◎Pan Yuyi
1 More than 600 years ago, when Wang Ziyou lived in Shanyin County (today's Shaoxing), one night, there was heavy winter snow. He woke up, opened the door, and found that it was completely white outside. How can we do without wine when we are surrounded by beautiful scenery? He ordered his servants to boil the wine, enjoy the snow and recite poems, which was very pleasant.
With the poem in his eyes and the wine in his belly, Wang Ziyou felt particularly comfortable, especially when he recited Zuo Si's "Zhao Yin", he suddenly remembered his friend Dai Andao who lived in seclusion in Shan County (today's Shengzhou), so he hired a car overnight Boat, ran to see him.
The boatman rowed and rowed, and it took him a whole night's work to reach the door of Diane Road's house. Interestingly, Wang Ziyou only looked at the door and then asked the boatman to return. The servant who was traveling with him was very puzzled and asked him: "Since sir, you miss your friend, why don't you go in and meet him and have a chat?" Wang Ziyou replied: "I wanted to see him, so I came; now I'm here. At the door of his house, I felt that I had fulfilled my wish, so I naturally went back. Why do I have to meet and greet him?"
"I went on a trip to take advantage of my pleasure, but returned when I was exhausted, so why bother to meet him!" These few words fully show the enthusiasm of people from the Wei and Jin Dynasties. Free and easy.
When I was young, I read the allusion of "Visiting Dai on a Snowy Night", and I felt that Wang Ziyou's behavior was extremely satisfying. Come and go as you please, no wonder he is called "the first person to be chic throughout the ages." Later, after experiencing many things, I realized that each of us can do "act as we please".
Some time ago, due to work needs, I went to Beijing on a business trip and stayed for nearly a week. Before I went, I made up my mind to make time to come out and meet my classmates or friends who live in Beijing. But the fact is that until I got on the return flight, I didn’t have a meal with them, and I didn’t even send a message.
The reason is very simple: First, because I have to write materials, listen to instructions, and do some chores at work. It is rare to have my own time. I can't finish the manuscript early in the morning. So I just said, "It's better to meet in person" - more Presumptuous; secondly, I am afraid of disturbing others. Everyone usually has to go to work or even work overtime. The time occupied by gatherings will inevitably increase the burden at other times. As for the weekend, I finally had two days off. Of course, I had to leave time for my family. Maybe I made travel plans early. In comparison, dinner appointments and meetings seemed not that important.
At that moment, I suddenly understood Wang Ziyou. He must have hesitated before, right? Do you want to knock on the door? Is your friend at home? Even if he is here, what should he do if he is still asleep? To wake up, or not to wake up? It’s hard to sleep in during a snowy day. What if a friend gets angry to wake up?
Countless question marks lingered in my mind, unanswered, and finally they condensed into one sentence: "Forget it, forget it, I've been here, and my mind has arrived. It doesn't matter whether I see you or not, so why not just go back." Do it spontaneously. No matter what, there is nothing you can do, just follow your heart and follow your feelings, so that your life will not be wasted!
