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Seeing this,
some sisters may feel the same way,
some sisters may also feel the same. I have a question in my mind: Is there really no such thing as a bad marriage?
I also found a few sparsely in the comment area.
really agrees with that sentence. An absolutely happy marriage is like a ghost. Listen. I have said that, I have never seen it.
Everyone has his or her own misfortunes in middle age.
Sometimes, choosing marriage is equivalent to choosing a life of chaos.
But I am definitely not telling you this. You have lost confidence in your marriage and feel that you are at the end of the road.
I want more people to pay attention to the various problems that women encounter after marriage.
Some people say that it is 2024 and they are still filming and talking about the plight of women.
It is actually 2024. Women are still trapped.
Don’t say that women want too much.
In fact, they want very little.
They only need a little care, a little understanding, a little sharing, and a little recognition.
Even if it’s just a little...
.