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Two days ago, 43-year-old Ma Yili and 44-year-old Mei Ting participated in an event together, and the media subsequently posted a photo and two on the Internet. Group photo of people. The two 40+ women under the lens of
do not show their age at all. They still smile brightly, their eyes are full of stories, but there is no wind and frost on their faces, which surprised many netizens.
are both Mesozoic actresses. Both Ma Yili and Mei Ting can be regarded as young and famous. They have played thousands of roles and won numerous awards for their superb acting skills.
But helplessly, no matter how successful a woman is in her career, everyone is most concerned about her emotional experience and family life.
Female celebrities who have ended a marriage always make people eager to get a glimpse of their life after divorce from their every move.
Both Ma Yili, who announced their divorce not long ago, and Mei Ting, who is already in their second marriage, have never become haggard because of a failed relationship. One of them has found themselves and the other has started a new happiness.
Yeah, what about divorced?
Women who really live beautifully never care about the eyes of others, but dare to choose the life they want, and they all know that people live this life only to please themselves. After
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TV series "My First Half of Life" hit the screen, Ma Yili once posted a Weibo:
met Xia Lin at the age of 30, met Zijun at the age of 40, there is no right or wrong in the first half of life, only growth.
often had to sigh with the magic of fate, whether it is Xia Lin or Luo Zijun, Ma Yili has a similar situation with them.
seems to be talking about the characters in the play, so why not talking about the life outside the play.
In 2007, a "Struggle" made the 30-year-old Ma Yili's career further, and at the same time it also made her reap love.
But the beginning of this relationship is not favored by anyone. When I met Ma Yili, he was just a big boy who just graduated, but Ma Yili has been famous for a long time, not to mention that there is an eight-year age difference between the two, and they are not each other's beloved.
But Ma Yili likes the simplicity and transparency of a big boy in the article. In love, she has the courage of Charlene to fight the fire like moths. Love is love.
In 2008, regardless of the age gap and career disparity between the two, she accepted the pursuit of the article and stepped into the marriage palace resolutely.
However, things are unpredictable and unpredictable. Like Luo Zijun, who was betrayed by marriage in "My First Half of Life", Ma Yili, who was still pregnant, was also pushed to the forefront because of the derailment of the article. After
was silent for a day, she wrote on Weibo: "Although love is easy, marriage is not easy, do it and cherish it", seemingly embarrassed to preserve this marriage.
Many people regret that in the past ten years, Charlene, who once dared to love and hate and was independent and confident, has also become Luo Zijun, who was betrayed by marriage, confused and cowardly.
Actually, she is still that Charlene in her bones.
In July of this year, when everyone thought that the derailment storm was over, and the two began to live a long life, Ma Yili announced his divorce without warning.
This makes many people unable to understand why they have chosen to forgive at the beginning, and now it has been five years, why they divorced instead.
But this is Ma Yili.
They have lived vigorously and sweetly for a few years. Love is true, betrayal is true, and it is true that she wants to give this relationship a chance again.
But when this marriage really has no possibility to continue and can no longer bring her happiness, she really chose to let go.
Later, a reporter asked her how she viewed her first half of her life?
She said:
I always feel that I have a very happy life, every step I take is my hard work, no regrets, no regrets.
filmed, worked out, grew up with her children, and worked hard to manage the family. Even in the most difficult days of marriage and the most violent public opinion, she did not hide behind others, depressed, secretly hurt, but worked harder to find herself.
Looking back at Ma Yili's first half of her life, whether right or wrong, she did follow her inner choices in every step. From marriage to divorce,
has never had to do with other people's opinions, but just one sentence "I like it."
On her birthday this year, Ma Yili sent a vegan selfie with her in the picture, The swelling of the eyes has not disappeared, the skin on the face is no longer white, wrinkles and stains have begun to appear.
She said that she is not perfect, but it is her favorite and most authentic look.
people spend their entire lives, just to live what they like.
The 43-year-old Ma Yili bid farewell to her unhappy marriage in a calm and decent manner, and started the second half of her life with a gesture she likes.
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There is one issue of "Wonderful Flowers", Ma Weiwei said:
If this love is destined to be an imperfect ending, we must learn to face the imperfect ending and say goodbye decently.
Ma Yili did it, and Mei Ting did it too.
Many people met Mei Ting for the first time through the devastated part of Mei Xiangnan in "Don't Talk to Strangers". In
, Mei Ting is a weak wife who has been tortured by domestic violence, but outside the play, she is a person who dares to love and hate, and who dares to be assertive.
was born in a military family and learned to dance since she was a child. She was admitted to the Song and Dance Ensemble of the People's Liberation Army Art Academy at the age of 13.
At the age of 19, she participated in the filming of the TV series "Blood Childhood" by chance. After the first electric shock, she fell in love with the art of performing.
However, she served in the Nanjing Military Region Song and Dance Troupe and was unable to apply for the art academies, so she retired resolutely and chose to take the exam.
In her sophomore year, the "Northern Story" crew invited Mei Ting to play the leading role. Mei Ting carefully considered and signed the contract, but she did not expect that the school was unwilling to release people because she really liked acting and did not want the film crew and the school to be embarrassed. He took the initiative to leave a letter to Teacher Chang Li and dropped out.
From then on, with her talent and hard work, she walked smoothly on the road of acting alone and courageously.
Someone once commented on Mei Ting: There is only the life she wants, not the life she can't get.
This boldness and courage to love things is something that many people have never had.
treats Mei Ting who is acting like this, especially her emotionally.
In 2000, Mei Ting, already a hot actress, met the little-known director Yan Po. They admired each other's talents, fell in love, and married after three months in love.
But this marriage lasted only six years. In 2007, Mei Ting publicly admitted that she had divorced Yanpo.
The news about "Yan Po's derailment" was raging at the time, but Mei Ting, who could have ignored it, stepped up to clarify for her ex-husband:
I think it is the problem of the two of us, and it has nothing to do with the other outsiders. Personality, all aspects, going further down will hurt each other.
put a clean end to this relationship that I have given all.
is also the respect for her feelings that made her not afraid of love because of a failed marriage.
In 2012, when filming the movie "Tuina", Mei Ting met the photographer Zeng Jian. This time, she got married again.
She finally met the person who fits in with her soul. The two got along in harmony and exchange tacit understanding. After marriage, Mei Ting was full of happiness.
She gave birth to two lovely babies, and she felt the novelty of her motherhood.
She also grew up in this relationship to become a more mature herself, learned to love and also learned to enjoy being loved.
, now 44 years old, has a happy marriage and a happy family, but she has not lost her ability to love herself independently.
She never worries about what will happen in the future, but always follows her heart, fights for it if she wants, and loves bravely if she wants to love.
has one and only one life, you should live heartily and let yourself live comfortably and happily. Someone once asked a question on
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on Zhihu:
has been married for more than seven years, should I want to end this relationship, is it a pity? One answer from
is like this:
I think most of the reasons for divorce are nothing more than the relationship that makes you feel tired and painful, and you don't want to keep it going. There is no answer, only thinking about it.
Seven years is a long time, but considering that there will be several seven years in the future, there is no need to be trapped in unhappy emotions, there is nothing to be a pity.
think about it carefully, this is indeed the truth.
In fact, there are a lot of things, there is always only thinking about it, not whether it should be or not.
However, when facing their own lives, too many people will care about the eyes of the outside world and care about the emotional costs that have been invested.
ignores those hesitation and compromise that may cause them greater losses in the future.
Because the society has been telling us all the time:
you must have a good education, find a stable job, get married and have children at your age, and work hard to maintain your marriage after marriage, even if it has already Let you lose your expectations...
seems to be the only way to live a decent and meaningful life.
can be done step by step, can a life that meets the expectations of the public make oneself happy? In fact, not at all.
Xu Jinglei, a talented girl of the generation, will be asked why she doesn't get married and why she has been playing the world even if she has both fame and fortune.
Xu Jinglei once responded on Weibo:
Why should we be educated to be a likable girl, not a person liked by ourselves?
put all the questions and eyes behind, even at 45 years old, she still lives willful:
does not want to marry, so she enjoys love; she does not want to have children for the time being, so she freezes her own eggs;
should make a movie Movies, if you want to act on TV, if you have nothing to do, learn design at home, engage in sewing, and play mahjong...
She has never met the secular expectations of a woman, but she has always been a person loved by herself. .
In fact, when we walk half a life, we will find that those "shoulds" are actually "all":
you can leave a job that is not suitable for you and start a new journey;
you can also end a relationship bravely , To find new happiness;
you can even give up the unhappy life that was constrained in the first half of your life, and work hard to live for yourself.
Rather than please everyone, it is better to please yourself.
is like this, life is even more so.
