reporter Zhang Xiaohan/Comprehensive report
"One Half Strong" regular team member Martin announced his divorce on August 25. His wife Shanon, who has been married for eight years, made her first voice on September 3. She wrote a long article about "Divorce Should I complain or let it go" and said that being a mother must be strong, but this is not reluctance, but to choose the best way for myself and her children, and I do not regret this marriage at all.
▲ Martin and Shanon announced the end of their 8-year marriage, but there will be no change to Anton’s approach. (Photo/Retrieved from Anton Max Ferm-Fang Andong's Facebook)
Shanon confessed that after the divorce news was exposed, he was often asked if you pretended to be strong? But she believes that she is not pretending to be really strong, but necessary, because she is a mother, and she must give Anton a sense of security. When talking about divorced people, there will be occasional complaints. She thinks that such emotions are just not letting go. Live yourself, the best thing now is to let go and live happily.
and Martin have been married for 8 years. Shanon has no regrets for the long period and short period of time. Shanon is also grateful for taking care of each other and working hard to create a warm home during this period of time, for his ex-husband and the family. All of his efforts are willing. Facing the divorce, she thought that they had tried their best, and in the end they both promised to love and take care of Anton for a lifetime.
▲ Shanon has no regrets for his efforts over the past 8 years. (Picture/Retrieved from Anton Max Ferm-Fang Andong Facebook) Although
said so frankly, Shanon confessed that he still cried and cried for 3 days. Because of fear and fear, he felt that he could not give a complete family. I am very sorry for the child, but after calming down and thinking about it, she thinks that even if it is hard to do but the disagreement will not change, the child will not be happy in a family with constant disputes, and she will feel insecure when watching Anton while crying. I changed my mind and clarified: "Our interactions are currently ok, not acting, not deceiving. Although the divorce ended the relationship between husband and wife, we both love Anton very much."
[Full story on Shanon Facebook]
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# Divorce should complain or let go
Many people ask me, do you pretend to be strong?
Actually I must be strong, because I am not a girl anymore, I am a mother, a mother who must give Anton a sense of security. A friend of
also said to me that you are of a god level, so how can you not complain? I can only say that "resentment" is something like ghosts that can get rid of. And now the best way for me and my children is to let go and live happily.
Don't you regret your hard work over the past 8 years? The answer to
is that I do not regret it, and I am grateful for the 8 years of taking care of each other and working hard to create this home. Paying should be willing, and if I ask for return, I will only make myself miserable.
The reasons for divorce in each family are nothing more than the same. Each is similar. At least the two of us have tried our best. We also promised that the other party will love and take care of Anton for a lifetime.
Marriage business is not easy, so I have been taking care of it (please don’t watch the effects of those programs again), none of us is wrong, but everyone is originally an independent individual, and each has a lifestyle he wants to pursue. There will also be different growths, and everyone's values are different. Sometimes letting go and being a friend will last longer. Anton has always been happy, so we agreed to separate before the marriage evolved to the end of the quarrel. My baby will not see and experience those processes.
Are you asking me if I cry? Of course, I have cried for 3 days because I am afraid, fearful, financially pressured, and feel sorry for the child and cannot give him a complete family.
But then think about it, if the children will grow up in a family that is arguing and complaining, will they be happy? During the 2 or 3 days of crying, I also obviously felt that Anton, who was still young, didn’t know what was going on, but he was a little insecure, so I changed my mind. I walked out on the third day, for the sake of the child and myself. .
Our interactions are currently ok, not acting or deceiving. Although the divorce ended the relationship between husband and wife, we all love Anton very much. It will not be because of ending the relationship between husband and wife that Anton will lose love on either side, Anton alwaysIt is our common goal
. We also hope that each other will be able to live well afterwards, live a happy life, and care about each other very much. Now let's be Anton’s mom and Anton’s dad who know each other best
You say, let go, don’t complain. Isn’t that the way to make yourself feel better and minimize the harm to children?
