Hello everyone, this is Ma Xiangyu.
The most explosive entertainment news of this National Day holiday comes from the Japanese entertainment circle-
"Japanese national actress Ishihara Satomi officially announced the marriage."
This news has shocked Japanese fans as much as the entertainment official of the year. Lu Han and Guan Xiaotong who announced their love affair. How popular is
ten yuan goddess?
, whether she is "the artist who most wants to socialize" or "the female star who Japanese men most want to spend Christmas with", she ranks at the top of the list.
In his acting career, Satomi Ishihara played the role of pure female student Natsui Makoto in the collaboration with Oguri Shun "Rich Man and Poor Woman" , which left a deep impression on the audience. In
's collaboration with Jun Matsumoto, "Chocolate Clerk" changed the previous cute image and played the role of "little fairy" Takahashi Saeko . Since then,
has been trying to break through.
plays the role of female forensic doctor Mikoto Misumi in the phenomenon-level TV series "Unnatural Death" .
plays the role of pharmacist Sungreen in "Cinderella Pharmacist Silently Dedicated" . The outstanding roles of
one after another have made her gain consistent affirmation and love from audiences at home and abroad. The marriage of the goddess
must have broken countless otaku dreams. What makes
more enviable and jealous is the four words "general male" mentioned in the news.
The man who married the goddess is an outside office worker.
This makes the majority of "general men" heartbroken: "Why isn't it me?"
In addition to tearful blessings, Japanese media recently exposed the so-called "Ishihara Rimi reason for marriage", which caused a storm.
According to reports, Rimi Ishihara has a "relationship rule" in order to allow her mother who had suffered from cancer to see her get married.
In a previous interview, Rimi Ishihara also said that children must be filial piety if they let them see that their children belong to happiness before their parents die.
can guess from this, this is the reason why the two announced their marriage soon after they met. After the news of
broke out, netizens have mixed opinions about it. Some netizens at
expressed their understanding that there is nothing wrong with the goddess' desire to obey her mother.
However, some people think that Rimi Ishihara is foolish and filial, and marrying hastily for his mother is irresponsible to himself and the man.
, as a very attractive independent woman in the eyes of the public, she made such a choice is really shocking.
After the matter was fermented, the fans of Rimi Ishihara promptly dispelled the rumors.
The so-called reasons for the marriage of Ishihara Rimi are just fabricated by the media out of context.
She has already expressed her true attitude in previous interviews:
"Honor to parents is not formal, but makes parents feel that even if we are not there, no matter what happens, children can live on their own." Rest assured is the true respect for your parents."
decided to get married because she made sure that the person can share with each other and overcome all difficulties.
is not what the media said just to marry to honor your parents.
Although the rumors have been refuted, netizens who suffered from forced marriage by their parents during the National Day holiday still had heated discussions on the topic of whether should marry for the sake of honoring their parents.
Many people bluntly said "should not".
With the liberation of ideas, young people's right to choose marriage has been greatly improved.
marriage should be for love. Whether
enters into marriage, of course, we must think twice. This is also reflected in
"Data on Chinese Marriage for 31 Years from 1987 to 2017" .
Since 2013, the phenomenon of "late marriage" is obvious, with the largest proportion of citizens registered for marriage in the 25-29 year old age group in the past five years.
In a small survey initiated by the People's Daily Weibo, "not meeting the right person" became the highest proportion of late marriages.
In addition to late marriage, a large number of people choose to enjoy the single life.
Faced with children who have been reluctant to marry, "filial piety" has become a killer for parents on the road to forced marriage.
The "filial piety culture" centered on filial piety to one's parents runs through the five thousand years of history in China.
The Han dynasty scholar Zhao Qi once said in "Annotation to the Thirteen Classics" :
"There are three unfilial people in rituals, and it means that Ayi yielded, fell into unrighteousness, and even was unfilial; , Not for the official position, nor for filial piety; not for marrying without relatives, ancestor worship, and filial piety for three. Among the three of , no queen is the greatest. "
is a theory that connects patriarchy with "filial piety." It is deeply rooted in the thinking of generation after generation.
Almost every generation has suffered under the spiritual oppression of "no one is big". If
doesn't get married and have children, in addition to looking at people's winks, it seems to be a sin to parents and ancestors.
Many young men and women who are financially self-sufficient and able to maintain independent thinking in spirit are defeated in front of this mountain.
For "filial piety," some people were thrown into the siege of marriage in a silly way.
In the film "Wedding Banquet" by the director Lee Ang , the American actor Gao Weitong and his boyfriend Simon live a happy life.
He had been accustomed to using various tricks to deal with the letters or phone calls from his parents in Taipei.
However, when he learned that his father was critically ill, he liked the same sex but decided to "fake marriage" with the female painter Gu Weiwei. In his opinion,
has the best of both worlds.
can not only fulfill the wishes of the parents, but also escape the curse of forced marriage.
In front of his parents who came to the United States to attend the wedding, Gao Weitong had to become a "normal" man in the traditional sense.
But Weiwei accidentally became pregnant with his child, but his relationship with Simon was lit up with a "red light."
and what is even more unexpected is that Gao Weitong’s father actually knows all the truth.
However, he actually took advantage of his son's filial piety and acquiesced in the act of acting on the wrong.
In order to inherit the family and continue the great cause of incense, Father Gao chose to ignore the true happiness of his son.
and some people are trapped in the shackles of the original family for "filial piety."
Zhang Ailing 's work "Half Life" Gu Manlu feels that as the eldest daughter of the family, after the death of her father, she must bear the future life of the whole family.
In order to make money, she became a dancer, and even married a rich husband who often stayed out at night.
In her concept, letting her family lead a good life is her life's pursuit and her greatest filial piety.
But this also made her completely lose the opportunity to live for herself and pursue her own happiness. "filial piety" like
is too heavy.
Among the three "unfilial piety", many people have been pursuing the principle of "no queen is great."
but always deliberately ignores the "unfilial piety" at the very beginning-" Ayi submit."
The filial piety that has no boundaries and does not have an independent view to parents can only be called "duty filial".
if blindlyObedience to your parents will only make your parents' desire for control stronger and stronger.
Those who are willing to be interfered by their parents and are still moved by their filial parents will eventually lose their ability to control their lives.
In recent TV dramas, Fan Shengmei in "Ode to Joy", Fang Sijin in "An Jia", Su Mingyu in "Everything Is Good"... Why not?
In fact, the "good for you" that parents say is not an absolute force of their will.
Regarding the motivation of parents to urge marriage, in the variety show "My Girlfriend", teacher Li Liqun once said:
"Parents in the world want their children to be happy, so getting married or not is just an action."
urges marriage because most Parents believe that marriage is a way to happiness. If
is not true happiness, parents who really love their children will not be relieved.
and as children, do not have to be kidnapped by the stereotyped and pedantic filial piety.
can't depress himself deliberately and obey his parents.
Because the interaction between people is often two-way.
Obedience, evasion, and resistance cannot really solve the problem.
establishes a decent boundary in the communication with parents. Real communication and understanding are the only way to solve problems and interpret "filial piety."
Faced with the urge to marry, you might as well use a sentence from Ishihara Rimi’s previous interview to tell your parents:
“Whether to get married or whether to have children should be decided by yourself. What is happiness is not decided by others, but by others. Judge with your own heart."
