Dangdang.com's marriage drama between Li Guoqing and Yu Yu is in full swing.
originally thought it was a grievance from giants, but unexpectedly turned into a situation where the web articles dare not compose it like this.
When the marriage is relieved of the happiness and happiness that we used to be proud of, and now only the evil words after tearing the face are left, we can not help asking: What has happened in the process, and what has destroyed the beauty of love?
The domestic film "Forgot to Understand You" released in 2014 can help us understand this problem.
After watching more "Parents Love" and "Golden Wedding", in fact, such movies can bring us another thought about love and marriage from the reverse.
"Forgetting to Know You"丨2014
Forgetting to Know You
Director / Screenwriter: Quan Ling
Starring: Tao Hong / Guo Xiaodong / Wang Ziyi / Zhang Yibai
Lao Cai (Guo Xiaodong), a laid-off worker, has recently fallen into anxiety. The factory closed down and he wanted to set up the factory to start a business, but he suffered from no capital investment. On the other hand, his relationship with his wife is also in crisis.
wife Cedar (Tao Hong) is a well-known beauty in the town. She was in love with a man named Yang Jiucheng in high school.
Time flies, Yang Jiucheng is now a well-known real estate tycoon. Cedar married Lao Cai and lived an ordinary life guarding a small shop.
Unfortunately, with the popularity of the Internet, photos of couples with the tycoon when Cedar was young began to circulate on the Internet. Although it was just an ordinary group photo, in Lao Cai's eyes, it was the kind of fire that ignited the fire of jealousy. Deep inferiority was also mixed in the fire of jealousy. There are rumors of wives and tycoons circulating in the town, and Lao Cai is helpless to endure all this. What makes Lao Cai more upset is that he has to face not only the "old love" of his wife's beauty, but also a "new love".
The young and handsome Xiao Wu is a taxi driver, and he is also pursuing Cedar with his free and unrestrained personality. Such pursuits and goodwill have even become public secrets in the town.
Faced with various rumors of his wife's "old love" and "new love", Lao Cai gradually went crazy in silence. Inferiority complex, jealousy, and incompetent anger made this man gradually lose control.
He tried to find Xiao Wu for a showdown, but Lao Cai collapsed in front of Xiao Wu. The two people who were supposed to fight hard ended up in tears when Lao Cai slapped himself.
He said to Xiao Wu: "You are so young, can't you find a girl to live your life?"
Faced with Yang Jiucheng, who was already aloof, Lao Cai didn't even have a chance to find someone to show off. This mixed emotion of inferiority and inferiority made him do an incredible thing: He took Cedar to the construction site of real estate tycoon Yang Jiucheng, and committed a marital assault on Cedar. He yelled: I want you to know who your man is.
Although the marriage has become so morbid, violent, and distorted, Cedar saw that Lao Cai, who wanted to stand up, was running around looking for money to start a business. In his heart, he still wanted to help Lao Cai, so she found her ex-boyfriend Yang Jiucheng without telling him. Borrowed 150,000.
Lao Cai took the money from his "rival in love" and started his own business. If everything ends here, maybe the story is another ending.
However, inferiority complex is like a devil, entwining Lao Cai's heart, and it arouses all jealousy and doubt. In the end, he listened to the rumors and suspected that his daughter was born to Yang Jiucheng, and secretly took his daughter for a paternity test. The incident of
completely trampled on Cedar's personality bottom line, so she chose to end this marriage, and the film also ended with this love.
Although the marriage in the movie story is filled with chills, the first impression of the whole movie is hot.
At the beginning of the film, everyone was sweating in the hot summer. In the ordinary and boring life, the sweat dripping on the face seemed to evaporate everyone's anger and passion.
has to say, the starring Tao Hong is really sexy in this movie. Yuji ice bone, sweaty, the whole town expressed its jealousy with embarrassing rumors.
And in such a small town where the folks bowed their heads and did not look up, Cedar was truly helpless.
is older than the cedar surrounded by vulgar wordsTsai is like a clown watched by everyone.
career, he is professional, dedicated, ambitious and capable, but he is facing unemployment;
punches his fist, he can deal with five or six hooligans alone with only minor injuries, but what he tolerates is the humiliation given by the whole town .
Emotionally, he embraced a beautiful woman, but because of inferiority and jealousy, he distorted all the good parts of this marriage. The couple gradually became distrustful of each other, peeping at each other's mobile phones, and suffocating neither of them would take the first step of communication.
Cedar has not derailed from beginning to end, but her pride made her unwilling to explain.
And Lao Cai didn't do anything to be sorry for Cedar, but he just wanted to act as if he didn't care about Cedar.
The emotional rift between the two people turned into a chasm, filled with suspicion and resentment.
When Cedar discovered that Lao Cai secretly took her daughter for a paternity test, she finally decided to divorce. Love needs accumulation, and so does not love. But once you don't love it, it will be overwhelming.
The young Xiao Wu is a character worthy of chewing in the whole film.
Every time Xiao Wu appeared, he stared straight at Cedar-lust, direct, and wished to eat this woman in one bite.
His youth made him dare to face his own lust, dare to pursue the woman he likes, dare to ignore all worldly rules. When he witnessed Lao Cai collapse in front of his own eyes, he smiled confidently. He knew that he had won. He found Cedar with confidence and wanted Cedar to go with him, but Cedar refused.
He was surprised, sad, and puzzled. He understood Lao Cai, who was also a man, but did not understand women.
women need a certain age to understand.
Actually, Cedar didn't strictly refuse Xiao Wu's pursuit of herself, because that was the only bright spot in her life. However, she did not have any further relationship with Xiao Wu. Xiao Wu's thoughtfulness and trust seem to open a skylight to Cedar's life.
But when she wanted to escape for a day and relax by herself, it was her husband’s suspicion—"Where did you go?", "Were you with Xiao Wu last night?", "You and Xiao Wu last night?" Is Yang Jiucheng together?" One by one, he stuck Cedar's heart like an awl.
She can turn a deaf ear to the rumors in the town and reduce her contact with people in the town, but she can't stand her husband's distrust and slander.
What destroyed marriage?
is marriage destroying marriage.
Old Cai is handsome, strong, and full of masculinity. It seems that as long as he loves it once, he can miss it for life. When Cedar was young, he was beautiful and literate. You can imagine how enviable it is to see such a couple in love.
can be wrong, and it is suitable for a man who loves once, but not necessarily suitable for marriage.
Lao Cai is a native worker, a pure worker who posts only vulgar posts in Internet cafes.
When love enters into marriage, his masculinity becomes vulgar, and his vigor becomes violent.
And Cedar is a female literary youth who admires other people's life style. Although she doesn't have much culture, she clings to the pride of independence.
When love enters marriage, her beauty becomes a sin, and her pride becomes a barrier to communication.
This is a marriage that is destined to be unhappy. From the beginning, it was wrong. Whether it is a tycoon or Xiao Wu, everything is just a catalyst for the dissolution of marriage. The name of the film
is called "Forget to Know You".
can be a marriage, sometimes it’s not that I don’t understand, but I understand too much. It's not that you don't understand your lover, but you don't bother to understand your lover.
Marriage is a very extreme thing. Two people are either prosperous or both. Unfortunately, the marriage in the film belongs to the latter.
The marriage of tearing, doubting, and damaging each other is like the open door at the end of the film.
No matter what wind it is, it can easily blow into this home, leaving this home to fall apart and fly apart.
Text/Pippi Film Editor: Xiao Weng
