author | Cherry
editor | Xiang Wanwan
"I haven't seen my sister for more than a year. I only found out she gave birth to a daughter after watching the news."
This is what Nicholas Tse said in an interview with reporters in 2019 .
On June 2, 2019, Nicholas Tse's sister Xie Tingting posted on social platforms that her daughter was 100 days old, but she did not mention a word about the child's father.
At that time, public opinion exploded, and the entry of 37-year-old Xie Tingting who gave birth to a daughter out of wedlock became a hot search topic.
Xie Tingting's family knew nothing about this matter before. Her brother Nicholas Tse also found out about her sister's unmarried birth of a daughter through reports.
Xie Tingting is well-known in the industry. She has dated many boyfriends and they were basically seamless. The longest relationship lasted for 4 years, but ended up breaking up.
No one thought that Xie Tingting would eventually choose to have a daughter out of wedlock.
1, Her parents were divorced and she grew up in an environment lacking love.
Xie Tingting has been in the spotlight since she was born.
Her father was Tse Yin, a well-known star in Hong Kong at that time, and her mother was Deborah, the first Miss Hong Kong champion in Hong Kong.
As the second generation of celebrities, she and her brother Nicholas Tse have lived in the spotlight since childhood.
Her parents brought her infinite glory, but at the same time they also brought her infinite loneliness.
Her parents are busy with their own careers and rarely accompany her. Xie Tingting rarely felt family affection during her childhood, which created her insecurity.
When Xie Tingting was 13 years old, the accumulated conflicts between her parents broke out.
During that time, Xie Xian and Deborah often had fierce quarrels.
Xie Tingting saw her father's yelling, her mother's hysteria, and the family discord, which made her feel even more painful and tormented.
But there was nothing she could do.
Eventually, the parents' marriage broke down and the two went their separate ways.
Her father took her brother to stay in Hong Kong to develop, while her mother took her to Canada.
From then on, she stayed away from her father, her brother, and the place where she had been living.
After arriving in Canada, Xie Tingting faced a new and unfamiliar environment.
Her mother Deborah is still busy with her career and neglects to discipline her. And soon my mother had a new relationship and started a new family.
This was a big blow to Xie Tingting. After leaving her father and brother, her mother had a new family. She seemed to be an unwanted child.
The unhappiness of her family has brought psychological trauma to Xie Tingting. In addition, she has lived in Canada for a long time and is deeply influenced by Western ideas.
She keeps dating boyfriends and starting new relationships again and again, maybe because she wants to find the love she missed in childhood.
2, The marriage and love experiences of her parents and brother had a profound impact on her.
Xie Tingting's father, Xie Xian, was a popular Hong Kong star from the 1960s to the 1980s. His role as Xiao Shiyilang captured the hearts of millions of girls. At the same time, he is also the only one who dares to joke in front of the boss Xiang Huaqiang.
Xie Xian has been married twice. His first wife was Zhen Zhen, Taiwan's first generation "Qiong Girl". Their marriage lasted for 3 years and eventually separated.
Later, Xie Xian met Deborah, and the two soon entered the palace of marriage, and then Nicholas Tse and Xie Tingting were born one after another.
I thought I had a happy family with two children, but I didn’t expect that the marriage lasted for 16 years, and Xie Xian and Deborah eventually divorced.
After Deborah, Xie Xian never married again, but he formed a de facto marriage with Coco, who is 49 years younger than him.
coco is almost the same age as Nicholas Tse. It is hard to imagine how Xie Tingting would face this stepmother who is less than 10 years older than herself.
After Xie Xian and Coco lived together for 12 years, he gave Coco a breakup fee of 20 million and ended the relationship in the name of not wanting to delay her.
The father's attitude towards relationships and marriage has deeply affected a pair of children.
As the first-generation Miss Hong Kong champion, Xie Tingting’s mother, Deborah, was as beautiful as a flower and naturally had no shortage of suitors around her.
After divorcing Xie Tingting’s father, she quickly entered the marriage hall again.
Deborah, who has lived in Canada for a long time, is even more supportive of her daughter Xie Tingting's continuous dating of new boyfriends, which also makes Xie Tingting change boyfriends one after another without any scruples.
Xie Tingting's brother Nicholas Tse is even more undecided between two women.
Faye Wong is Nicholas Tse's first love. Xie Tingting said that her brother's idol when he was a student was Faye Wong. His bedside was covered with photos of Faye Wong.
But this relationship is controversial because Faye Wong is 10 years older than Nicholas Tse.
As expected, this relationship ended in failure.
Later, Nicholas Tse met Cecilia Cheung, and the two successfully entered into marriage. Cecilia Cheung even gave birth to two sons for Nicholas Tse.
But this marriage only lasted for 6 years, and the two broke up and divorced.
After the divorce, Nicholas Tse and his ex-girlfriend Faye Wong got together again. Although the two did not obtain a marriage certificate, they have been living together.
The attitude of her closest family members towards relationships and marriage has profoundly affected Xie Tingting's thoughts and behavioral choices.
3 Having a daughter out of wedlock, seamless connection, rich emotional experience
As a second-generation star, Xie Tingting should have the same bright stardom as her brother Nicholas Tse.
But in the entertainment industry, she does not have the fame and works that can match her father and brother.
Even when she entered the modeling industry, she was already 26 years old.
This age is already quite old for female stars who want to develop in the entertainment industry.
Before the age of 26, Xie Tingting had been engaged in clerical work and lived a nine-to-six life like ordinary people.
Colleagues speak highly of her as friendly, polite and capable.
Due to her family background, Xie Tingting was inevitably criticized when she was outside, but no matter what others said, she shrugged and laughed it off.
She had no choice and no power to change.
Although Xie Tingting only entered the entertainment industry at the age of 26, her love affair started very early.
In 2001, 19-year-old Xie Tingting was photographed dating her boyfriend Bai Enrong.
Xie Tingting has long been accustomed to being followed and photographed. After all, she has been living under the spotlight since she was born.
But her boyfriend at the time, Bai Enrong, had never experienced such a scene. In a fit of anger, Bai Enrong beat the reporter who was filming them, and subsequently got involved in a lawsuit.
This allowed Xie Tingting to see Bai Enrong's emotional flaws. She stepped forward to help Bai Enrong resolve the lawsuit, and then broke up.
How could the Xie family’s precious daughter be wronged by someone who is emotionally unstable and possibly violent?
In 2004, 22-year-old Xie Tingting was photographed going to a nightclub with Jackie Chan's son Jaycee Chan, and then there were rumors of an affair between the two.
However, neither party responded to this matter.
Another person who was rumored to have an affair in the same year was Chen Hongye, a rising youngster who was photographed traveling with Xie Tingting.
But for these two people, Xie Tingting has never publicly admitted their relationship.
In 2005, 23-year-old Xie Tingting and her boyfriend Alexander kissed passionately on the street. However, the relationship lasted less than a year and the two broke up because Alexander wanted to return to New Zealand to study.
Later, Xie Tingting fell in love with the Hollywood actor Oledo, and the two separated in less than a year.
Falling in love and breaking up in a short period of time are as commonplace for Xie Tingting.
Every subsequent year, Xie Tingting would start a relationship with a different man, and then end the relationship in less than a year. During
, when she had a boyfriend, she had no scruples in having private meetings with other men.
In 2009, 27-year-old Xie Tingting started a relationship with An Zhijie. This was her longest relationship, lasting 4 years.
Her father Xie Xian also expressed satisfaction with An Zhijie.
Xie Tingting seems to have found true love, and netizens are waiting for the two to achieve success.
Unexpectedly, in 2013, the two officially announced their breakup, and An Zhijie eventually married someone else.
In the following years, Xie Tingting had no romance rumors, maybe because she no longer had hope for love.
In 2019, Xie Tingting suddenly posted photos of her daughter’s 100th day on social networks.
In the photo, Xie Tingting’s big hand holds her daughter’s small hand. She said that her daughter is the brightest light in her life.
Netizens have made many guesses about who the father of the child is, but so far no results have been found.
Perhaps due to family influence, 37-year-old Xie Tingting chose not to get married and raise her daughter alone.
4. An unfortunate person spends his life healing his childhood
Xie Tingting’s family has brought her infinite glory and wealth.
She has easily obtained the wealth and fame that ordinary people may not get after working hard for a lifetime, but she also has to bear the risk of her life privacy being exposed at any time, and the public's negative public opinion being invaded at any time.
In the face of huge wealth and huge interests, both family affection and love appear to be in danger.
The family of his parents is fragmented. His father Xie Xian is not married but still lives in a de facto marriage with other women. The same is true for his brother Xie Tingfeng.
For Xie Tingting, what is the meaning of family?
Is it the pain caused by being separated from your father and brother for a long time, or the loneliness after your mother re-established a family, or the sense of security and novelty brought by constantly looking for boyfriends?
We have no way of knowing.
But Xie Tingting did not even inform her family that she was pregnant and had a baby girl.
's brother Nicholas Tse learned of the incident through news reports, and his father Xie Xian was furious when he learned of the incident.
What kind of family relationship is it that makes Xie Tingting choose to announce the good news of her daughter on social platforms rather than telling her relatives about it in private?
Maybe in her heart, family has never been a source of sustenance, but a pain.
Xie Tingting said that her daughter is the brightest light in her life.
Since the birth of her daughter, Xie Tingting has devoted herself to her daughter, and there have been no romance scandals.
She devoted all her love to her daughter. She proactively established contact with her parents and brother, hoping that her daughter would live in a happy family.
Although my daughter does not have a father, her grandfather, grandmother and uncle will give her more love.
In the process of raising her daughter, Xie Tingting seemed to have "raised" herself again.
may not have so much wealth and honor, but she must give her daughter enough care and companionship so that her daughter can grow up happily in a world full of love.
Unfortunate people spend their lives healing their childhood. Xie Tingting lacked love when she was growing up. She did not get enough warmth from her family and she lacked a sense of security.
The arrival of her daughter gave her the opportunity to "make up for herself" and allowed her to find the brightest light in her life.
is written at the end
In the eyes of outsiders, the relationship and marriage of Xie Tingting's family have failed.
Father Xie Xian, brother Xie Tingfeng, and sister Xie Tingting, the three of them are still unmarried, but some of them have partners, some have daughters, and some have daughters. They do not have a sound family in the secular sense.
Nicholas Tse said: "Only two people know about relationships. Don't get the truth from reports, and don't get the truth from the third or fourth person."
Outsiders really don't know what the two people are thinking. They can only See the results on the surface.
After having her daughter, Xie Tingting lived a very happy life and often took her daughter out to play.
Outsiders cannot interfere in emotional matters, but no matter what, I wish her more and more happiness!
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