text | MiLi's mother
A few days ago, MiLi's mother came across a video. A Haidian mother posted the weekend schedule of her third-grade son, and the comment section went viral.
Let’s take a look at how this Haidian third-grade primary school student arranges his schedule from Friday afternoon to Sunday
[Friday]
1, volleyball - after school on Friday afternoon, school club;
2, foreign teacher class - return from school Home, take 1 hour of online foreign teacher classes (5 foreign teacher classes a week);
3, speech class - offline, near home;
4, thinking class - go home and have dinner, online thinking class;
5, homework ——After completing all the above courses, start doing school homework at 20:30 in the evening.
[Saturday]
1, English class - you are allowed to sleep in for a while on Saturday, get up at 8 o'clock, and have offline English classes in the morning (one-to-two, preparation for pet exam);
2, calligraphy class - Saturday afternoon, offline class;
3, Mathematical Olympiad class - online class, 1 period;
4, other activities - dinner at 5pm, after which children can use "weekly praise stickers to exchange wishes", watch movies, amusement parks, secret rooms, etc., children can choose. I was allowed to stay up late on Saturday and "let myself go".
[Sunday]
1. Programming class - 1 online programming class;
2. Research activities - go to the museum during the day after the programming class on Sunday, etc.;
3. Swimming - 2 hours of swimming on Sunday night .
If study and swimming are also taken as separate courses, then this 9-year-old child will have 10 courses in one weekend.
Everyone can't stand the comments below the video.
Maybe it's because I'm too old to watch such a high-intensity video.
I couldn't help it when I saw "You can have a little lie-in on Saturday, it's almost 8 o'clock" I laughed
I took a nap, this kid has gone to three extracurricular classes
After watching it for a long time, he was still on Friday
I spent a week like this, and this week is the last week of my life
The child's schedule is more intense than mine for the postgraduate entrance examination
Me He started working as a social animal at the age of 24, and he started working as a
Mi Li on the weekends at the age of 10. I feel inferior to him.
Faced with doubts, this Haidian mother also shared her thoughts. She said: Every child and every family situation is different. Some people think that children running around playing games and rolling around in a daze are happy childhoods, but some children just think that Reading books, solving problems, and communicating with mom and dad are happy.
Indeed, education is a very personalized thing, and every family is different. Some have different disciplines, some have specialties, some have on-campus plans, some have international routes, and some have their own children...
This Haidian mother said at the end of the video that "will not be too rolled, and will never lie flat" .
Some people must say that this is not enough...
But if you look carefully, the only courses directly related to the main subjects are Mathematical Olympiad and English, and most of the others are just interest classes.
I took another look and found that they went to an international school, which is right. Because there are public schools and Haidian children who need to go to higher education, parents will definitely take the further education as the orientation when planning. After the third grade, interest classes Only keep at most one project that can be developed into a specialty, otherwise just subtract.
Most of the Haidian Niuwa that Mi Li’s mother has come into contact with and those who have come to Xiaoqiang have no shortcomings in the Mathematical Olympiad. It is also very common for one person to take multiple Mathematical Olympiad classes at the same time. Like the child in the video, an online Mathematical Olympiad class is not a good one at first glance. I joined dz when I was young.
I think that we should carefully refer to the training routes of "other people's children", but we cannot copy them entirely. The success of
Chicken Baby depends half on the parents and half on the children.
For example, the Haidian mother in the video has been raising her children full-time for 10 years., can working mothers compare? The time and energy invested in raising children is a galaxy ahead of us.
Again, there are online critical thinking classes, Mathematical Olympiad classes, programming classes, foreign teachers classes five days a week; offline speech classes, one-to-two pet classes, calligraphy classes, swimming, study at museums, etc. This is just the weekend, no Counting the daily courses, and the fact that I go to an international school, the fees for add up, which is not the daily life of an ordinary family.
Once you have financial resources and time, planning is also very important. No matter what kind of education plan you make for your children, the most important thing is to make it "early". Many things come naturally through habit, and results will only be achieved over time, such as English , Haidian Niuwa usually has excellent or outstanding results in third-grade PET and passes FCE in fifth grade. It’s not early. How can it be done? Even ordinary children can achieve 3k5p if they plan early and execute well (passing ket in third grade and pet in fifth grade).
After talking about parents, let’s talk about the other half of the success of Chicken Baby - children.
Some children are "Beangiu".
For example, there is a child in Mi Li's class who is very good at Mathematical Olympiad. He likes to study math problems since he was a child, and his eyes light up when he solves the problems. Mi Li listens to books when he is idle, and reads Gaosi and Dabaiben when others are idle. is something that God is chasing after you, but we can’t compare to .
Some children are "chicken resistant".
There should be some children around you who are obedient or have high demands on themselves. They will accept whatever courses or classes you sign up for them, and they will do whatever homework you leave for them. That’s why. It is easier to get results. As for how far the child can go in the end, it depends on the planning ability of the parents.
But many children are "naturally rebellious" and use their 800 tricks to battle wits and courage with their old mothers. What can you do?
On the road to raising a child, there is no routine that can be fixed once and for all, and no course or learning product is the best. Everything depends on whether it is suitable or not.
I think we are not qualified to judge how other people raise their children. Over the years of being a mother, I have gradually realized a principle of life: respect the fate of others and avoid being moved by yourself.
However, when it comes to the 9-year-old Haidian child in the video, I still have some different ideas, and I want to have a good chat with you today.
Time planning
Time planning is not about racing against time to arrange one thing after another. It is not about doing more things at a specific time, the better. It is about looking at the process based on the results.
This 9-year-old child from Haidian has a full schedule. He can take so many classes, absorb so much knowledge, learn so many skills, and gain so much experience in one weekend. Is he a master of time management?
But if you want to learn any hobby in depth, you need high-frequency training.
Do you just listen to the teacher in programming classes and Mathematical Olympiad classes? Is the speech class just about learning skills? Is calligraphy class just for one or two hours? To learn well, you need a lot of practice after class ~
So this is why most Haidian children will drop non-essential interest classes after the third grade.
Because you don’t have time to “deliberately practice” , you will only get a taste of it after all.
What is true love?
Everyone will create various opportunities for their children when they are young and try all kinds of interest classes in order to find their true love and expertise.
If a child has been taking classes for a period of time and wants to continue taking classes and doesn’t want to give up, this does not mean that he is interested in everything. Instead, we have to think about whether is too focused on the “play” attribute of these interest classes. , did not guide the child to go down.
Because a person is very interested in something, he will inevitably start to be "exclusive" and make decisive choices.
Let’s take an example from around me.
Mi Li’s mother’s best friend is an Ivy League school mother who graduated from Harvard Medical School and now lives in South Africa. Her daughter Xiao Xi is only 8 years old. She speaks Chinese, English, French and German, and learns violin, piano, swimming, ballet, and various sports... …
Last year, an Ivy League mother shared something: "What should you do when your child decides to follow a path to the end and it is not a conventional path?" ”, Xiao Xi, who was less than 8 years old at the time, gave up swimming, piano, and dancing for 4 years to focus on the violin, and even ignored sports courses such as baseball, because she was afraid of hurting her hands and affecting her playing the piano. .
The eyes that love one thing cannot be hidden.
Because he likes the violin, he firmly gave up everything else.
Therefore, children like and want everything. It may be that they have not really found something they are passionate about.
Many interest classes are more interesting when they first get started in order to motivate children to continue learning. However, whether it is painting, musical instruments, dancing, sports, chess, or programming, requires a long time and boring experience. Only through the process can we reach true love.
Mi Li learned football and fencing when she was a child. Although I think fencing is better and trains reaction ability and coordination, over time, Mi Li's love for football has allowed us to make a choice without any hesitation.
The truth is as simple as that. As children reach senior grades, their time becomes more limited. If they learn two sports at the same time, fencing will take up time for football training and competition, and in the end neither will give their best.
Regarding rewards
Finally, I would like to talk about rewards. In the
video, Haidian's mother said that after dinner on Saturday night, her children could use "weekly praise stickers to exchange wishes", and they could freely choose to watch movies, amusement parks, secret rooms, etc.
I don’t know if you have the same feeling as me when you see this. Watching movies and going to the amusement park, which are standard childhood items, require to redeem them with “praise stickers”. It’s a bit too humble for a child.
I just have to behave well. To be qualified to go to the movies, if you don't perform well and don't have enough "praise stickers", you are not qualified.
This means that parents are the "standard setters" and only if children live under the "parents' standards" can they enjoy the fun of amusement parks and watching movies.
In fact, Mi Li’s mother has shared with you before that the “exchange” of is both “honey” and “poison”.
Because it is "exchanged", children will cherish it more, so they will feel that play is "hard-won", and studying, attending classes and performing well are all in exchange for "free play".
A child's happiness is very simple. Sometimes it's just an ice cream or a small blind box. You don't have to strictly control everything. It seems that if you let him go crazy, play and indulge once, he will be "spoiled".
is really not the case.
If you really want to "redeem", I think a set of original books and a museum study are more worthy of "redeeming rewards", so that children feel that the acquisition of knowledge and the enrichment of the spiritual world of are "hard-won" .
Children's childhood passes by in a hurry. Give them some free time, more time for purposeless fun, more time for parent-child companionship and parent-child interaction... These are the precious memories and valuable wealth of the child's life. children grow up day by day, do it and cherish it!
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