Caption: A discussion on female growth was held in Shanghai Bookstore. Source/photo courtesy of interviewee (picture below)
has such a "job" that requires continuous work and does not pay a penny, but countless women choose it willingly. This is, "Mother". Recently, at a new book conference jointly organized by Oriental Publishing Center and Shanghai Bookstore Fuzhou Road Store, the guests at the conference started a discussion about female growth around the topic of how to be a mother.
Caption: The author Yang Jinxin believes that it is okay to "give in" when balancing family and work.
Yang Jinxin, the author of "How We Become Mothers Now", is a PhD in psychology and is also a film and television producer. He needs I am busy with family and work. She admitted that, like many working women, she was constantly asked and asked herself "how to balance career and family", but she did not want to be asked this all the time. “It’s okay to ‘give in’ calmly. Everyone only has 24 hours in a day, and perfect balance is impossible. Only by accepting your own limitations can you gain a sense of relaxation, and have relaxation. Thanks to your hard work, there may be unexpected surprises in your career and parenting." Yang Jinxin said. Liu Peiying, deputy editor-in-chief of
Oriental Publishing Center, believes that women are burdened with too many shackles, and the public's ignorance often pushes mothers into the dilemma of loneliness and powerlessness. She hopes that this book can help mothers discover the ten "mother powers" they are not aware of, including empathy, expressiveness, soft power, self-assignment ability, multi-threading processing ability, etc., and become truly powerful. mother. And when using these powers, there is also skill. For example, women are born with better expressive power, but how to make verbal expression help and lubricate the communication between mother and child, instead of hurting each other? Some mothers like to say, "I'm so good to you," but to their children, it's a kind of "emotional blackmail." Saying "I'm doing it for your own good" is also intentional or unintentional abuse of the child in the name of being good to the child. control.
Why are there more and more “refined egoists” nowadays? How to make children less selfish and utilitarian and grow into warm-hearted people? At the press conference, the famous cultural scholar Bao Pengshan suggested that every mother should be able to "chat aimlessly" and "play interestingly" with her children as much as possible. Pay more attention to life, such as the sense of ritual during holidays. The Qingming Festival is coming. Take your children to visit graves, go for an outing, and take a look at the spring scenery on the way back. Let your children experience the taste of life, relax and relax, and develop a love and attachment to life. If a child doesn’t love life anymore, how can he love others? If a child experiences warmth in the family, he will rely on and cherish this warmth in his future growth and provide warmth to others.
Xinmin Evening News reporter Lu Zihua
