Gu's mother: "Everything I do is for your own good",
Gu Jiayi: "You didn't let me dance when I was a child, and I didn't dance. Now Gu Lin wants to learn to draw, but you won't let her learn" .
Gu's mother: "I want you to take a detour, I want you to be happy".
Gu Jiayi: "We are not happy. I haven't been happy since you didn't let me dance. My mother is against what I like. Now Gu Lin likes to learn to draw, but you are against it. You want to turn Gu Lin into a The second me, isn't it?"
The topic of education is something that every family must experience. The
TV series "Zhang Weiguo's Summer" shows a mother who intervenes strongly for the well-being of her children. The protagonist of the story, Gu Jiayi, is also a middle-aged man for the well-being of her children.
The child's birth day is the mother's Good Friday. For their own children, it is their own flesh. Every mother wants their future to be smooth and bright. So from a young age children have chosen a path for their life.
I am your mother, will I hurt you? This is the ultimate question!
Gu Jiayi is like that. Gu Jiayi, who is quite talented in dancing, is determined to develop in the direction of dancing. However, her mother believes that dancing is just a hobby and a hobby. Compared with a career like a doctor, which is a worry-free life, the former is completely precarious. Therefore, Gu Jiayi studied medicine under the pressure of her mother.
But when she found out that her mother was interfering in Gu Lin's life again, she couldn't bear it any longer. Because she knows too much how painful it is to do something she doesn't like all her life. So, without telling everyone in the family, she took Gu Lin to the north, and even quit her job in the hospital. She just wanted Gu Lin to fulfill her dream well.
Gu Jiayi is right, so is her mother. Obviously the starting point is good, but why hurt each other? In fact, many times we impose our own ideas on others. We ask others to live as we envisioned. Over time, the person we love the most will no longer have the dream of life, and life will become clear and boring.
psychologist Alfred Adler said, "What matters is not the past, but how you view the past, and our view of the past can be changed."
Maybe we have no way to refuse to grow up in an environment that is not elegant and autonomous, but That will be in the past. As long as we are willing to be better, we will continue to set goals for ourselves and strive to move forward. Every step towards our goals will make us better.