I heard a particularly interesting thing.
A friend of mine has a foreign boyfriend. This boyfriend is from Africa. Speaking of which, he is also my niece’s foreign teacher.
My friend and this African boyfriend were inseparable from each other, and they even reached the stage of discussing marriage. This made my friend's parents very anxious. How could this precious daughter marry in Africa?
Not to mention life, climate, diet, habits, etc., if something happens, there is no one who can help.
But my friend didn't care. He said that his boyfriend was still working here and he was willing to stay and develop here and would not go back.
But there were thousands of objections from her family. In order to prevent the two from getting together, her parents hid her ID card and household registration book, fearing that she would get hot-headed and sneak away behind her parents' back.
My friend thinks my parents are really funny. What age are we in now? Isn’t it normal to marry far away now? Besides, my boyfriend doesn’t want to go back to his hometown to pursue a career. What should I be afraid of?
As a married person, I know that marriage is not about falling in love. As long as there is love, it will last forever. Marriage is more realistic. It includes not only daily necessities, but also children, the elderly, and family.
Like friends, we still need to overcome many things such as region, culture, concepts, customs, etc. The challenges they face will be even greater.
But my friend doesn’t care. So, I told her a story about transnational love.
1: A Chinese girl marries a "black boxing champion"
There was a Chinese girl who lacked everything since she was a child and had good grades. She was admitted to university as a matter of course. After entering college, she wanted to get rid of her parents' control and pursue freedom, so she became obsessed with various sports, especially boxing.
By chance, she saw a boxing match on TV. One of the black players was very skilled and fought very well, which attracted her attention.
This player is called Gelusha. He is a South African boxing champion and often comes to China to compete. The girl became interested in him, started to follow his games, and went to watch every game. And every time I watch, she is the one who cheers the loudest.
The two of them became familiar with each other as soon as they came and went. In addition, Ge Lusha spoke Chinese well and could communicate easily. They soon fell in love.
When it comes to marriage, the girl’s family strongly opposes it, worrying about cultural differences, living habits and other issues.
But the girl is also very determined, and it must be Golusa. She feels that Gelusha is her ideal type, gentle, romantic, and irreplaceable.
Moreover, for her sake, Gelusha is willing to stay in China and not return to the country for development.
Having no choice but to do so, the family finally agreed.
After getting married, Gelusha settled in China, and the two lived happily. They gave birth to two mixed-race babies in three years. The girl is very supportive of Gelusha's boxing career and even uses all her savings to help him open a boxing gym.
Brother Lusha's career is going smoothly and he has won many boxing championships. As a result, his reputation has greatly increased, and he is no longer the unknown boy he was back then.
However, when Gelusha became famous, he began to want to live back in his own country. This made the girl very painful because she did not want to leave her hometown, relatives and friends.
The two of them kept quarreling over this issue. In the end, Gelusha returned to South Africa alone and left the two children with the girl.
Ge Lusha was very popular after returning to China. He soon married a local girl and had a child.
Although this Chinese girl paid a lot for him, in the end she could only live alone with her children and did not remarry. This ending is very disappointing.
2: Why is it not recommended for girls to marry across countries?
It’s not that I don’t recommend that a girl marry far away. There are many people who will live happily even if they find a boy from another place. But I really don’t recommend that girls make a hasty decision to marry across countries.
Because when you decide to leave your homeland and go to a strange country, you may face the following very real problems:
① Cultural differences
Don’t say that cultural differences are not important. On the contrary, many times, cultural differences will make your life worse. There have been drastic changes.
For example, in some cultures, girls must cover themselves tightly when going out, leaving only their eyes exposed. In some cultures, girls must be circumcised.
Can you adapt to these? Can you accept your daughter like this? If you can't adapt or accept it, how do you resolve the misunderstandings and conflicts between husband and wife?
② Language barrier
If you go to a country where the language is different from your native language, you may encounter communication difficulties. Not only does this impact daily life, it can also impact an individual's social and professional development.
When your husband is your only one in your world, you will live very passively, and you may suffer a lot of grievances in your marriage.
③ Without relatives and friends
Being away from home means being far away from the familiar social circle and support system. Such as your family and friends group. The feeling of loneliness and isolation without anyone around you is a very big challenge.
④ Economic dependence
If you are not familiar with the place, coupled with the language barrier, it may be difficult for you to find a job. Then you can only rely on your spouse, and this dependence may limit your choices and freedom.
Marrying far away is a very big challenge. If you firmly believe that this person is your destiny, and you two can overcome all difficulties and live happily together
, then I believe that you will definitely gain happiness.
But if you are confused about whether these problems can be solved, then I advise you to think twice, don’t be hasty, and please think carefully before making a decision.
My friend wants to marry an African boyfriend. What do you think? If this happened to your friend, would you support him?
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