From the tragedy of "mother-in-law killing her daughter-in-law and cutting her head", what should women in marriage learn?
On the way to work early in the morning, I was sitting in the car and I was extremely angry when I saw the tragedy of "Changshu wicked mother-in-law killing daughter-in-law". One is angry about the ferocity of the wicked mother-in-law; second is the cowardly and indifferent of Ma Baonan; third is the weak and incompetent of his daughter-in-law.
z1112zDong was born in Jining. He grew up in poverty. After graduating with a master's degree, he stayed in Changshu and became a university teacher. He also met his wife Xiao Xu, who was also in the same university. His parents were both university professors.
They live in a university dormitory after marriage, with only one room. But what is unbelievable is that Dong's mother in rural Jining moved to her son’s home for the elderly. She lay a floor in front of her son and daughter-in-law’s bed to sleep!
Xiao Xu, who grew up in the city, felt The mother-in-law's behavior was ridiculous, so she told her husband what she thought: It was not that she disliked her mother-in-law, but the young couple needed their own privacy.
But the cowardly Ma Bao Nan Dong Mou dare not defy his mother's life. Besides, in their home village, there is also a tradition: if a son is admitted to university and goes to work, parents without old-age security will proudly follow the old age, even if they are only in their 50s and still have the ability to work.
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Xiao Xu’s professor’s parents couldn’t stand it anymore, they paid for a new house for the young couple, and in order to take care of the son-in-law’s self-esteem, the real estate only wrote the son-in-law’s name. I thought that if my mother-in-law had a separate room to live in, the conflict would be resolved, but I didn't expect that the mother-in-law would still run to the son and daughter-in-law's room to squeeze! This made Xiao Xu intolerable.
Later, Xiao Xu gave birth to a son. Unexpectedly, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law did not ease, but became more tense. "I went to work in the field after giving birth, and you are still lying in bed and doing nothing!" The grudge between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law of
is getting deeper and deeper.
Many times later, Xiao Xu returned late but was locked out of the door by her mother-in-law. He could not get in, so he could only stay overnight in a friend's house or in a car.
z3612zOne day, while the son was on a business trip, the mother-in-law bought gasoline and planned to teach her daughter-in-law a lesson. At that time, Xiao Xu had to review the exam at home, and her mother-in-law watched TV with a loud voice. Xiao Xu angrily asked her mother-in-law to turn down her voice, but her mother-in-law did not listen, but turned the voice louder.
Xiao Xu got angry and unplugged the TV directly. The two quarreled. After arguing with her mother-in-law, she threw the pre-purchased gasoline on her daughter-in-law's face from the toilet, and Xiao Xu lost her weight and slipped. The mother-in-law picked up the kitchen knife and rode on her, stabbed a dozen knives on her neck! Xiao Xu died of bleeding. The mother-in-law
calmly changed her clothes, went out for dinner and surrendered.
The evil mother-in-law was finally sentenced to death and was given the punishment she deserved. But unfortunately, Xiao Xu lost his life meaninglessly.
And that Ma Baonan, shortly after his wife's death, began to ask someone to go on a blind date to find a new wife. Postscript of
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"Mother-in-law killed daughter-in-law" reminds me of the previously popular TV series "Double-sided tape". I was so angry that I couldn't stand it anymore after seeing half of that TV series. Go back to the end.
Don't think that TV shows are exaggerated. Examples of this are everywhere in real life. My advice to you now is:
1. When you are in a relationship, you must ask the man’s family circumstance, and don’t get confused because of love. You can call in your family and friends, go to the man's house for a field trip, and find that something is wrong, stop the loss immediately and withdraw from the relationship.
The signs I said are wrong, and I don’t simply refer to the man’s poor family background. If the family background is not good, you can work hard. If your family’s character is not good, you will suffer hardship later.
2, see if the man is a "mama boy" and if he is obedient to his mother's words. If so, break up as soon as possible and don't know how to die by then.
My mother-in-law is also a nasty person, with all kinds of bad things, and a lot of thoughts, just like the mother-in-law in the article. If we agreed to live with her, it is estimated that our little family would have been divided long ago. But fortunately, my husband does not listen to his mother. My husband has the ability to judge, so this is good to say.
3. If possible, try to find an educated and qualified in-law’s family. Both in-laws have jobs and can give small families a certain amount of capital.Help, and also know how to keep a distance with the young couple, so get along well.
Try to find someone with comparable financial means. If the woman buys a house, write the name of the woman. Don’t write the name of the house you bought for the man’s so-called face. If you can't guarantee a harmonious relationship with your mother-in-law, try not to let her visit your child.
4. If you encounter some unfair treatment in your love and marriage life, you must point it out in time, otherwise people will think you are bullying and you will get worse.
Don't tolerate men beating yourself, not once! When others repeatedly challenge your bottom line, your tolerance will only be exchanged for more unbridled harm.
5. If a woman has sufficient financial capacity, she does not need to have frequent contacts with unqualified mother-in-laws, or even to see her in-laws. If you can accept your husband, live with him, go back to each house and see your own mother.
I remember that the internet celebrity Papi-chan said on a variety show that she and her husband are like this, and neither parents have met, and there is no need to meet. Such a woman can control her own destiny.
Women should learn to say "no" and don't let them be slaughtered.
