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“人生，除死，无大事。”
这是影片中莫三妹父亲说的话。 At the beginning of the
film, every bit of detail showed us that the undertaker Mo Sanmei lacked a sense of identity with his profession.
was scolded for "eating dead people's food" since he was a child.
"Little Nezha" Wu Xiaowen, in the process of "finding my grandmother", understood the true meaning of death, and also gave the mortician a naive and romantic name: the person who grows stars.
In the process of getting along with Wu Xiaowen, Mo Sanmei successfully reconciled with her career, her father, and herself in the death of sending off others again and again.
The play structure of this film is very interesting.
Every little character has a task, from generating contradictions to resolving them, or promoting the progress of the plot, making the plot full of tension, which brought me great surprises.
01
Bloody breakup
Mo Sanmei was imprisoned for the fight between her sweetheart and the old sixth. After she was released from prison, she has been trying to coax her into her father's shop for a year and open a mother and baby shop for her sweetheart.
Fangben couldn't wait to share the joy with her, but was broken up.
's sweetheart has become an ex-girlfriend, and she is going to marry her enemy, even pregnant with her own enemy's flesh and blood.
"I just want to get married and have a baby. I have a family to rely on, can't I?"
"Why do you think that I can't give you a home or support you."
" what can you do? I can't see your mature appearance at all. I can't even see you as a father ."
These words stabbed Mo Sanmei's lung tube, and he was speechless.
What is maturity?
It seems that many people say this when they break up. It's flooded like a sense of ritual breaking up, and most of it is said by women to men. There is a saying in
that "a man is a boy until he dies", and he is often complimenting a man with a good mentality, always maintaining the mentality of a teenager, and being positive and positive.
But women grow up until they die.
She will be someone else's wife, someone else's daughter-in-law, someone else's mother.
They play many roles in society.
They're always being forced to mature, but it's hard to find themselves.
saw a barrage scolding that ex-girlfriend, what's there to scold? She just wanted a safe home.
Men are teenagers until they die, and games are their refuge.
remembers watching a video posted by a lady in Liuzhou, Guangxi on social platforms. At first, her husband moved to the balcony because he liked smoking and playing games, fearing that it would affect his wife and children.
They have been married for 4 years, and the husband has lived on the balcony for three years. Not participating in everything at home, not even in the child's growth. The salary paid by
every month is not like supporting a family, but more like room and living expenses. Mo Sanmei in the
film is the projection of many people's hearts.
The original him, immature, unresponsible,The inner wall is thicker than the skin, but it still retains the softness of the heart.
02
is disheartened and wants to break up
has been indifferent to others for many years, and has been scolded as a "dead eater", betrayed by his girlfriend, and disheartened, Sanmei Mo, feels that everything in life is not satisfactory, and desperately wants to change her way of life, so Tell the fat couple that they want to break up. Fatty
said to Mo Sanmei: "In the final analysis, you have a problem with your mentality. Who used to be clean. I used to be a thief, but she used to be a hawker. If you are disgusting, everyone really doesn't have to live."
Fatty: "Why do you live so hard, because you look down on yourself."
That's right, Mo Sanmei just looks down on herself, and he has low self-esteem in his bones, so he lives like a hedgehog .
Many times, we feel that we are living in a twisted way, that others look down on us, but in fact, we look down on ourselves.
I have seen a lot of people like this, they feel that their social status is inferior, they will subconsciously show a flattering smile to others, and they will not let their children stand out. Even if their children suffer, they will still hold their children. Go and apologize to others. People like
will be looked down upon, right? Yes, you will feel that he is looking down on himself.
You will say, how can there be so many distinctions between high and low in this world, but this is the basis of his survival until now.
Does he not know what is right and what is wrong? He knew he was suffering too.
But the world didn't teach him how to live, he could only live by his own way.
is like Mo Sanmei, his first survival response is to escape, and his second choice is to treat the world with a fierce face, so that no one will find himself inferior and sad.
03
"At last, he has something he cares about."
Mo Sanmei's father said this with a relieved smile. The underlying words of
are: he has finally grown up, has responsibility, and finally matured, and I, too, can rest assured.
"Parents love their sons, and they have far-reaching plans".
Father knew that he didn't have much time to live, and he always used his own way to sharpen the third son.
In a sense, Mo Sanmei also plays the role of Wu Xiaowen's father.
When Wu Xiaowen didn't want to go to kindergarten, he forced her to go to kindergarten for her own good.
When Wu Xiaowen got into trouble in kindergarten, he was rebellious and didn't bow his head to others, so he bowed and apologized for this.
In a kindergarten parent-child activity, Wu Xiaowen said to Mo Sanmei: "I know, you have been lying to me, I will never see my grandmother again, but I am no longer afraid, because I have a father. "
, I really shed tears every time I watch it.
Mo Sanmei gave Xiaowen a sense of security;
and Xiaowen gave Mo Sanmei a sense of belonging.
Family love is a weakness and an armor.
Grief is used to face death, only love can heal us.
