has recently become obsessed with " Golden Branches and Desires ", especially Rufei , who is completely as good as Huafei in " Zhen Huan Biography ". Needless to say, her beauty is absolutely stunning; Unparalleled resourcefulness, can be regarded as the champion of palace fighting.
did some archaeology on Deng Cuiwen , and found out that she had been a third party before, and got involved in his marriage with Jiang Hua (who played Xia Xueyi in Jade Sword ) because of a play.
At that time, Jiang Hua's wife was already pregnant with a baby, and Deng Cuiwen was blinded by love, so she went shopping and eating together without shyness.
Later, in " Zhiyun Dinner Game ", she talked about her mental journey at that time.
"I think as a third party, she has a very stupid idea. Where are you
You are the right person
I feel like a person who saves others"
Deng Cuiwen's response in "Zhiyun Dinner"
Why does she say it's stupid to think she can save others?
Because when the storm came, she thought she was the firm and the only choice for the other party, and she felt that she was the light to save the other party from fire and water. As a result, as the cheating male protagonist, he and his wife accused her together.
First, the adult world is weighing the pros and cons
Young girls must be wary of those who are older and more senior than you and tell you that they have an unhappy marriage and no love - It is now the 21st century, Freedom of love, freedom of marriage, without love, what kind of marriage would you marry at that time? Moreover, although there is a cooling-off period for divorce, there is always a way to get a divorce. Nine times out of ten,
just wants to induce you to be that "savior".
's best friend mentioned before that a little girl in her company who had just worked for a year or two, declared war on her first partner in the name of love, but the original partner didn't say a word, and her cheating husband just kicked her out of the company and asked HR After changing her position to a district and county, the circle of friends was full of the daily life of a family of three.
As for that little girl, now everyone knows that she "has no self-respect" and resigned the day she was transferred.
The adult world is weighing the pros and cons, why doesn't the other party divorce? Because his wife's family background can help his career, because they have a well-behaved son, and because he is accused of cheating, he will never want to be promoted again in his life.
And why did the other party choose that little girl? Being young is one aspect, but being from a rural area and having no background is the main reason. There is no cost when you want to throw it away.
is like Lin Youyou in " Thirty Only ", she thought she was saving Xu Huanshan , felt that Gu Jia was "abusing" each other, that there was no love between them, it was Gu Jia who used children Bound Xu Huanshan.
What about the result? Xu Huanshan didn't eat dinner because of moderate fatty liver, and he didn't eat Gu Jia or eat it; in the end, it was him who begged hard not to divorce, and Lin Youyou's Virgin Heart only exchanged for a ticket to leave.
The so-called rescue is nothing but the self-motivation of a third party.
2. Adults must have the ability to save themselves
In the world of adults, in the end, we still have to take care of everything by ourselves. We should not be the saviors, but we should not be the ones who wait for others to save.
Life is not a fairy tale, not all princesses kidnapped by dragons are saved by knights.
first heard "fuck you money" from Chinese actress Lucy Liu , she said
"I learned one thing from my father, everything is like a business, so I save money very hard
I call them "fuck you money", when you have this money, something unexpected happens, such as dismissing you or forcing you, you can say "fuck you" like this!
I hope everyone has their own fuck you fund, such as the wife who was declared war above, the reason why she can be calm is because she herself is a professional woman and has a good family. For her, her husband is more like It's an accessory. If the other party really decides to care about the third party, then she must not miss it at all. This is the confidence that work and family give her.
Therefore, if you have less heart of the Virgin, you do not need to save unhappy marriages;
