Freedom is when you stand alone,
not attached or afraid.
Author: Insight mk
A while ago, Chen Daoming was on the hot search again.
The reason is that at a large awards ceremony, 68-year-old Chen Daoming actually sat among many celebrities such as Andy Lau and Tony Leung.
You must know that the entertainment industry always likes to rank according to seniority. Being able to sit in this position shows Chen Daoming's status in the circle.
This made many netizens exclaim: I didn’t expect Chen Daoming to be so awesome.
Indeed, in the flashy entertainment circle, Chen Daoming is too low-key.
has been working in the industry for decades and rarely attends peer gatherings and rarely attends business events.
Most of the time, he prefers to stay at home alone, reading and playing the piano.
is a loner, which is his normal state.
Some people think that such a life is too monotonous, but Chen Daoming is content with it.
Schopenhauer once said: "People are either lonely or vulgar."
People who are used to mixing in the crowd will eventually disappear from the crowd.
Those powerful and extraordinary people have often endured loneliness and loneliness.
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Loneliness is a kind of sobriety
Chen Daoming entered the film and television drama industry after graduating from university.
Because he had no background or connections, he could only play some dispensable supporting roles at first. The performance of
lasted 7 years.
It was not until later that he starred in "Fortress Besieged" and became an instant hit with the role of "Fang Hongjian" that he finally succeeded.
At this time, if it were anyone else, he would definitely seize this opportunity to take on more roles and make a lot of money.
But Chen Daoming is calm and self-possessed. After
became popular, a director wanted to spend a lot of money to invite him to star in his new play.
But after Chen Daoming read the script, he found that the content was very rough and wanted to refuse the role.
The director quickly advised him: "Everyone is filming this way, and the audience likes to watch it, so don't worry about the ratings."
Chen Daoming was furious after hearing this and left without looking back.
And his popularity also passed quickly. For several years, no one asked him to film anymore.
Life became deserted again, but Chen Daoming was not disappointed at all.
He has seen the absurdity and snobbishness of this world, and he also knows that he cannot fit into it.
Then he might as well stay alone and keep his distance from it.
When he is alone, Chen Daoming is also polishing his acting skills.
He read a lot of books to improve his ability to empathize.
even talks to himself late at night, pacing back and forth, trying to figure out the psychology of one of the characters.
In loneliness, his knowledge becomes more and more abundant, his acting skills become more and more proficient, and more and more people like him.
Hamlet once said: "Those who have never felt loneliness can hardly understand the essence of life."
In the noisy world, we can easily lose ourselves.
Loneliness reminds us to go back to the depths of our hearts and see what we really need.
When you figure out what you want, you won't blindly pursue fame and fortune.
Because the real gain must be spiritual.
The lonelier the person is, the more sober he is.
Being willing to sit on the bench and resist temptation is the beginning of a person's success.
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Loneliness is a kind of richness
There is a topic on Zhihu:
"What are the characteristics of people who have no meaning?"
One of the answers received high approval:
"Likes to squeeze into crowds of people, chirping and croaking. , cannot live without the attention of others for a moment.
Because mediocre and boring people want to find a sense of existence in the excitement."
If you observe life carefully, you will find that this is indeed the case.
The more empty-headed a person is, the more they like to exchange glasses and talk in public.
And really interesting people like to be alone.
Chen Daoming is notoriously unsociable in the industry.
In an interview, he bluntly said that socializing is a kind of torture for him:
"A group of people are drunk. They say one sentence to you four or five times, and hand you a business card seven or eight times. I I feel very angry and very annoyed."
He stays at home most of the time after work.
His home in Beijing can be called a small library.
At home, his favorite thing is to make a cup of tea and read slowly.
In addition to reading, he also likes to practice calligraphy, play the piano, and paint.
In his self-study day after day, Chen Daoming developed these hobbies to the extreme.
Even Ji Xianlin praised him, saying that his literary level was enough to serve as a graduate tutor at Peking University.
There is a saying that goes well: "Mediocre people use excitement to fill their emptiness, smart people use solitude to achieve themselves."
Living in isolation will certainly be a bit depressing.
But real achievements are often gained from loneliness.
When Lu Yao was writing "The Ordinary World", he lived alone in the wilderness for several years.
In the vast world, there were only two mice accompanying him.
Although Lu Yao felt painful, he still forced himself to calm down and focus on creation.
In the monotonous years, he carefully designed his works and wrote this shocking masterpiece.
Oprah once said: "All those times alone determine what kind of people we become."
Loneliness is the best value-added period.
When you are alone, you can calm down and do what you like to your heart's content.
Or grow flowers and grass, be with nature, and get rid of impetuousness;
Or read famous works, and slowly nourish your soul under the influence of literature.
When you endure the long loneliness, you can build a rich and interesting spiritual world in your heart.
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Loneliness is a powerful
Chen Daoming encountered a lot of controversy in his early years.
Some people said that he was arrogant and arrogant because he did not want to attend the event.
When he pointed out the problems of his co-stars, some people called him a "drama tyrant" who loved to act like a celebrity;
When he acted with other well-known actresses, the media picked on him and said he had a bad style.
In the face of overwhelming rumors, Chen Daoming has never said a word.
He just took care of himself and continued to live a happy and comfortable life.
time finally proved everything.
Nowadays, Chen Daoming's acting skills have been recognized by the industry, and his character has also been widely praised. The rumors in the past have been self-confirmed.
Being misunderstood is the fate of the lonely.
Many people in life live by the rules and don't want to see others do something unusual.
If you act independently, you are doomed to accept criticism from the world.
There is such a peasant woman who got married at the age of 20 and started a life with her face facing the loess and her back facing the sky.
But she was unwilling to be trapped in the mountains and had a dream of writing.
She seizes every opportunity to write. Whether it is in the fields or at a brick construction site, she will jot down her daily routine into her mobile phone.
These actions attracted ridicule and ostracism from the villagers.
Others think she is an outlier, unruly and wishful thinking.
The woman didn't care at all. In 6 years, she used up 7 mobile phones and typed hundreds of thousands of words.
's hard work paid off, and eventually her prose was successfully published in "Yellow River Literature" and she also successfully joined the Chinese Writers Association.
This woman is Ma Huijuan, the "thumb writer".
Senior actor Chen Jin once said: "Freedom is when you stand alone, without attachment or fear."
A lonely person does not follow the customs and is not carried around.
They are magnanimous in their hearts and firm in their beliefs. As long as they believe in one thing, they will remove all obstacles and face difficulties.
Cattle and sheep are in herds, but tigers and wolves walk alone.
If you want to stand out, don't be afraid of being isolated.
Just do the things you are doing right now, quietly improve your abilities, and cultivate a strong heart.
In the days to come, please move forward with determination. Walking through loneliness is the dawn.
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Chen Guo once said: "Lonely people show a kind of harmonious nobility."
People should live their whole life and live it to the fullest.
Instead of trying to flatter and pretend to be gregarious, it is better to be alone and strengthen yourself.
In the days to come, I hope you can also look inward, cultivate inwardly, and not be tired of fame and fortune, nor be trapped by success or failure.
Shake hands with loneliness and enjoy the joy of being alone.
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