" hot hot " has become the well-deserved topic champion of this Spring Festival. In the movie, the heroine Le Ying's persistence won her dignity and applause; outside the movie, " Jia Ling lost 100 pounds in one year" earned enough traffic for the movie.
On social media, Jia Ling and her weight appear in various postures and continue to become marketing materials. Some people think that "weight loss" became the gimmick of Jia Ling's new movie and also made the movie successful.
In fact, "body anxiety" has always been a hotly discussed topic among people.
Weibo topic "A 88-pound girl can't fit into a size S denim skirt" became a hot search topic, and topics about women's figures such as "a4 waist", "manga legs" and "BM style" triggered widespread discussions. Not only women, but men also suffer from "internal friction" due to problems such as "having a belly, not being tall enough, and having poor posture".
In reality, is a person's struggle with a weight of 200 pounds really as passionate as shown in the movie? Will losing weight make life more fun and put everything into simple mode?
We chatted with kiny, who also weighed more than 200 kilograms and lost 60 kilograms in half a year.
The following is kiny's self-report
01 I lost 60 pounds in half a year
My friend told me that I must watch "Hot and Spicy" because people like me who have lost weight can definitely relate to it. She also said that when I see Jia Ling lose weight like that, I will burst into tears in the cinema.
I think everyone feels from the bottom of their hearts that Leying is great. It's not about losing weight, but she has changed from a person who pleases others and puts all her attention on others, to a person who controls her own destiny and does what she wants to do. I can particularly understand this part of
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Because I have been fat since I was five years old until I was a graduate student. When I was the fattest, I weighed 220 kilograms. I lost 60 kilograms in half a year. Later, I gradually lost weight to 150 kilograms, and the lowest was 125 kilograms.
But since 2020, my weight has been back and forth between 125 kilograms and 160 kilograms.
In this process of repeated torture, I have tasted all the ups and downs.
When a girl weighs 220 pounds, her mentality will become very sensitive and cautious. I didn't dare to express my thoughts, for fear that if I said something bad, I would be ignored by others.
I have been troubled by my body shape since I was a child, which also turned me into a "pleasant personality".
People around me like to hang out with good-looking people and like to play with excellent people. At that time, I always thought that because of my shape, I needed to be extra nice to others so that others would play with me.
In order to make my friends willing to go out with me, I will check the air tickets in advance, make travel plans, and bring all the things I may need, even band-aids, toilet water... In short, I just want to bear more.
Because I feel that I have no other bright spots. I can only pay more so that others will be willing to play with me.
I suppress all my negative emotions and dare not tell others. Many small things can also turn into psychological pressure.
There was a friend who promised to celebrate my birthday before, but he didn't show up in the end. Although I was very sad, I didn't dare to tell him, for fear that if I told him, the friends I finally made would alienate me.
I feel insecure because of my figure, but people always need to do something to meet their own safety needs, so I hope that I can take more responsibility and take care of everyone to make up for the fact that I am not so good-looking. thing.
Screenshot of "Hot and Spicy"
02
The "Maliciousness" of Life:
The Elephant in the Room
I have always had good grades since I was a child, and I have many very friendly friends who sincerely appreciate my inner self, which has somewhat reduced my figure. The pressure I bring.
But as I grow older and go out of my family and campus, I clearly feel that a person's external image can also influence some things.
I remember the summer when my weight was still 220 pounds. I was doing a summer internship and I applied for a position at the company headquarters.Although my grades were good enough, someone still came to me for coordination later and asked me if I could accept an internship at a branch in other places. The
incident really made me feel aggrieved. Because later I learned that there were people who were not as good as me but had better appearance than me, and they stayed at the headquarters as an interns as they wished.
I thought for a long time from the perspective of the person who didn’t admit me: maybe the headquarters often has department leaders inspecting it, and they were afraid of criticism from the leaders. Why did they admit such a fat girl?
Of course, I can understand their approach - if the employees are too fat and their image is too bad, it may affect the company's image.
Screenshot of "Slimming Men and Women"
The body shape thing is like the elephant in the room. Everyone knows it, but it is also kept secret.
In relationships, I once had very little confidence. I would think that boys would like thinner girls, but this is not entirely my guess.
I remember playing truth or dare with a boy I had a crush on. When asked about a boy’s ideal type, he would say someone with good looks or a good personality.
Of course I can understand this - boys will care more or less about their body shape. After all, falling in love requires both inner and outer appreciation.
03
A marathon:
I am always on the way to gaining weight and then losing weight.
After graduating from college, I went to Europe to study.
The "bad" diet and climate made my weight even more exaggerated, but being abroad and hanging out with friends, I didn't have any body anxiety.
After returning to China, during the half-year period when I was waiting to join the job, I had nothing serious to do anyway, so I decided to start losing weight.
With my previous internship experience, I know that after entering the workplace, many things can be grasped not just by strength, so I think it is necessary to improve my image.
In addition, I really liked a boy at the time. He liked my personality, but I felt that he might be a little concerned about my figure.
Many opportunities came together, and weight loss was officially launched.
Netizens have shared their own weight loss experiences.
I didn’t set a weight loss plan deliberately. I thought that I would be satisfied if I could reduce my weight to about 160 pounds.
I was young at the time and had a fast metabolism. I insisted on controlling my diet and exercised, and I actually lost weight visibly.
's diet is basically protein plus vegetables, with very little carbohydrates and only one meal at noon.
During the epidemic, the company asked everyone to work from home. I would eat two proteins and drink a cup of coffee every day after getting up and start exercising. I would follow fitness apps or exercise videos found online.
After losing weight, I really feel that I am getting better and better looking, and the range of clothes I can wear is getting wider and wider. I can finally wear floral skirts that I couldn't wear before, and size M jeans that I didn't dare to think of.
After successfully losing weight, Jia Ling wore an evening dress
Everyone reported that my weight loss effect was obvious. I successfully joined my favorite company and look forward to a new look for myself.
But problems also came one after another. During that time, I was actually not happy in my heart.
After losing weight, carbohydrates will be reduced, and you must go to bed very early, otherwise you will be very tired. Eating less carbohydrates and doing more exercise will also make the whole person's mood and state very down, making it impossible to maintain a high-intensity work and life state.
Looking back, during the weight loss process, except for the happiness brought by external praise, the rest of the time was painful. This pain is not only due to the inability to eat carbohydrates, but also partly due to the reduction in physical and mental energy supply.
And hunger spreads. One part gradually erodes other aspects of you, just like Le Ying in "Hot and Spicy", where her life, career and relationships are all overturned.
I still want to have a sense of control over my life. During that time, I studied, worked, exercised, and met with friends as usual, but I didn’t have dinner dates.
will chew gum when he is really hungry, or force himself to do something else.
When I'm in a bad mood, I watch some "chick" movies, such as " Legally Blonde ", " Heart Beating ", and eat "electronic mustard" to make me feel happy.But when I see the dinner party scene in "Friends", I feel particularly uncomfortable and try not to watch them eat.
A netizen shared his journey of losing weight.
He persisted and gradually lost weight. But there is still a problem, that is, it is easy to regain weight.
Losing weight is like an endless marathon.
Eating a "cheat meal" occasionally or having a meal on some occasion can satisfy yourself in stages, but you cannot leave the weight loss state for a long time. Losing weight requires strong inertia. If you don’t recognize this lifestyle, it will be difficult to stick to it for a long time.
After exercising during the day, you will feel like, "No, I am so tired today, I need to eat something, otherwise I will not be happy this day."; If you eat enough the day before, it will be even more uncomfortable if you are hungry later.
Sometimes I will overeat when I am too hungry. I will definitely regret it the next day. Why did I eat so much?
Since I started losing weight, I have embarked on a cautious path, often "struggle" at both ends of the scale pointer: I gained 20 pounds in the past 3 months, and then spent another 3 months losing 20 pounds. I may have gained another 10 pounds in 3 months...
A picture of my life: I am either on the way to gain weight or on the way to lose weight. I have never been able to find a particularly balanced state, so I can only keep wandering between uphill and downhill.
Netizens share their weight loss experience
04
I have lost weight,
but still don’t have a boyfriend
The life after losing weight still seems to be different from what I expected.
When I first lost weight, although I could wear clothes that I had never thought of before, I still didn’t have a boyfriend.
At that time, I was very confused and would fall into self-doubt: Why don’t the people I like like me? Is it because I'm too heavy? Is it because I don’t look good? Do I not meet their aesthetic requirements? My family members are also urging me, saying, "You are too old to get married or have children."
I want a boyfriend who appreciates me, a beautiful relationship, and a stable marriage partner. Even with such a simple wish, no one would satisfy me.
It seems that most people's aesthetics is to find someone good-looking, but I have lost weight and become more beautiful. Why is there still no one who can appreciate me?
At that stage, I was crazy about getting to know more people. During a team board game event, I met a boy. Later he expressed his affection for me and I fell in love with him soon.
He also became my first boyfriend.
He is very tall and fat. I never asked him his real weight until we broke up, and I didn’t know either. I think he may also be a person with a strong self-esteem, and weight may be a difficult topic to discuss between us.
His work sounds very impressive, but because he is very busy, he often does not reply to my messages. At that time, I was eager to fall in love and didn't care so much. Later it was discovered that this person really had a character flaw and often avoided communication, and the contact gradually decreased. We had only been together for two or three months when many friends and colleagues advised me to break up quickly.
But I dare not listen to advice. I am too afraid that after breaking up with this person, no one will like me.
Comparison of Jia Ling before and after she lost weight
I was already 30 years old at the time. I knew that my age and appearance no longer had much leverage in the marriage and love market, and I would be afraid that I would never meet someone who likes me again.
I barely managed to survive this terrible relationship for a year, but eventually we broke up.
Later, my colleagues and friends encouraged me - "You have to believe that you can live your own life!"
I also had this mentality at the time, and after we broke up, I began to learn to focus more on my own life.
Screenshot of "Hot and Spicy"
05
Being thin is not the end of my life
When I met my husband, I weighed 160 pounds. When I received my certificate six months ago, I reduced it to 140 pounds. Recently, I have gained back 160 pounds while working overtime.
He never cared much about my appearance.I remember he said that I was cute and had a good personality, and he thought we were compatible in every aspect.
After I got together with him, I showed him photos before I lost weight. He thought I was very perseverant and he admired me very much.
We all have similar love stories, but whenever I have to eat, I avoid high-calorie foods. We have also developed some date plans that don’t require eating, such as walking and chatting, doing crafts together, playing board games, and dancing Pamela.
Later, we successfully decided to get married.
Liu Genghong's aerobics is the training choice for many people who want to lose weight.
Changes always need a strong opportunity to promote. Last summer, I once again ignited my fighting spirit to lose weight. I wanted to weigh 140 pounds when I took the photo for the certificate, which would make me more photogenic.
During that time, I took meal replacement powder for three days, and then boiled vegetables for three days. Use scraping and foot soaking to speed up circulation. Finally, I saw that my weight was decreasing day by day, and the photos I took looked better, which made me feel quite happy.
This year, I am preparing to lose weight again. The reason is that I want to have a baby, so I need to regulate my body and not be too fat.
Without these opportunities, I can't imagine what I would be like.
After experiencing repeated weight gain and weight loss, I would set an upper limit for my weight in my mind. If it exceeds the limit, I will warn myself that "I can't do it anymore" and "we need to control it in time."
My upper limit is about 160 pounds. If I exceed that line, I will feel very insecure. Only under that weight will I feel more confident in my life, and I will feel natural when I make jokes about my body with others. , I will feel very uncomfortable after exceeding it.
Classic Barbie's "standard" beauty
Until now, I am still used to subconsciously looking for my own image in other people's eyes and seeking their approval.
But in the process of losing weight, I am also slowly becoming mature. Start learning to reconcile with yourself and become self-consistent. I would remind myself not to get too hung up on the number on the scale, but to pay more attention to my physical and mental health.
I began to gradually realize that losing weight physically was not the end of weight loss, let alone the end of my life.
In this era where we are full of anxiety and fear about our body, self and environment, only when I realize that I am a good person and can live my own life will my life get back on track.
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writing | Beijing Youth Daily reporter Zhang Zhiyi Intern Bai Yueyao
Coordinator | Lin Yan Zhang Bin
pictures | Internet screenshots
