Recently love dramas have become popular again with women chasing men.
is currently broadcasting " Two People's Small Forest " is a cute female blogger who is chasing Professor Gao Leng.
She chased, and he could not escape. "Please" next door to
is even more ruthless.
The domineering female village owner is forced to marry the second male room (the big room is a cock).
Women marry men, strong buy and strong sell.
The number of ways women chase men is actually very common in film and television dramas.
earlier, there was a white lady who cast spells to leave Xuxian, Zhao Min pursued Zhang Wuji, and later Yuan Xiangqin Minglian Xueba Jiang Zhishu ...
Everyone loves to read this kind of story, not just because it is different from men chasing women tradition of. The main reason for
is that these female images are no longer timid and shy, and their behavior is passive.
is to face his heart openly and dare to love and hate.
But these two dramas, although women chase men.
made me feel a little uncomfortable:
They are afraid of misunderstanding about women's initiative?
When I saw the courtship method of the female protagonist Yu Meiren in "Little Forest", a shocking joke flashed in my mind:
I heard that many sisters like to watch handsome guys and are shy, right?
I am different Because the heroine Yu Meiren ( Yu Shuxin ) 's courtship method is also scary.
I'd like to call it a "deceitful" courtship.
The female protagonist took the initiative to court because of a misunderstanding. Because of the misunderstanding, the male protagonist called her an idiot, and the female protagonist was angry, so she decided to make the other party fall in love with her. The
drama is a typical sweet drama.
, the heroine is chasing people, but it is a gender change, to the extent that she can directly call the police.
The first step: language flirting.
The heroine moved in to be neighbors with the man. On the first day, he sent grapes to the neighbors, but the man didn't accept them, so the heroine blocked his door every day.
as soon as he opens his mouth.
No wonder I sent you grapes so many times
you don't accept
Do you want to see me a few more times? Welcome", isn't it scary?
Even if these words came out of a beautiful woman's mouth, it still made her life feel greasy.
Step two: create misunderstandings.
When the heroine gave something to the hero, the neighbors misunderstood the two as boyfriend and girlfriend.
saw the female protagonist leaning shyly beside the male protagonist, and the male protagonist avoided him subconsciously, so she immediately asked for "he's afraid of life".
directly admitted in disguise, hammering the relationship between the two to death.
took the initiative to stamp the love relationship between the two without the permission of the other party, allowing others to coax and misunderstand.
Isn't that the most annoying childish trick of elementary school? The last time
did this was the "famous scene" in which the female protagonist stalked and publicly framed the male protagonist for molesting her in order to pursue the male protagonist.
just want to persuade these dramas, it's new for women to chase men, but anyway, let's talk about martial arts.
"Little Forest" is the same, Yu Meiren's entanglement with the male protagonist is constantly escalating.
firstDance to the male protagonist's work unit.
The male protagonist went to the library to read a book, and she suddenly appeared beside him with a smile.
The male protagonist went to work in the garden. She quietly hid behind her and handed him tools with a wink.
is literally everywhere.
If it wasn't for Yu Shuxin's cute performance, so "ghosts", people would have to call for help.
and some plots, even to the extent that they can be included in social news.
The poppy woman who can't drink a drop of wine, because she drank two bottles of Huoxiang Zhengqi water, she got drunk and entered the wrong house, broke into the male protagonist's house and fell asleep.
wakes up half-sleep and plays drunk.
You are my prey
Romantic?
No, I'm terrified to think about it.
A drunk woman accidentally broke into a man's house at night, and she didn't know who to call the police for a while.
Poppy turned into a stalker, and the heroine Yu Dengdeng ( Li Qin ) in "Please King" is a full "tough bandit".
courtship is more simple and rude, one word:
grab. The show
actually knows how to hit the audience's cool spots.
In the past, male bandits forced to marry Mrs. Yazhai, but now female bandits can also marry male aunts of Yazhai.
In the past, women wanted three obediences and four virtues, but now male aunts are "not ashamed of their daughter-in-law's three obediences and four virtues."
It squeezes women from men who used to be abhorrent, swaps their genders, and gives women a sense of revenge.
but the problem is here too.
Yu Dengdeng's initiative is actually a replica of the boss-style male chasing female routine.
fell in love with the male protagonist Lu Yan ( Ren Jialun ) at first sight, but he didn't get into the oil and salt, what should he do?
directly drugged him into a daze and carried him back to the stockade.
flirting with Han is also "bandit style".
strides forward, picks his chin, and opens his mouth like an old fritter.
come here, give your father a
's bare mouth molesting is not over yet, but also start to touch.
Your body is pretty good too
After laughing for a while, dance for me again
The male lead suspects the female lead's life experience.
Yu Dengdeng's so-called initiative is nothing but sexual harassment.
So, going back to what I said at the beginning, the reason why the "women chasing men" in the two dramas is uncomfortable is because:
They are like "bosses" who have changed their skins.
It's just that the male Ning has become a female Ning. The underlying logic of
is still occupying, controlling, and forcing.
Therefore, the female image based on this is not only devoid of female characteristics.
Even the meaning of women's active pursuit of love has weakened a bit, and it has been contaminated with a lot of "father flavor".
Some people may think that, after all, these are sweet love dramas and don't need to be too high-level.
No matter how absurd the previous plot is, the male protagonist will be really sweet to the female protagonist in the end.
So, whateverThe protagonist in the play is still the audience in front of the screen, and these scenes can easily be rationalized as candy running in both directions.
Yes, women take the initiative, do they have to target the "Boss"?
We said earlier that the male protagonists in the domestic dramas are sleazy with the female protagonist, and the vulgar scenes of "overlord" are all sugar-coated sexual harassment.
Men are self-righteous and domineering, and are often beautified as "Su".
But now, if you change your gender, the same behavior is called "Sa"?
Of course, I'm not saying that women can't take the initiative to entangle and express their desires.
is just a pity.
Because "women chasing men" is obviously a theme that can well shape the image of women and has a feminist color. The essence of
"women chasing men" is not just the word "active".
goes a step further: what do women gain by taking such initiative?
A good story of "women chasing men" can well show the process of a woman's growth and change.
For example, the classic "Heartbeat". Julie, the heroine in the
movie, fell in love with Bryce at first sight.
And, just because of his good looks.
has bright, compelling eyes.
said entanglement, Julie is also entangled with the male lead.
Since she was a child, she knew how to actively express her good feelings for the male lead.
Julie took the initiative to hold the male lead's hand the first time they met.
Although in the eyes of the male lead, her initiative is an annoyance.
breaking away from Julie's hand and hiding behind his mother was the most manly thing he had ever done.
But the same scene, in Julie's view.
The male protagonist broke free from the holding hand, but he was shy.
even released more enthusiasm for the male protagonist in order to "help him overcome his shyness".
All of this is because Julie has filters on the male lead, so she often misinterprets the male lead's reaction.
According to Julie's dad, it's because she doesn't see the whole picture.
is always approaching each other with enthusiasm, but she has never really understood the male protagonist.
What kind of person is the other party? How does he feel about his feelings? Does he like himself?
Julie knows nothing about it.
It wasn't until she learned that he threw all the eggs she gave him that Julie began to examine her one-way love.
On the surface, the film tells the story of a girl who actively pursues a boy and finds that he also has something unworthy of her liking, so she decisively lets go and turns away.
But what is portrayed inside is actually a process of a girl's self-recognition and self-examination.
Julie is assertive, bold and passionate, and is good at expressing her feelings.
But she didn't know what love was at first.
She just gave and released her enthusiasm, but she never thought about whether the other party was worthy of her liking.
As she grew up, she knew how to change from looking at faces to knowing people.
And after Bryce hurt her twice, Julie stayed away from Bryce in order to maintain her self-esteem.
I really like Jolie's little expression when she bluntly refused to speak to the male protagonist at the dinner party and turned around and snickered.
She finally realized that love is not earned by losing self-esteemof.
depicts Julie's journey from active pursuit of love to self-esteem and self-love, the film establishes an image of a passionate, bold, yet intelligent, independent, self-reflecting girl.
Julie's initiative reflects the cowardice of the boy Bryce.
also paved the way for her later sobriety and introspection.
If women chase men, if they only aim to "win the opponent", it will be narrow.
Women's initiative in love can have richer meanings.
It not only emphasizes women's dominance over their own feelings, but also refutes the decadent concept that women take the initiative to "drop prices".
The word "active" reflects a kind of self-confidence and confidence that follow the heart and no longer passively accept it.
And the brutal reproduction of male routines in the above two dramas just eliminates this meaning.
The message it conveys becomes that you can only be in control of your emotions like a man.
We love to see women chasing men, because we like their self-confidence behind their initiative, neither humble nor arrogant. Qiu Minhe in
"'s witty doctor's life 2" is also a stalker of Yang Shuoheng's love routine.
not only take the initiative to make dinner appointments every three days.
is also full of routines.
For example, deliberately waiting for him after get off work, pretending to meet by chance, rubbing against his car, and creating opportunities for coexistence.
But she's proactive and straightforward without being annoying.
for two reasons.
First, Qiuqiu, as the active party, not only shows his intentions blatantly, but also takes into account the feelings of the other party. Although
often takes the initiative to make dinner appointments, she does not put pressure on the other party, causing trouble. When
invited, he not only handed the other party the steps, but also left a way for himself.
My friend is nearby, it's okay if you don't come
But I still hope that you can come to the professor. Although
takes the initiative to confess, but does not force the other party to respond.
You don't need to reply
I didn't say it to hear your reply
just tell you my thoughts
I have the right to make a reasonable statement, but I don't force you to accept it, give the other party enough time and room to pay attention to yourself.
Secondly, her reaction to the other party was neither humble nor arrogant. Although
confessed five times, he was rejected four times. He was discouraged and annoyed.
But she doesn't feel inferior at all.
When Shuoheng took the initiative to ask her to watch a movie for the first time, her reaction was not the sense of conquest of "I finally won him".
but the uplifting and consolation of "my dream is finally coming true".
To put it bluntly, the purpose of initiative is to create more opportunities to show yourself.
But how to create this opportunity is not also the process of self-presentation?
and Qiuqiu's initiative, just let us see a magnanimous, decent, but also a little persistent and cute woman.
You see, compared to the offensive initiative, the female image presented in this setting of women chasing men is actually more valuable.
she can be Yuan Xiangqin who is more and more brave in "Kiss of Mischief";
is Luo Zhi who is inferior but also proud in " Secret Love: Orange Sheng Huainan ";
is "First Love This Little Thing" ChangeXiao Shui who got better;
...
Every story of "women chasing men" hides the growth and transformation of a woman.
It's not necessarily related to the other party in a way.
is not necessarily about love.
and just about the girls themselves.
Or to be more precise, what these girls pursue may be a specific object or an ideal projection of themselves.
And in the process of getting it, it is the process of getting yourself close and becoming an ideal object.
is also a process of filling the self through love.
Therefore, a good story of "women chasing men", whether it is sweet or not, doesn't really matter.
What matters is whether it allows women to see themselves.
