Huo Zun, an unknown niche singer, was completely out of the circle for betraying his girlfriend for 9 years.
Everyone has always hated Chen Shimei, but is Qin Xianglian completely innocent?
put aside this matter for the time being, just falling in love itself is essentially Zhou Yu's fight against Huang Gai, one willing to fight and one willing to suffer. The ending of love is nothing more than two, one is perfection, the other is ruin.
Although everyone expects a happy ending when starting a relationship, the coin has two sides: A and B. This is a fact, so you must accept reality. Based on this reality,
will know how to stop losses in time.
Therefore, I have a lot of confusion about Chen Lu: I have loved someone for nine years, and he has not given you positive feedback for a long time, so he is not suspicious and does not stop loss?
As Chen Lu herself said, when we first got together, we really loved each other. Indeed, “it’s always wonderful in the beginning.” At that time, it’s normal not to see a man clearly. After all, the hormonal filter is too powerful. .
However, in nine years, there have been so many uncomfortable and unhappy details, such as denying her existence, asking her to cancel the interaction on Weibo... etc., she felt uncomfortable, but did not think deeply. , But totally accept it.
In the past nine years, she has been frugal, but has bought Huo Zun expensive things, and has taken care of his daily life, and Huo Zun has enjoyed it all comfortably.
Is this really normal?
You must know that love itself is a two-way rush.
You are his girlfriend, not his mother. There are many girls around
who have this kind of misunderstanding, thinking that "being good to him is love". Wrong!
The key to attracting others is not to be good to others, but to have irreplaceable value. It is impossible to maintain long-term emotional relationships with bottomless efforts, and only the scarcity of value is the essence of a heart-to-heart.
Once a female friend complained to me that her boyfriend always missed her ex-girlfriend, saying that his ex-girlfriend is a type of ten fingers that does not touch the spring water, and he does not care about his food and drink. I really don’t understand why he misses her!
because her boyfriend is not obsessed with her ex-girlfriend's contribution, but her own charm and value.
In addition, Chen Lu said, "I was originally a person with no big ambitions... Marrying Mr. Huo and having a family and children of our own. This was my only dream and life plan at the time." Childbirth is not considered a big ambition. Getting married and having children is not easier than having a career. Childbirth difficulties, parenting anxiety, marital risk management, etc., are these things not even more difficult?
It is not easy to engage in a career or a family. Women play an important role both in the workplace and in the family, and they all need to work hard and manage them with all their heart.
But Chen Lu even gave up her great career to support Huo Zun's development. This is also a misconception in itself. Who said that you can't engage in a career if you fall in love?
Even if you want to fully support Huo Zun’s career development, you somehow tie him to your own interests and control resources in place, but what about Chen Lu?I didn't do it, which is comparable to doing public welfare undertakings without asking for return.
The problem is, love can’t be reported. It's too difficult to rely on men to realize it.
because men are too realistic!
Zhang Yimou frantically wrote dozens of love letters in order to catch up with his ex-wife Xiao Hua. After the two got married, Xiao Hua got a place for college, but Zhang Yimou's first reaction was that if you go to college, our marriage will definitely be over. So Xiao Hua gave up the opportunity to go to university.
Xiao Hua has always felt that Zhang Yimou has a talent for photography, so he tried various ways to get him learning materials and support him in pursuing his love. Xiao Hua also helped Zhang Yimou get the chance to go to Beiying thanks to his family relationship. Zhang Yimou went without thinking.
Later Zhang Yimou derailed and abandoned Xiao Hua. He claimed that his marriage to Xiao Hua was a mistake he made when he jumped into the line.
Oh, this is the man. From Zheng Shaoqiu to Liu Qiangdong, it is not uncommon.
Huo Zun is even more so!
"I can still stay with her today, and it is a gift to her."
"I think I can find better."
z1 is the end of 1z
z1.
Therefore, Li Bihua wrote in "Green Snake":
"Don't lead a man.
Yes, don't lead him, it's better to love him as he is almost impossible." Once you rise up and wait for an opportunity to break through, you are in danger. No man is willing to sell his life, he always has the ambition to use the money he sells to buy another life."
It’s okay to pursue love, but don’t overestimate men, or say no. Overestimate human nature.
Zhuo Wenjun 's " white-headed chanting " almost everyone can chant two sentences:
"It's sad and sad, you don't need to cry when you marry. I hope to have a heart of love 50zzzzz0, white 3zz35." "Wish to have one person's heart, and the white head will not be separated" has always been regarded as a golden phrase of love.
However, who knows the truth behind the poem? The poem
is actually a break-up poem for a scumbag.
is half of the poem, and the content is "white like snow on a mountain, bright like a moon between clouds. Wen Jun has two meanings, so we must be determined." Translated into the vernacular, true love should be as pure as snow on the mountain. , Yun Jianyue is so bright and clean, now that you have derailed and have two hearts, come to break with you.
At the beginning, Zhuo Wenjun knew heroes wisely, and he married Sima Xiangru , who was among the poor and the poor. As a result, after Sima Xiangru was rich and wealthy, he didn't use his passion and wanted to abandon Zhuo Wenjun.
And the so-called "wish to have one heart, the white head is inseparable", after all, it is Zhuo Wenjun's beautiful hope in the face of broken marriage and love.
compares Zhuo Wenjun's bold pursuit of love and his full devotion to love. What a terrible ending!
Even so, I don’tI want to appeal to girls not to engage in love, because there is nothing wrong with yearning for love and chasing love. What was wrong was that he met a scumbag, but he didn't stop the loss for a long time.
I don’t think that Chen Lu, who has been let down by Huo Zun for nine years, is a miserable world. At least she has seen it clearly now, and she is only 30 years old. She dances so well and has outstanding ability. After this, she is sure Will be reborn from the ashes, become stronger and better.
As long as a woman is cognitively awakened and away from the obstacles of scumbags, the next is a good day.
