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"Even if we have DINK for the rest of our lives, we don't want her to care."
This sentence is that Zhang Weichen was asked by his mother-in-law to have a child in Ren Duomei, and proposed "one 500,000, two 1 million" After that, show the attitude.
is sincere enough and confident enough!
However, it is this kind of confidence and sincerity that makes me see the coolness and ruthlessness of this man.
and Zhang Weichen is not as considerate and warm as he is! The first line of
Zhang: "There is no unit that understands my wife as well as I do, I really don't know, what would you do if you didn't have me?" Without you?"
Zhang: "How beautiful, you are born with the ability to manage the house... You will be careful when shopping for food, take a small notebook and write it down, everything in the house is also handled by you, and you pay for water and electricity bills. Jiao, the parents on both sides have you to take care of, I can see it in my eyes, this house will not be clean by itself, and the clothes will not be washed by itself, I really can't bear it, you are called by others outside, how good are you at home? , leisurely! Why do we take the cabbage money and go to the heart of selling white powder?"
's words are sincere and touching, but if I hadn't watched the TV series, I would have May be blinded by Zhang Weichen's sweet words to Ren Duomei. All
Zhang's actions seem to be considerate and caring for his wife, but in his words, he only recognized the advantage of Ren Duomei's ability to handle housework well, and only wanted Ren Duomei to show this.
He said that Ren Duomei left him and didn't know what to do.
To tell the truth, he underestimated Ren Duomei's ability and emotional intelligence. When Ren Duomei handled the gift-giving of Zhang's new leader, you can see Ren Duomei's carefulness and awareness. This ability can be used in the workplace. of.
is just that Ren Duomei, who was trapped in his mind and wanted to take shortcuts, underestimated himself and overestimated marriage.
And judging from the gesture of Zhang's line in this paragraph, he is not as he imagined - the performance is perfect, and if you think about it carefully, there is a creepy feeling.
Zhang's sentence "You are born with the ability to run a house" can be said to have stabbed a knife in the hearts of many housewives.
When a woman is defined by her husband as your ability to handle housework, the man at that moment has already lowered his wife's status. Their mentality has long since become lighthearted.
is like Zhang said - how nice you are at home, free and easy!
is like Ren Duomei's response to her mother-in-law-when she is very free at home, she cautiously refutes her:
"Mom, I didn't let him worry about things at home, he goes to bed earlier than me and wakes up later than me every day... ...I'm not free now? I haven't done a lot of housework at home!"
The hard work and embarrassment of housewives can't be explained in one sentence, after all, the forbearance and pain in it are no better than those of professionals easier!
And after Ren Duomei was rejected in the workplace for the first time, he immediately came forward to comfort her, instead of encouraging her to continue to persevere, but to let her give up and return to the family.
It seems that he hopes that Ren will not be so tired, but why not to achieve his own purpose? The reason why
Ren returned to the workplace was that people around her ignored her dedication - her mother-in-law felt that she had nothing to do, her husband felt that she was living a leisurely life, and even because of this prejudice, they felt that Ren Duomei was incompetent and incompetent, Can only live on them.
Therefore, Ren Duomei's value is constantly underestimated and trampled on, how can she not feel aggrieved?
But what did Zhang think?
He just blindly affirmed that Ren's housework ability is strong, but he did not consider Ren's wishes at all.
It's not that he's not meticulous and can't see his wife's pain.
He is such a keen person who can say "I look at it in my heart", how can he not see what his wife's heart desires - the desire to realize self-worth?
It's just that he feels he needs such a wife nowHis high-quality life and relaxed and happy family atmosphere, so, naturally, he automatically ignores the grievances and pains in his partner's heart.
He doesn't care about Ren, it's kind of cool.
The second line of the line
"Wife, you must know that I will always be on your side when you encounter critical problems. Before I got married, my mother was also very picky, what did she say about you, that you did not have a regular job? , I don't have a local hukou, how can I answer? I told her unequivocally that even if Duomi doesn't work in her life, I am willing to support her.
(Ren Duomei replied: A full-time wife is also a very hard job.)
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Besides, have you ever thought that after giving birth to a child, you will gain weight and your skin will deteriorate. You love beauty so much, why did you suffer such a crime so early? I just hope I go home every day and see When it comes to my beautiful wife, she cooks for me, how good we have lived in the two-person world... I have a virtuous and beautiful wife, and we should all be content." In this paragraph of
, there is too much information and Subtext.
we're here to slap slack.
No. 1, Zhang said how much his mother disliked Ren's origin, and how decisively he answered - how beautiful he is willing to raise for a lifetime.
Maybe on the surface, Zhang has a deep affection for any film; however, when we scrutinize the hidden meaning, we have to marvel at Zhang Weichen's euphemistic but routine language art.
He said how his mother disliked Ren Duomei's low background, and how much he defended her, but it was just a message - your background is so low, I don't dislike it, it shows how much I paid, you should cherish it!
And I married you, I didn't want anything, and now I don't want children, can't you stand on the same side as me? I don't want kids, you can't object! The reason why
, I will deduce like this, lies in Ren Duomei's response - a full-time wife is also a very hard job. :
Although Zhang Weichen's subtext is very obscure, its aggressiveness is self-evident. The sense of superiority and accusation in his words has been accepted by Ren Duomei's subconscious, so she will subconsciously reveal her own Suffering to save the situation, because she sensed the subtext in her husband's words, that is - what a price I paid, you should be content.
Second, Zhang told Ren that having children would make you ugly, so you, who love beauty so much, cannot have children.
's words seem to support Ren Duomei's position of admiring beauty, but in fact, it's just covering up the secret in his heart - he can't have children.
So, every time he passed, he asked Ren Duomei to take emergency contraceptive pills, even though he, as a doctor, knew the harm of this kind of medicine to women's bodies.
Therefore, it is not her who is afraid that Ren Duomei will become ugly, but Zhang Weichen himself, and it is also the life that he is afraid of losing passion because of it.
just, what is Ren Duomei's real thoughts? Does she really not want a child? Is she really afraid of being ugly? No, whenever she saw Ruan Tang's children playing and playing, she felt envious. In fact, she really wanted to have a child in her heart, but Zhang disagreed.
shows Ren Duomei's repression in this relationship.
and Zhang Weichen's coolness lies in this.
He not only allowed himself not to have children, but also asked his wife not to have children. He kept this secret for a long time. As long as others touched it a little, he would be furious. Therefore, Ren Duomei put away the condom, and he was so angry.
He doesn't tell his wife about his own flaws, but asks her to continue to be beautiful and bring him passion, satisfaction and face. A request like
is unfair.
And this is his coolest place - for the sake of his passionate, happy, warm and harmonious family atmosphere, for his own interests and interests, face and self-esteem, he does not tell Ren Duomei the truth, but only wants to unilaterally , depriving a woman of her right to be a mother.
He wants to kill Ren Duomei and let this woman willingly provide herself with the service of a lifetime under her sweet talk, just as he said - you will take care of your parents, clean up the housework, keep your beauty, and provide passion.
Where did his confidence and arrogance come from?
just sees through: Ren Duomei is unwilling to give up a superior life and expects to achieve wealth freedom through marriage.
But it was Ren Duomei's lowness that fueled Zhang Weichen's selfishness and desire.
He doesn't love Ren Duomei, he loves Ren Duomei who can bring him benefits, materialized, and in his heart, because such Ren Duomei is what he wants most, and he is also a step ahead Step by step to shape such a responsibility, use his sweet words to fool her, the purpose is to serve himself and satisfy his own desires.
how scary!
concluded
Zhang Weichen actually doesn't have much affection for Ren Duomei. He wants his wife to keep her youth and shape, to provide him with a comfortable life and to help him avoid the firepower of his parents.
However, what he doesn't want to know is that no matter how much makeup is used, it can't cover the face that is gradually leaving; One day you will also feel a loss of freshness.
's cares about appearance just proves: Zhang Weichen doesn't love Ren Duomei's soul, but expects her to be immortal forever and become a fairy left in the world. He doesn't accept fairy dust, so he is afraid that his wife will become ugly.
And in this marriage, he just covets Ren Duomei's obedient, considerate, well-behaved, sensible, and that beautiful face that can bring him face.
So, the sanctity of marriage is tainted by interests at this moment, and firm love is banished by this reality.
In fact, his marriage is a choice that can maximize his interests under his comprehensive consideration. And his attitude towards this marriage has long been shown - he doesn't love, he just wants to enjoy profit and desire!
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